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Well, yet another internet addiction for my dear husband, and this one keeps me from sleeping until 4:00 am when he graces me with his presence. I can't say I was fine with all the others, (fan-fic, Baldour's Gate, Bane?, on-line roleplay) that not only made him late for work and got him fired, but kept him from speaking to me, visiting family and interacting with live people, but at least he'd put them down once in a while.
This one is terrible! He's owned it for a week and lost the new job! Not only is he completely absorbed in this game, his friends are encouraging him. One goes off line, another comes on... he's still there!
Yesterday was the worst. It was our 6 month anniversary, but we had a funeral to go to, so it wasn't the best day to begin with. He wanted to skip the service. He didn't want to go to lunch with my parent's (I was driving, so we did) and when I wanted to visit my aunt he said "can you do that later, I'm feeling kinda... ugh." But he's feeling 'not ugh' enough to stop at Circuit City and get a microphone, but 'too ugh' to go to the book store. Then the minute we got home he's on WoW!
He finally rolled into bed at 4:00 am after talking all night. We were supposed to go to a family brunch today. Not happening. I'm not going without him to say, "yes dear mother-in-law, your son is still asleep after playing WoW for over 15 hours, and is no longer employed." "what's WoW, you ask? Well, it's a computer game with nifty graphics, and the unique power to make me really angry at the person I love most!"
I don't like being angry him. I can't decide if I should go live at my parent's house for the next 3 months or if I should throw the game in the dumpster! Probably shouldn't do that, he'd just go buy another and get mad at me.
Any helpful suggestions from more experienced victims would be appreciated. I'm not going to try to seduce him when I'm angry because I don't want to use sex as a weapon, and I can't turn the electricity off as he knows where the breaker box is... and I can't afford a vacation thanks to the unemployment situation... I'm at a loss.
This one is terrible! He's owned it for a week and lost the new job! Not only is he completely absorbed in this game, his friends are encouraging him. One goes off line, another comes on... he's still there!
Yesterday was the worst. It was our 6 month anniversary, but we had a funeral to go to, so it wasn't the best day to begin with. He wanted to skip the service. He didn't want to go to lunch with my parent's (I was driving, so we did) and when I wanted to visit my aunt he said "can you do that later, I'm feeling kinda... ugh." But he's feeling 'not ugh' enough to stop at Circuit City and get a microphone, but 'too ugh' to go to the book store. Then the minute we got home he's on WoW!
He finally rolled into bed at 4:00 am after talking all night. We were supposed to go to a family brunch today. Not happening. I'm not going without him to say, "yes dear mother-in-law, your son is still asleep after playing WoW for over 15 hours, and is no longer employed." "what's WoW, you ask? Well, it's a computer game with nifty graphics, and the unique power to make me really angry at the person I love most!"
I don't like being angry him. I can't decide if I should go live at my parent's house for the next 3 months or if I should throw the game in the dumpster! Probably shouldn't do that, he'd just go buy another and get mad at me.
Any helpful suggestions from more experienced victims would be appreciated. I'm not going to try to seduce him when I'm angry because I don't want to use sex as a weapon, and I can't turn the electricity off as he knows where the breaker box is... and I can't afford a vacation thanks to the unemployment situation... I'm at a loss.
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Re: Really hate WoW
Mon, April 28, 2008 - 10:45 AMI think you should leave him - for at least a while. There is nothing you can do at this point to redeem him. Listen to me please because I was a hardcore gamer once and I had a boyfriend once who sounds so much like your's. I was the one who carried us financialy for one solid year because of his chronic unemployment. Now, the game he was addicted to was not WoW but another MMO, Dark Age of Camelot. Still he go into a rage at losing and I took the heat for it - on both a physical and emotional level. I finally got him out of my house and out of my life.
I played DAoC was well but it wasn't so addicting a game for me. I attended college and graduated from it while being a DAoCer. The game wasn't the great "carrot on a stick" that WoW would become for me much later. There were no massive dungeons that took weeks to finish, no PvP grind the penalized me with Honor Point decay if I quit going to the battlegrounds. Unlike DAoC I did not have any hardcore raiding guilding guilting me and goading me into playing long hours each night for at least five nights a week for the sake of their precious raid progression. Nevermind my own ambitions for my avatars - I was a tool and nothing but!
Thank God I finally got sensible and realised I was in a trap again. Only this wasn't a jerk sharing my apartment with me, it was a gaming company who had devised a means to keep people "hooked" on their product. For those who manage to play the game casually - kudos for you! If you do so because you value things like loved ones and a career - bravo!! Your not the sucker that I was for a while.
I returned to DAoC and I still game but this time I OWN THE GAME THAT GAME DOESN'T OWN ME. As for guilds - I have my own and I call the shots which is: everybody have fun, be nice to other people, and play however, whenever you want! My motto is family & friends first. Game last. -
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Re: Really hate WoW
Thu, May 29, 2008 - 2:50 PMPersonally, I say bravo to Blizz on making an excellent game. And I have little pity for those who say that their guilds make them continue raiding. Your guilds don't make you do anything, you just refuse to acknowledge that you had an addiction so you foistered all the blame onto your guild. However, I do respect you for making a difficult decision regarding your boyfriend's addiction.
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