Wow killed my friend.

topic posted Mon, July 7, 2008 - 1:54 AM by  Aldo
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I live in a share house and I moved in about the same time as a guy I quickly became good friends with named Lee. He was an apprentice plumber at the time and had a nicely upgraded red VN commodore. He was a good drinking buddy who was great for a laugh. Then Wow hit. Unable to control his addiction he stopped going out on the weekends and soon became a hermit. He also got fired from his apprenticeship position for not showing up, because he'd stay up all night on wow. All trades Queensland found him 2 other apprenticeships but he lost them too for similar reasons. In the end because of having no money from no job, he was eating 70 cent noodles for every meal of the day. His wow friends would shout him junk food and encourage him back on line which made it worse as well as him gaining weight. I talked to him a few times about it and he knew he had a problem but didn't want to do anything about it. Any other conversations with him were usually very short unless he was talking with someone about wow. He was even once planing on going on a camping trip with mates but piked out at the last minute when he realised he couldn't take his laptop because that would mean no wow. About 3 months ago couldn't keep up with rent and had to shift back with his parents. Compared to when I first met him he became a total loser. I heard recently his parents were furious with him because, you guessed it, in 3 months of living there he still hasn't got a job he just plays wow 24/7.
I study psychology at university and I noticed some interesting things about his behaviour compared to accounts of drug addicts I have read. He, like a drug addict had the one thing on his mind all the time. If ever there was a period of time where he had to go without for a little while eg work or even out for dinner. He had to get his quick fix as soon as he got home. He even refused to travel to places where it would mean he couldn't bring it with him. He used wow as a form of escapism to get away from the pressures of life. When things got difficult or stressful like when he was fired 3 times in 2 months he would just run away from it in wow. Maybe he thought a level 70 night elf wizard who rides a pegasus is more interesting than a 19 yo guy with no job and no money who is getting fat. Except the night elf isn't real.
I think there definitely some similarities between wow addiction and drug addiction. I'm not a psychologist I'm only a student but maybe wow addicts need to go through some kind of rehabilitation to fight their habit. Or laws on Blizzard where each account holder can only access wow for a limited time each day.
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Aldo
SF Bay Area
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  • Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Mon, July 7, 2008 - 2:15 AM
    I agree. It is an addiction for some people. I've seen that stupid game ruin more relationships and people's lives than I care to think about. A good friend of mine is totally absorbed in it and he is recruiting others of my pals. Slowly they are all being sucked into the virtual game world rather than dealing with real life. It may be great to score gold in a game but isn't it more satisfying if one earns the bucks and buys the gold in real life? At least then it doesn't go away when the system crashes. You can try to get your friend out more but I don't know if it will work. I held an intervention of sorts for my friend and it worked for a bit but he has returned to his WoW ways and it is just sad.
  • JJ
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    Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Tue, July 15, 2008 - 3:20 PM
    We are with you, friend. Wow destroys lives, really. It's built specifically for consuming peoples' time, ambitions, thoughts ...
  • Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Tue, August 5, 2008 - 6:48 PM
    I am reading your post because like you I have also lost someone to WOW. My son has completely lost touch with his family and friends. He no longer cares about school or work. He lies and steals. He once got evicted from his apartment and took nothing but his computer with him. He lived on the streets and carried his computer around even though he could not plug it in or use it. He would rather play then eat or sleep. I have written a letter to Blizzard. Why can this happen to some many people? Is there nothing we can do as consumers to stop this from hurting others before they are sucked in this game?
  • Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Sat, January 10, 2009 - 8:14 PM
    If your friend doesn't want to change his behavior, then stop pressuring him to. And also, a law to limit daily WoW playing time???

    WTF?
    • Re: Wow killed my friend.

      Sun, March 1, 2009 - 8:48 PM
      you most be a wow player... and cant possible understand how it hurts the people that care about you... I completly agree i think that there should be a time limit ( im thinking 2hrs maybe 3...) on any account... not toon but whatever they have to do to log in to play...
    • han
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      Re: Wow killed my friend.

      Sat, April 4, 2009 - 10:33 PM
      You must play wow as well eh.... its not about pressuring friends its about caring about them, their entire lifestyle turns worse than third world country... no eating, no vitamin d (sunlight) ridiculous sleeping habits, agressive behaviour that never existed before.... maybe you are the one that doesn't understand...
  • han
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    Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Sat, April 4, 2009 - 10:32 PM
    I agree to the time limit thing, i think they need to keep the game if they have too lol, but limit the amount of time player can play... with all their characters so they dont just log in on another one once the first ones times up... my bf is the culprit, and u all know the story - addicted, getting agressive, cant go with out it, goes out for a bit but has to be on as soon as gets home, avoids going out, skips work for "important guilds" or whatever they are so i wont go on with too many details... i even tried to play for a little bit (half hour i got bored lol) to show interest in something he was interested in... but unfortunately he isn't interested in returning the favour... tells me he loves me to death, but when i ask him whats more important i get the "you dont understand i only have 60 days on this faster leveling up my new character, we are in a massive raid han, blah blah" and .... i am the unreasonable bitch aparently !!! Ah anyway just thought id let you know i agree massively with the time limit... but cant see it happening! I dont blame the game, i am frustrated that he cant admit in ten years this game will get him nowhere in life, but he may wake up without me or anything else... play it for a hobby but seperate it from life and play reasonably, man its a dull game too!
  • Re: Wow killed my friend.

    Thu, September 3, 2009 - 5:00 AM
    First, yes I'm a WoW player, second it's not the game it's the person.

    I play wow for 1 year and i must say is a great game with a great community but it's just that A GAME

    I work, i have a girlfriend, i have many friend because i know what is important in life, if i can i go out with my friends, i go to the cinema, i go to my parents house and in the end, if i don't have nothing to do i play WoW.

    So don't say it's the game because in the end it's always the person.

    Why do i play wow? because i have great friends that play with me and we play a bit and then we go out to have some drinks and watch a movie, that's what the game is for, have fun and socialisation. If u can't separate reality from a game then u should not play, and if u are a father u can control the time your sons play, they have that system "Parental Control".

    Yes i also know ppl for whom the game is everything and i try to get them out of it, but some ppl simple don't wanna face reality.

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