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thank god im not alone!!

2009-09-12T20:12:31Z

I dont even know where to begin. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and when we first started dating i didnt have a problem with his gameing because i had gotten out of a 3 and 1/2 year relationship where my boyfriend had played video games and computer games. We would play together when it came to video games, but when he played his computer games i started to get upset after some time talking to him i realized that a guy playing a computer game every once in awhile isnt a bad thing, its their "sports". So when i got involved with my current boyfriend i told him that i didnt care that he played, but he never played that much. it was the beginning of our relationship and he wanted to spend all his time with me, we were learning about each other, he played the game about 3 times a week.
Well, about 8 months into our relationship i started noticing that he was playing almost everyday, stayin up till the wee hours of the morning, when i would "hang out" with him it was me sitting on his bed watching him play. i kept my mouth shut for so long and then ths semester it was getting way out of hand, he would spend all day on the computer, sometimes mising class, his roommate would tell me that hed spent the whole weekend on his computer, never showered, ordered food so he would have to leave. things were just gettin gout of hand and i couldnt take it anymore. finally i told him (feeling very guilty) its either me or the game. it took him close to two days for him to give me an answer! and when we talked about it he made me feel so bad for taking away his "hobby" so i asked him to not play as much. well it was good for awhile but then the same crap started up again. he is addicted and when he would play he would curse and yell but not at the computer, he would take it out on me. i could speak to him while he played. sometimes he would fianlly get off and a couple hours later he would go right back on, most of the nights i fall asleep with him still playing. he doesnt even hang out with me anymore. i ask him to do something and he says hes too busy with some crap on his game. our conversations are ONLY about WoW. WE DONT EVEN HAVE SEX ANYMORE! i wanted to marry him, but hes 21 years old and is playing a computer game, he cant manage his money and he has anger problems, all steming from this stupid stupid game.
sometimes i get on his little head set and start yelling at the guys that play while hes in the bathroom. i tell them to get a life and maybe find a girlfriend to consume their time with. i get so frusterated, i get sooo lonely. i cant believe i cant even get my boyfriend to get off a computer, i cant believe i cry because i have to compete with a game! i just want to throw his f-ing computer out the window or uninstall the game....he would break up with me though if i took away his precious world of warcraft

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Wow killed my friend.

2009-09-03T12:00:18Z

I live in a share house and I moved in about the same time as a guy I quickly became good friends with named Lee. He was an apprentice plumber at the time and had a nicely upgraded red VN commodore. He was a good drinking buddy who was great for a laugh. Then Wow hit. Unable to control his addiction he stopped going out on the weekends and soon became a hermit. He also got fired from his apprenticeship position for not showing up, because he'd stay up all night on wow. All trades Queensland found him 2 other apprenticeships but he lost them too for similar reasons. In the end because of having no money from no job, he was eating 70 cent noodles for every meal of the day. His wow friends would shout him junk food and encourage him back on line which made it worse as well as him gaining weight. I talked to him a few times about it and he knew he had a problem but didn't want to do anything about it. Any other conversations with him were usually very short unless he was talking with someone about wow. He was even once planing on going on a camping trip with mates but piked out at the last minute when he realised he couldn't take his laptop because that would mean no wow. About 3 months ago couldn't keep up with rent and had to shift back with his parents. Compared to when I first met him he became a total loser. I heard recently his parents were furious with him because, you guessed it, in 3 months of living there he still hasn't got a job he just plays wow 24/7.
I study psychology at university and I noticed some interesting things about his behaviour compared to accounts of drug addicts I have read. He, like a drug addict had the one thing on his mind all the time. If ever there was a period of time where he had to go without for a little while eg work or even out for dinner. He had to get his quick fix as soon as he got home. He even refused to travel to places where it would mean he couldn't bring it with him. He used wow as a form of escapism to get away from the pressures of life. When things got difficult or stressful like when he was fired 3 times in 2 months he would just run away from it in wow. Maybe he thought a level 70 night elf wizard who rides a pegasus is more interesting than a 19 yo guy with no job and no money who is getting fat. Except the night elf isn't real.
I think there definitely some similarities between wow addiction and drug addiction. I'm not a psychologist I'm only a student but maybe wow addicts need to go through some kind of rehabilitation to fight their habit. Or laws on Blizzard where each account holder can only access wow for a limited time each day.

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My man's other GF..

2009-08-11T21:27:48Z

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year and I knew about him playing WOW but i never knew what WOW was until a few months of dating him. I slowly began hating that stupid game. I tried playing it, but it's stupid. I couldn't make myself sit infront of the computer for hours on end. Just recently he started his own late night raiding group because he works 10 hour days. So now he comes home, eats the meal i cooked for him, and sits on the computer until like 3 am. I ask every day "are you raiding tonight?" and he gets pissed at me..i hate this game with a passion. It is not just a game, its a life sucking force that ruins relationships and lives. I am a great GF, i will admit that with confidence.. is it too much to ask for to grow the F*** up and do something normal with your free time???? He is 29 years old and I feel like i already have a 12 year old son. I have to ask him numerous amount of times to get off the game and come and eat or get off the game so we can go run errands, it is so frustrating. He says he will quit because it has already ruined relationships in his past but I can't ask him to because his work is so stressful he says WOW is the only thing that relaxes him, how can i take that away?? And as we all know, there is no compromising with game play and real life because the game runs in real life time, how lame is that.. I know I dont even need to explain this to you but i feel that our relationship is suffering. I am new to our town that he grew up in, am on summer break, and my job consists of taking care our house and errands...all i want is to hang out with him but sometimes i think my life would be better if i just left him...i am stuck in a rut and dont know what to do.. i feel as if i havent given it enough time, but wont it only get worse??

