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i wonder if it is a characteristic of gems to be too proud to ask someone out for instance or to feel vulnerable for example...i have struggled with this for quite some time now...i'm afraid of rejection i guess so i don't ask men out or for their numbers etc...
so is it or is it not?
so is it or is it not?
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 7:27 AMI personally have never had a problem approaching or asking someone out; it doesn't make me feel vulnerable. It sounds to me like you're a bit shy, which generally isn't a typical gemini characteristic. So I'm going to say it is not.
You never know unless you ask; so just go for it girl!!! It will get easier each time :)
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 7:55 AMactually i'm not shy at all...i have a big mouth and make friends easily...like i said it's pride and not wanting to get rejected...the mere possibility of getting rejected freaks me out...i will and can easily talk to someone but asking them out NO...
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 8:42 AMseems like you just answered your own question....
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 8:49 AMactually the question Joani is "are we too proud?" not "am i too proud?"
i know i am...this a gemini discussion NO? i was curious about other gems...hence, tribe discussion... -
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 9:14 AMare you sure you're not a leo? :) -
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Re: are we too proud?
Fri, January 11, 2008 - 1:16 PMno not a leo at all...scorpio rising, taurus moon, cancer venus, taurus mercury...
i'm sure somewhere in chart lies the reason for this...not a big deal...i just dealt with it recently though so it came to mind...anyway i find little subtle ways of making sure a man i'm interested in notices me...if he doesn't then it wasn't meant to be..
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Re: are we too proud?
Mon, January 14, 2008 - 9:38 PMPride is not confidence. Nor the converse.
Confidence is sexy. Pride is self-serving and a sign of a character flaw - IMHO, of course.
Geminis are, and should be confident. We should never be proud...
Again, my perspective, and maybe a bit on the side of splitting hairs...
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Re: are we too proud?
Tue, January 15, 2008 - 7:27 AMunderstood Sunkyst...like i said, i'm not sure why i have this FLAW ;) but i do..
the thing is that i am for the most part very confident...
when it comes to approaching men, i am almost scared of the rejection before it happens...
i don't think i'm less than but maybe it's something that happened a while back that i don't want repeating itself..i don't know...
i am not too proud to admit that pride is "self-serving and a sign of a character flaw ;)))) -
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Re: are we too proud?
Tue, January 15, 2008 - 11:51 AMits the taurus moon and mercury. Taureans are prone to being afraid of rejection. -
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Re: are we too proud?
Thu, January 17, 2008 - 2:40 PMI am a gem sun, scorp rising, mercury in taurus.. Close to your deal.. but I pretty much not afraid of rejection.. just ask Joani! lol
Gemini as a sun is not a prideful sign.. Something that might be of help...Be attentive of a guy's body language first. Body language and learning how to read it can limit your chances of rejection. Maybe something that can help you out is reading the guy's body language first... And then going in and talking with him.
Check out this video on body language:
youtube.com/watch
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Re: are we too proud?
Mon, January 21, 2008 - 9:50 PMWhile I understand fear of rejection, and the limitations it can impose on our experience... I try to hold myself, my self-worth, and my actions apart from any opinion of "others"...bad, or even good.
It is a very tall order, indeed, but one worth striving for, again, IMHO.
Oh, and "character flaw" sounds too concrete, too permanent. All character traits are, with time and intent, malleable. So call it a "temporary negative habit" or something like that.
As to "pride" - well, it only serves to feed our ego...which has such a vested interest in the concept of our separateness. Whatever we feed, grows... -
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Re: are we too proud?
Wed, January 23, 2008 - 7:14 PMFyi .. Too much Pride get's in the way of accomplishing your mission on earth.
There is this great book that I feel really explains easily how Pride/Ego are keeping us "separated" when in truth we all come from one source...
www.amazon.com/Inspiratio...pd_bbs_sr_1
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Re: are we too proud?
Wed, January 23, 2008 - 8:37 PMwell Sunkyst..i was quoting you as for the "character flaw"...
"Pride is self-serving and a sign of a character flaw"
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Re: are we too proud?
Wed, January 23, 2008 - 8:40 PMadditionally,
i don't think it's a flaw necessarily...it may get in the way of some good opportunities but i also think that in some instances it can be good... -
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Re: are we too proud?
Wed, January 23, 2008 - 8:47 PMTam...
I know you were. That's why I wanted to soften my original stance. It came across more harshly than I intended.
Confidence? Yes. Strength? Of course. Pride? I would think that it can only hold us back.
My $.02
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Re: are we too proud?
Tue, January 29, 2008 - 10:19 AMI usually dont even make the first move.. I dont ask to go out either.. I'll hang out though lol
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Re: are we too proud?
Mon, February 4, 2008 - 4:43 PMbeing proud and having a fear of rejection arn't the same.
and, i dont believe im too proud for anything.
what happens to you after you are rejected or should i say before? you just be thinking too far into something that hasnt happened yet or the way you visioned it.now thats gemini. :) -
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Re: are we too proud?
Mon, February 4, 2008 - 4:50 PMthat's true Nikkie...we do tend to over analyze and try to predict...
if one little thing directs our thoughts in another direction, then that's it...
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Re: are we too proud?
Sun, March 9, 2008 - 10:20 AMYou mentioned that you were a rising in scorio. That would be the reason why you are afraid to get rejected or your pride put down. That is the reason scorpios in general are shy. (scorpymoonhere) Also have a sun in gemini and cancer asc.
I am shy though, I can't tell you if it's scorpio or cancer becuase it's probably both. I also don't act like a gemini unless i'm in a comfortable environment,