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lets all sue blizzard!!!!

2009-07-22T04:39:13Z

I like Sarah i was soo pissed at my fience and his addiction with WOW, i google I hate wow and came across this site and a few others, but this is the only one that has soo many people with the same "problem". I never realized how many people out there felt the same exact way that I do. My fience started playing the game about a year ago, it want so bad in the beginning, he didnt play it everynight and we still had us time... now forget it... we got engaged before wow came into his life, and now 5 months before our wedding, i have been contimplating even going through with the wedding, but i keep thinkng about how much i really do love him, and all the money that we have and my parents have put into this wedding. The people that keep saying just leave him... its not that easy, when you are so in love, the very thought of breaking up with him feels like a knife stabing you in the heart... while at the same time, him playing this game... the lack of attention, in every aspect... the verbal abuse bc he is doing something importent with his raid group, when all you wanted to know was what he wanted for dinner... i have soo many mixed feelings about how i feel about him right now, and it sucks, i went 1 week recently without talking to him, and he didnt care bc atleast he got to play wow nag free... he knows he has a problem he tells me all the time, but he tells me that "it wont always be there" ... i tell him im affraid to even have children with him, cause god forbid i give birth on a raid night... will he even answer the phone if im not with him... or when the water breaks... am i going to have to wait for the raid to be over... i work with another girl who has the same problem with her boyfriend, and we keep joking about starting a a law suit against blizzard, for ruining our relationships... my fience say it wouldnt work bc blizzard actually has a warning at the beginning of the game that says they are not responsible for loss of relationships or real life...blah blah blah... but you know what i say... that doesnt count for me i didnt sign up for the game... i didnt agree to take that risk... i was with him before wow took over... and i dont know what to do...

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I've Been Playing WoW for 1 1/2 Years

2009-07-08T01:22:34Z

I am now absolutely resenting it. When I first started I couldn't wait to get online when I got on in the morning. I literally would play all day since I'm a stay at home mom. I've seen so much of this game that I have seen marriages fall apart and men lose their kids and move 1/2 way across their country just b/c its cost them so much of their lives and lost a lot of good in game friends b/c of guild splits and dramas that go on. I use to be able to easily stay on until 2 or 3 in the morning but now I really don't care how long I stay on in fact I would rather spend time off line the online. I do however feel bad if I don't continue to play b/c of all the good relationships I do still have. Because I have spent so much time online, my personality has changed. I have become more depressed and I snap out of anger too easily. I recently took a 2 week vacation with my daughter to see some family in a different state and it felt so wonderful to not sign on and have other things to do other then play WoW. If your spouse is struggling with a WoW addiction you can try to pull the plug which usually doesn't work it just aggrevates the situation. You can also try to just wait it out. There are some WoW addicts that will burn out and just give up the game. There are other WoW players that won't ever give it up. As for me I'm slowly starting to say my goodbyes to the game and I'm hoping to start some real life activities outside of the game and believe me I need it. I don't want to live the rest of my life playing WoW. I want to start living life as it was meant to be which is not to spend a lifetime playing video games.

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I have been married for 7 months and i am leaving my husband because he loves WOW more then me... (or so it seems)

2009-07-07T01:20:25Z

Come on now! 7 months, shouldn't we be in this honeymoon phase where we can't keep our hands off of eachother. I feel like i need a shift button just to communicate with him through his vent. Him and i have been together for going on 11 years. I have begged for him to stop. I printed internet material to prove to him that this game ruins relationships. I have to sit next to him just to spend time with him, even then he doesn't listen because the has things to due and people to talk to through vent. He has been playing for about 11 months now and it's non stop. We have disconnected from eachother. Now he is willing to stop playing, but my feelings for him have changed. i fell out of love with him (though i still and always will love him). I am 26 years old and i refuse to be in a relationship and be unhappy. I have found myself sitting on the sofa watching tv every single night with the hopes that he will finally get off. Then i get, "ill be in, in 20 minutes". I then added 2 hours to that 20 mins. Now, i added even more. I go to bed alone, i spend all my time alone. We don't go out, we don't have sex, it's horrible. So, 3 days ago i told him that i was moving out and that we are going to get a divorce. Yeah, the game has alot to do with it, but i need that emotional, physical relationship back, and i can't get that back after so long. it's too late. It's bad, it's horrible, worst of all.... it's over. 11 years gone because of this f'ing game.

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I quited! YES!

2009-06-26T05:07:39Z

I have been playing for over 2 years. I bought this game cause its a GAME and everyone PLAYED it. I went addicted.

My girlfriend left me, my friends left me, my family ... well.., i didnt go to school( not that i care about that shait anyway)
WoW became my life, my friend.

So 3 weeks ago the game crashed. So i went to WTF foulder and deleted it. I smiled. Deleted another file. Made me happier. Deleted all the files. Made me laugh. Sold my account. Felt like that i just escaped one of Doctor Gordons traps.

Now i got a new life, got my friends back, just a GF missing. KABLAM! * yourself Blizzard, im free!

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I HATE WoW but for different resons :P

2009-06-15T23:37:28Z

:) hi i'm new here. :P i ended up hating wow not because my girlfriend is addicted to it or something like that (dough she rly is ^^ gets angry at me if i sit at her pc cus she needs to play etc..dailys in Dalaran -.-).

I HATE the game because it simply is boring and i wasted my time on it for a year! >.<

I tried playing it twice and found it repetitive, unimaginative, boring grind for nothing...so i quit. Still i grew up on video games like many of the guys, learned English and German through them....so i had to play it to the end just to see and accomplish playing it. Its like reading a book or watching a movie :P u play the game for the achievement and not to stay in the dark about it. I mean u cant talk about a movie like Sunshine without seing it or about Buddhism and the Dalai Lama without reading some books , much the same cant talk bout WoW without playing it (and my friends did/do play it). I also was motivated by a not so great family life which i wanted to escape from in this imaginary world :P like i use books and other video games, movies and music to escape.

The third try i was lucky to have found a good group of ppl and we started talking, 1 thing led to the other and i stayed ingame till wotlk now it has been a year and a few months. I'm lvl 80 tauren druid tank, leader of a huge raid guild with almost maxed out gear :|...and it feels empty....incomplete and unsatisfying. I know when i finished Mass Effect i had this feeling of achievement, of having played an great story, made my choices and came out in the end with an achievement something i was proud of :P got even emotional when the gr8 credits rolled in...stuff like that.

:( wow doesn't give anything like that...its just 1 boring grind to the top, i miss most of the story cus i dont bother reading the endless "kill 10 pigs, kill 15 tigesr kill 25 bears for their livers....deliver the peperoni pizza to Thrall who is 30 minutes of flight points away".

Th ONLY thing that kept me there were the other ppl, my guild, the responsibility towards them and the friendship with may of them.

Honestly for guys who play "games" playing games is sort of like reading books or watching movies for normal people. WoW is diferent its unsatisfying pain in the ass....AND I CAN TRY AS HARD AS POSSIBLE to finish it already and be done with it like any other good game that gives some fun :\ but i cant...its not possible, wow is not made to have an end.

In my personal opinion ppl get stuck in it NOT cus of addiction because i HATED it from start to finish like i hate Legend: Hand of God for being a cheap Diablo 2 knock off, but because its endless and feels like work and u have to do it because others expect u to play it.

The other reason ppl play it is cus they have issues. <_< girls if ur husband plays it and neglects u he probably does not love u and if wow didn't exist he'd probably still neglect u and go out watching football with the guys or work so much he doesn't have to deal with u. It can also be an escape from relationship troubles, maybe he feels unneeded and useless at home idk.

Ok enough rant :P now can anybody tell me how to get my girlfriend off wow cus i want to quit and leave guild/wow and the 2 of us have a lot to talk about -.- wow didn't ruin the relationship if anything it got us more together but i have enough..things were not going good and r still not.

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This game should come with free marriage counseling or a good lawyer

2009-06-13T21:32:03Z

OMG I am so pissed at someone for getting my husband into this game. I have a 15mth old and a 5yr old and he rather come home for work with the headphones on and away he goes. He is not even home 5 minutes and there he goes. He even eats dinner while on. My oldest son is getting mad cause he tries to get his attention and it never works. Blizzard should be ashamed of themselves for the game and how is it is making familes break up. I am also disabled and the doctor told me to stay off my feet do you think he can get his azz off the game and help hell no. I have had it with this friggin game and now my husband

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End of my rope

2009-05-04T19:30:10Z

I have been dating a girl for three years and her ex-boyfriend got her addicted to WoW and now she plays it non stop. She goes to work and then comes home at 5 and plays until 4 in the morning and I never see her. I work till 8 and then when I get home and try to talk to her she tells me to be quiet she's busy. She get's mad if she can't play, she is a leader of a guild and so she scheduals her weeks according to guild business and we never go out never hang with friends. It really sucks and now I am at the end of my rope and the more I talk to her about her addiction the more she gets mad at me. I don't know what to do.

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At my end.

2009-04-26T20:35:55Z

I've been with my husband for 2 years. He was wonderful when we met, couldn't keep his hands off of me, couldn't get away from each other. After a while we decided to move in together, (note: i had a home and he promised to get a job when he moved to this town to live with me). I found out he played Warcraft, his favorite game.. no biggie right? After a few months (i was also pregnant at the time) i noticed that it wasn't just something he enjoyed but loved.. up all night playing . played all day. Months went by and he had yet to get a job, hell i even think he lied about applying to jobs. I finally had enough and my daughter and i were out of his life .. we started talking again.. he promised me he had got his stuff straight, no more wow.. a job. We got back together and actually got married after some time. We've been married now for almost 6 months and things are like they never have been before. (im now pregnant with his child as well 7 months pregnant) He stays up all night playing or comes to bed at 4 am. When he wakes up he's right back on all day long. He huffs when I ask to just watch a movie in bed or go out together and all he can do is get mad and say i guess.. He still isnt working, i pay all the bills. Its getting to the point that we fight every day because of that game. i have sat down with him and told him how i feel, i've left because of it.. things will be great for a few days then right back to the same thing. i don't feel him kiss me anymore, we barely converse, cause he's on that damn thing 24/7. i love him so much but all i do is cry.. and seem to grow bitter.. what the hell do i do to save my marriage? im at the end of the rope here please advice!!!!!

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Neglectful wife

2009-04-26T20:26:30Z

I used to play this game, then our daughter was born. I realized that i had more important things to spend my time doing. My wife has not. I am currently deployed and every time I call my wife I hear 2 very clear sounds in the background. er playing wow(vent and game noises), and Baby Einstien. She leaves my daughter in her swing with Baby E playing propped up with a bottle so that she can play her game. Today my daughter had a check up at the doc, and I call my wife after they should be done and she tells me, that Samantha has bruises on her inner thighs most likely from her swing and or car seat. The doctor saw said bruises and as its law had to call Social Services. They wont do anything because the doctor doesnt think it is anything serious. But i know otherwise. I cannot call the doctor and tell her why because while i am deployed they would take my daughter and there would be nothing i could do until i get back. I am seriously at a loss here, I love my wife but I hate this game. I dont want to lose her becase of it but i REFUSE to have our child treated like this. Whats a gu to do in this situation?

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SOMETIMES there is light at the end of tunnel...

2009-04-26T01:40:37Z

Not too long ago I posted that my husband of 8 months was addicted to WoW. This had been an on going deal for 2 years. It boiled down one day that I found out that I was paying for this addiction without my knowledge, ( also found out a few other things). That day I busted the computer, enough was enough. (Note he has two computers). That day I told him I wanted a divorce, I wanted him out of my house, and that he wouldn't be seeing his daughters anymore (i am pregnant with his bio daughter and i have a daughter froma previous relationship). I had always threatened to leave, THREATENED being the key word.. this time I was serious. Since that day, there has been no more WOW. We had made an agreement that he could play every thursday, but no more than that. Now he doesn't play at all. I wont lie and say he doesn't game anymore because he will sit down and play on PS3 every so often but not for hours on end. We had no life before, no sex life, no love.. only bickering and fighting over games. Now he wants to be loving, now he wants to go out. It's as if since wow has been out of our lives, he's the man i fell in love with from the beginning. I know this isnt the case for everyone, and i know not everyone will get this result like i did (and in truth, this could just be a phase) but just so you know, there is a light at the end of this tunnel.. no matter if its your guy/woman giving up this addiction, or if you leave. Things will get better, it just takes putting our foot down.
Some of us are just dating, some of us are married.. but remember, even though you took a vow for better and worse with this person.. you also have a vow to yourself. And that vow to yourself should come before the vow with your spouse! I have vowed to never NEVER NEVER NEVER!! Let this addiction get to me and my kids lives again.. no matter how much i may love my husband, i love myself and my children more... So if your loved one wants to sit around on a game that will never love them back or be there for them.. let them.. leave! One day they will realize we wont stick around for this bull shit anymore.

So good luck.. TO EVERYONE.

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Simply to provide the other side of the argument...

2009-04-20T06:06:11Z

I'll make this quick and also would like to state up front that no I did not read every post/commment so I don't know if this has been mentioned....

I play WoW extensively. I have a "good wow character" and I party and raid and etc etc etc frequently.

I also have a job that I spent the last 4 years of college working towards. Recently, I got a promotion and hefty raise at this job for my impressive work and success.

Since moving to Cali, I've met a fantastic girl that happens to be from my home state. We take many many weekend vacations, go out with friends more than often, and I've seen a good majority of the nightlife Los Angeles has to offer. =P

I have some great friends, a family that I love and care for and talk to many times a week.

So again I'd like to say, I'm not bragging, I'm simply presenting the other side of the argument.

I have my own guild on wow. I maintain the website, chat channels, and internal guild workings. If I signed on right now, I'd probably have more than few people asking me to come "do some quest or raid with them" because my character is very good.

The point I'm making is that WoW doesn't ruin everyones life, Warcrack is not the bad guy here, it's the person playing it. I play a _lot_ and I still maintain a healthy lifestyle, I keep the people who are important to me more than happy, and I manage a successful career. I agree with many of you that it can ruin a persons life, just understand that it is possible to enjoy this game fully and still maintain a grip on yourself. When that grip is lost, then yes, for you ladies I would consider desperate measures! A woman at work made the comment the other day, "geek is the new jock". If this is true, I'm afraid you're all going to face a lot more "WoW addicts", just understand we're not all hopeless junkies.

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Warcraft makes me lonely

2009-02-13T18:08:50Z

I wouldn't say I've lost everything to the world of warcraft. But the fact that friends and family find a game more important than me just makes me feel lonely. I have played with them on occasion but Im not the kind of person who gets sucked into things like that. Thank god for ADD. haha. But, I miss spending time with my best friend and my sister. I just wish I was important enough for them to walk away from it for an hour even. Its really hard for me to be pissed off at a game though. I can't just get on the game and play for a little bit anymore either because they all have things they do on the game and it sucks getting laughed at when you have played the game for two years and someone says ' your highest level toon is 30?' and then goes on and on in some stuped wow language I don't understand.
And god forbid I want to make plans for us to go out somewhere on a weekend. Clubs don't have internet access and what would they do if they actually had to interact with a person in REAL LIFE.
What happens when you cant even get your friend to leave thier house. And the once energetic bubbly person you knew if reduced to a 300 pound slob who doesn't like to bathe. Its just insane what people with let a game do to them. To the point that you cant talk to them about whats happening in your life because then you have to suffer through whats happening in thier wow life because it all they have left.

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need advice please

2009-01-30T20:04:09Z

this is my situation. my boyfriend used to play addictivly and we broke up. now he no longer raids and he only plays when i am not at home and when i am asleep. if i wake up and see him playing it enrages me. i don't know how to get over it. i think he hurt me so bad and it was b/c he was playing so much he didn't want to do anything. now we do do things. we go out, watch movies, hang with friends and he does not play that much and especially not like he used to. i think my old feelings toward this game could ruin our relationship. b/c he as a person has changed and you can do anything in moderation it is just seeing it makes me think it is goign to be relapse and start ignoring me again.
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HOLY CRAP!!!!

2009-01-30T19:56:17Z

I just Googled "I HATE WORLD OF WARCRAFT" and this forum came up. I joined a few seconds ago! Warcraft has stolen my wife from me....yeah, you read this correctly, my wife. I just picked up a second job to help make ends meet while she "looks" for a job and plays this stupid game all day....while our kid goes to daycare. Even when the three of us are home, its basically like there are only 2 of us, me and our kid. She's always on the computer! One would think that if you are at home all day, ALONE might i add, that the house should be clean, and dinner be cooked. She has it really good, and can't even get those small tasks done. I feel like I have to beg for her attention. It hurts to hear our child say "mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy, mommy....over and over before she acknowledges that he's speaking. I hate this game and am starting to resent the fact that she spends more time with the game than with us. I'm doing everything I can to provide for my family and am very exhausted, but I keep pushing....while she sits on her ass doing nothing...unless i ask her to. She can't even pull herself away from the computer long enough to clean properly. Its like cleaning is the "game" and the game is the "house work". If she put as much time into her family and her home, as she does in this game, we'd be in a much better financial and emotional place! I know hate is a strong word, but I hate this game!

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Solutions

2009-01-29T23:14:51Z

WoW ruined my marriage. My son doesn't have a father because of this game. I won't go into my story because its pretty much the same as everyone elses. Just know that before the game my ex was an active member of society. Anyway.

Before you read on say this after me "There is a problem. It is real. I have to do something. I CAN do something. I WILL do something and not be a victim."

Good, moving on.

Solutions:

1. Get him away from the house. If you have the means, and can convince him, go on a vacation. Get him away from his comfort zone. If you have to, say that where your going has computer access, then make sure it doesn't. Yes he will be mad, but WoW addiction is like a smoking habit, you'll never really stop craving but the longer your away from it the easier it gets. He might thank you. While your away have a friend take everything WoW related off your computor.

2. Talk to his friends or family. They may know, they may not. If talking to him hasn't worked, he might listen to family. You should seriously think of an intervention, research interventions to find out how its done. You never know, he may not fully realize what he's doing. Being confronted by a large group of people saying the same thing can work wonders. That might actually be a good diet plan too.

3. The first two were nice, and they do have their merits, but this is my favorite. Take a baseball bat and take out all your frustration on the computer, think "Office Space". Depending on the temperment of your loved one you might or might not want to be there when he gets home. I wish i had done this, but i believed his lies. I know what your thinking "this is not necessary", but it is. Some posters have said that the problem is your not interesting or fun, but you shouldn't have to babysit your bf or husband. Why should all the work be on you to sustain the relationship while he gets to escape into a game.

I hope my solutions will help. They are serious, this is serious, nothing about this is a joke. And "Its Not Your Fault"

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I HAVE A SOLUTION!!!!!!!!!

2009-01-20T19:57:44Z

Hi, I'm new here. But a LOT of my girl friends are going through the same thing with their guys concerning this game. I admit, I do play it myself. But I realize that it's only a game and can never take the place of reality.

But what one of my friends did was she got into it also. I mean, really got into it even more so than her guy. Her reasoning for it was that if her obsession (she really hate the game but was pretending to make her point) grew larger than his then he would realize what a bad idea the game really is in their relationship.

It took her a few months of hard gaming to surpass him, but he started to take notice and get concerned about how much time she spent on the game. This opened his eyes to his own addiction and he ended up banning the game from both their lives.

She got her husband back because (she said) that he felt he needed to rescue her from something (the game). Now, most of you ladies (and maybe some lurking guys) may not have the time to go to such extremes.

But I wanted to share with you at least one success story to give you hope. We have to think outside the box with this problem. I've been doing a LOT of research/thinking about a guys motivation for being so addicted to this game and I've come up with a list of possible reasons....

1. The need to play 'Hero'- Guys need to feel needed, like they have a purpose. Some may not feel anyone needs them in this way in their real life.

2. Obsessive Disorder- A guy will play the game even though he doesn't really like it simply for something to focus all his attention on.

3. Perfectionist- A lot of guys will play just to get that 100% complete rating. Beating every boss, getting every item. They can't put it down until their satisfied that they've done everything possible.

4. Escapism- Some guys play it to escape from their reality. Maybe their happy for whatever reason and they're using the game as a way to avoid the problem.

Ok, these are just a few of the reasons I've come up with. I'm sure others have more to contribute. I hope I could help someone at least. Feel free message me if you need to vent.

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Let's do something about this crazy addiction

2009-01-20T19:48:36Z

I live with a WOW addict and my library now looks like NASA mission control with 5 computers and screens all dedicated to WOW, he spends 10 - 12 hours daily on these machines playing multiple characters. I have begged him to stop, or at least remember that I exist, but he's only happy playing and refuses to quit. He basically ignores his kids until I or his ex wife remind him he has them. This game is evil and as far as I'm concerned is worse than any Narcotic. Why? Because it is not illegal to play, yet the results are the same. You destroy your life.

I know this may sound crazy, but I'm also at my wits end. Let's sue Blizzard for alienation of affection. I would also like to petition congress to put warning labels on the box of every WOW software with a warning "This game will ruin your life"

They do it for tobacco, and for CDs with explicit lyrics, why not for a game that has destroyed thousands of families?

Is anyone interested?

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Wife can not stop playing

2009-01-01T03:22:55Z

I have been married for 5 months, and when ever we are home she plays this stupid game. It is nothing for her to spend a whole weekend playing the game. She doesn't communicate to me when she plays, at least I can pause the football games on sunday to talk to her if I need to. When she isnt playing she is texting other players. She talks with ex boyfriends and mostly her brother. I thought his playing would go down once he had a kid, but even with a 2 month old baby he is still online. I guess I should be happy I cna golf and play my video games when I want. I feel like she only wants me to sleep next to her at night. Notice just next to her, not actually sleep with, that has to be scheduled. Oh well she better not complain when my new job keeps me on the road.

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my heart goes out

2008-08-06T05:52:00Z

every single one of you have these horrid stories, of husbands being left behind an lives being destroyed, letters written to the gaming company, etc.
im that guy. i am on that ledge that all of you have seen your loved ones leap off of (with a bad ass griffin).
i already have a level 70 yada yada blah blah blah an numerous alts. but i don't really talk about it all the time, i just play. i even know it's not fun yet i will still sit there on my days off ignoring invites from my wife to take our child to the park , one block away.
I've totally slipped into it, at one point i even deleted all my characters an canceled my account, but i came back the next day!!
I might have a lot of "talents" but, they are slowly draining out of me, it's pretty strange to me how much i play knowing full well that everything around me is crumbling, not exactly drumming to a different beat just on a different boat. i never had many friends per se, so i have not lost much there, i am the 8th of 9 kids so my family is distant, again not much of a loss. the worst thing i can say is that i have lost a lot of myself, my will, my desires and passions.

i'm not bashing my computer, neither is my wife.
so where is the real advice? is there anything out there proven to be an effective method to resolving the warcraft addiction, any positive encouraging feedback would be splendid an very much appreciated.

Thank You

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out of options

2008-07-21T01:58:29Z

Like many of you my husband of 1 year plays like nothing eles exsists! He has been playing for 4 years and i cant count the fights and the tears i've had. I have totaly run out of options. Everytime I bring it up he yells and throws things, he tells me that he plays cause he's bord, angry, had a bad day, stressed out.....I'm so tired of the same excuses, I have told him that I feel like he would rather choose the game over me. He put his wow account on MY visa card while I was on the phone!! When I asked him about it he said he would pay me every month for it....we have a joint bank account..mmmm??!! I tell him that I feel loney and 2nd best to his game, at least 2 a week I tell him that he spends more time with night elves than he does with his on wife. He tells me he will cut back and askes me what i wanna do so I think..mm, he really wants to spend time with me, so we go to the mall. The whole time were there he huffs and puffs and the minute we get home he is back on the game, My husnad is a hard worker and usually works 7 days a week, but everyday after work he starts the computer up and plays till he decideds to come to bed (I cant remember the last time he came to bed with me) Weekends he is up tat 8 in the morning and will play till4 the next morning. I read about marriges ending and its so sad that this game is destroying ppls lives. My husband is the love of my life we made a promise to each other, but obviously he is not living up to his end of the deal. We never talk anymore and i'm not expecting him to sit there and talk for hours about "sex in the city" but our conversations for the whole time we see each other is "how was your day"? "fine..how was yours" "ok" Thats my life. What am I supposed to do? I'm tired of haveing the same issues with him and having a husband who doesnt RESPECT my feelings! I would never do anything to hurt my husband in anyway and if he ever came to me and said "wife..that really hurt me" Would you not do anything and everything in your power to make it better? I'm just so glad that I finally have ppl out there that are going through the samething iam, ppl who can support me and relate to me. We are all on here for one purpose and one purpose only......To get our husbands, boyfriens, girlfriend, wife...friends... BACK.

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Finally! People who understand how destructive WOW can be!

2008-07-15T21:47:19Z

I have read some posts on these pages and it would appear that there are some people who disagree that WOW is not evil. These people are sadly deluded. I watched my husband get involved with this game and watched everything else go by the wayside. Our relationship, his job, any interest in anything else including his natural musical ability and his love for the outdoors. The only time he showed any interest in anything beside his precious game and his precious guild was when his stomach started growling.

People who use the 'if you can't beat them, join them' attitude must be kidding. We watch our loved ones being sucked up into this fantasy and see the impact of losing partners to this game all too clearly. Why would we then wish to become involved in something that is worst than any narcotic on the street? The problem with WOW is that it is a drug and most people choose not to recognize its addictive strength.

I begged, I pleaded, I did everything I could think of to make him happy and come away from his game. Finally I was left with no option but to give him an ultimatum. I am now making a new life for myself. I believe he has moved states, actually moved into a house with members from his guild. Divorce is in the works. Oh - when I finally got his attention away from WOW he reacted by punching me in the face and throwing me to the ground like a rag doll. And people still want to say there is nothing wrong with WOW? If it can create reactions like that from its players then I think there is a problem with the game.

The one really ironic moment for me was when I learned that he had talked his mom into connecting DSL and pay his WOW membership. After I left he ran back to his mommy considering he had no work and no money to look after himself anymore. This was after two years of trying to get her to see his addiction. If he had been addicted to booze or crack would she have been so fast to bring him home a six pack or score drugs from a dealer? The problem with WOW and games of its ilk is their addictive qualities are so insipid and yet so pervasive as many of us here have learnt first hand.

I don't expect my one post will do much (if anything) against such a monster as WOW. But it is a relief to find that there are people on here who share similar views to myself. So thank you for being here.

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Really hate WoW

2008-05-29T21:50:09Z

Well, yet another internet addiction for my dear husband, and this one keeps me from sleeping until 4:00 am when he graces me with his presence. I can't say I was fine with all the others, (fan-fic, Baldour's Gate, Bane?, on-line roleplay) that not only made him late for work and got him fired, but kept him from speaking to me, visiting family and interacting with live people, but at least he'd put them down once in a while.

This one is terrible! He's owned it for a week and lost the new job! Not only is he completely absorbed in this game, his friends are encouraging him. One goes off line, another comes on... he's still there!

Yesterday was the worst. It was our 6 month anniversary, but we had a funeral to go to, so it wasn't the best day to begin with. He wanted to skip the service. He didn't want to go to lunch with my parent's (I was driving, so we did) and when I wanted to visit my aunt he said "can you do that later, I'm feeling kinda... ugh." But he's feeling 'not ugh' enough to stop at Circuit City and get a microphone, but 'too ugh' to go to the book store. Then the minute we got home he's on WoW!

He finally rolled into bed at 4:00 am after talking all night. We were supposed to go to a family brunch today. Not happening. I'm not going without him to say, "yes dear mother-in-law, your son is still asleep after playing WoW for over 15 hours, and is no longer employed." "what's WoW, you ask? Well, it's a computer game with nifty graphics, and the unique power to make me really angry at the person I love most!"

I don't like being angry him. I can't decide if I should go live at my parent's house for the next 3 months or if I should throw the game in the dumpster! Probably shouldn't do that, he'd just go buy another and get mad at me.

Any helpful suggestions from more experienced victims would be appreciated. I'm not going to try to seduce him when I'm angry because I don't want to use sex as a weapon, and I can't turn the electricity off as he knows where the breaker box is... and I can't afford a vacation thanks to the unemployment situation... I'm at a loss.

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married 7 months and wow is ruining everything

2008-05-27T19:05:07Z

i am so upset i might not post something coherent. i've been married seven months. Before I got married, i knew my husband played wow, but i didn't know how much he NEEDED to play. We didn't live together until we got married so I never really saw it. He played at work because he had a job where he basically babysat a slow store. I thought he played just to pass the time. But i swear, he needs this game more than he needs me. We have fought over this game and the issues surrounding this game at least every other day. He knows it makes me lonely because when he's on the computer, that's all he cares about and I might as well be single. He quit today, but not of his own will. I simply suggested that he might quit since it was causing us to fight so much. He did, but he's furious. Tonight is the first night he's going to bed angry with me. Tonight is the first night I feel he's no longer in love with me. And all because of a stupid fucking game.

I kept warning him that this game was going to ruin our marriage. I told him that I was starting to feel bitter and resentful and that I was started to feel hatred in my heart. I told him how hurtful it was that he simply didn't care how much his behavior was hurting me. He's watched me cry over it almost every other day for the past 7 months. He's been willing to cause me pain and fight with me because he NEEDS this game so much. He is unwilling to admit that this game is of utmost priority to him. That it causes him to neglect his duties as a husband and a father. He becomes agitated and impatient with both me and his five month old daughter if he feels we are interrupting his play time. She doesn't deserve that and neither do I.

Like I said, he quit. But I feel it will majorly affect our marriage because Wow was his happiness, not me. Wow filled his needs, not me. So without Wow, he will no longer have his happiness, and he will no longer be getting what he thinks he needs.

My parents failed at their marriage, though they made it 35 years before the end. It breaks my heart to think that ours could fail too. I feel so horrible for my child. I feel that I failed her more than anything else already. I don't want her to grow up with two parents that despise each other. I wanted her to grow up in a warm, loving, nurturing home. I wanted her to see a mother and father who loved each other and loved her. I never had that. My parents hated each other. And this was last thing I wanted to happen. And she's only five months old. She deserves better than that.

Wow and marriage cannot coexist. They cannot. Even wow with boundaries cannot exist. It is an all or nothing game... in between just does not work. I told my husband today he shouldn't have married me. He should have remained single so that he could play Wow, his real love, with no interruption. I deserve a husband. A full time husband. All his thoughts are preoccupied with Wow. I deserve to be wtih a man who is preoccupied with our future, preoccupied about "making it" as a family... both financially and emotionally. I deserve a man who is preoccupied with loving his family. All my husband thinks about is getting his 10 games and doing his dailies... and all I think about is taking care of my child and making it as a family. Something is wrong here... and i'm sad to think about what the solution is....

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Years of WOW

2008-05-01T13:20:49Z

Hubby of 14 years has always played his games but nothing compared to this.He has been playing wow for quite a few years now.Ignores his wife and children.Never goes anywhere(not even the store) besides work.Stays up till the wee hours of the morning and then doesnt want to get up for work.Luckily his job lets him slide with going in late everyday.I am fed up.I love him but anger is building everyday.Ihave been a homemaker all this time and recently went back to school this past year for nursing.I feel like a single parent. My children even complain to him about how he lives on Wow. Sooner or late Im gonna bash this computer in and leave if things dont change.I can deal with gameplaying but not with me and my children being ignored for a chatroom online game

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When its all around you

2008-04-16T00:24:53Z

Ok so my fiance plays Wow... At first I was like let me try maybe we can do it together! Then I realized I wasnt as stupid as he... I mean they sit there and waste hours of their lives.... I travel alot so we are away from eachother about 1/2 the year... he plays constantly while I am gone...He doesnt work he doesnt pick up after himself... I come home to a house thats a mess and a scruffy looking version of the man I fell in love with.... NOW his best friend has moved in with us after a messy divorce HE PLAYS TOO...OMGOSH I dont know what to do they think Im just being a bitch when all I want is a man who can stop playing his games long enough to go to work.... I mean this is the man that will be the father to my children !!!!! I feel so lost and alone thanks for this .... I needed to vent ..... PS Wow is more important than sex to this crazy gamer!!!!

I NEED HELP

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another victim

2008-03-16T03:44:57Z

My boyfriend and I had a wonderful relationship until his two friends moved in with him. They are a couple who plays WOW 24/7 together and love it. Now that they live here, all he wants to do is play WOW. We are a very long distance relationship and it costs me $500 to come here and he spends the whole time WOWing and its such bullsh**. Now we have broken up because he wants to sit at home all day and play this stupid stupid game. He thinks the fact that I like to leave the house is weird and that I deserve better. It's so true. Oh well! I am NEVER getting involved with a gamer again!

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Hating WOW!!

2008-03-09T01:36:45Z

My boyfriend started me a person on the game and everything was fine until, he started sitting next to me and yelling at me, so i got up and told him and the game to fuck themselfs....And he never would have gotten into the game if we didnt let one of his friends stay here for over a month....This game really was made to break people up....He thinks that im just angry, and its more then just that, when he is on the game he doesn't listen to me/ hear me at all....he gets up only to go to the bathroom, or to grab a pepsi....and he wonders why i dont want to have sex with him....he barely showers anymore, he can't leave the game for 15 min to shower, WTF?! I needed to find some place to vent, and i found it...He eventually gets off the game to go to sleep, but he mostly sleeps in his recliner that is at his computer....i want to tell him to get the fuck out, but he doesnt have a job right now, or a working car, or family that is willing to help him out, so i just let myself to get walked on...i feel like i am allowing myself to get cheated on in my own apartment...i need help...i always feel like i am the problem...and in my heart i know its not me, its that game.

DOWN WITH WORLD OF WARCRAFT!

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Used to love WoW, until it consumed my bf

2008-01-28T21:34:09Z

I'm both a former gamer and a WoW widow living with my boyfriend of 5 years. I started with AD&D with a group of friends in high school, then added games like Bungie's Myth series, sitting at my computer until 4am with my order. In college, I got into Star Wars Galaxies, and switched to WoW when it first came out, and my boyfriend and I would often play together, but even back then he would put in more hours than I could. While I played enough to be involved in WoW end-game content, I also made time to go out, to hang out with my friends, and keep up with my academic commitments.

Now, I'm in grad school working my butt off. I work seven days a week, 65+ hours. I can't be home in time to raid with the guild that my boyfriend and I belong to. I tried transferring my main to a different server to join a guild that raided later in the evenings. However, raiding without my boyfriend just wasn't as much fun, and I didn't feel like it was worth it to rush home from work and devote my scarce free time if I wasn't really really enjoying myself. I've considered leveling another character on my bf's server now that the xpack is out, but ultimately I realized that since I can't keep up with my boyfriend's schedule, and he can't find the time to play with me outside of his regularly scheduled raids, it's just not worth it. I am so hurt that he won't even make time to play with me - it's like even when I bend over backward to keep my limited WoW time available, he'd rather play with his other friends. I canceled my subscription about a week ago.

My boyfriend works as a consultant, and very frequently just works from home for a few hours. This leaves him tons of spare time while I'm at work. I don't want to tell him that he can't play WoW, because I don't want to take away his amusement while I'm gone. On the other hand, almost every night or weekend when I'm home, he's playing. I thought I would feel less lonely if I could come home and play too, but like I said before, even though I tried a guild that had a later schedule, it wasn't the same - we were playing the same game, right next to each other, but we were in completely different worlds. At least when we raided together, we were interacting.

We've talked and fought about WoW many times. He knows that I feel neglected. Our sex life is dead; our social life is dead. We live together but we hardly speak. I alternate between being furious and miserable. I try going out on weekends with my friends, but I can't forget that he could have come with me, but he'd rather play WoW. I understand that he is committed to his guild, but I consider real life commitments to be way more important. Back in college, if I was raiding and my real life roommate came to me with a problem, you better believe I excused myself to talk to her. If I had friends or family in town, WoW was put on hold. With him, even if he's not in a raid, he's constantly chatting with guildmates, farming mats, completing dailies, getting enchants, upping his arena rating... Everything I say, I'm interrupting him, because he's always in the middle of a conversation with the guild. He's yelled at me for playing with the dog too loudly while he's raiding. My grandfather passed away unexpectedly several months ago, and I flew home briefly for the funeral. When I returned, I was still devastated, but I was left to deal with it myself, because my boyfriend was raiding.

I don't know what to do. I feel like I made it so easy for him - I mean, I started out a gamer! He's so into progression, though, that he's not willing to play with me since I can't commit the same amount of time. In fact, he's made me resent the game. I have fantasies about deleting his characters or throwing his monitor into the courtyard. Instead, I sit around bored and lonely, waiting for him to finish so maybe we can hang out for a few hours before bedtime. He used to play hockey, work out at the gym, go running with friends, spend LOTS of time with me . . . now it's all WoW, all the time. I bought him a gift certificate for a month of drum lessons for his birthday - he's always wanted to play the drums. It's gathering dust on his desk. I don't want to throw away five years, but I don't want to spend my life like this, either. :(

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Lost a friend to WOW

2008-01-09T23:30:25Z

Last year my buddy and I joined WOW
We started playing together and slowly he began playing without me. He made a lot of WoW friends and spent time playing with them instead of with me. I made a few friends, nothing serious except I started to fall for this one girl. It didn't work out though (thank god).

My buddy started getting real serious about the game. One time I accidentally chose need over greed, it wasn't a very good item but my buddy got real mad. He said "you know in a good party, you would have probably been kicked out." It was a mistake on my part. After that, he didn't talk to me for three days. But seriously, who cares about the item? We're friends in real life? Why would it matter?
Eventually I guess the came becomes reality and you can't distinguish between reality and unreality.

Anyways, eventually I reached level 70. Once I realized how time consuming getting the best gear was, I got bored and couldn't stand playing. I quit. - But my buddy kept playing

Before WoW, my friend and I used to play other online games, we would chat on MSN, text eachother,go to the gym.etc etc.
Now, he's never on MSN, never texts me, never goes to the gym. Like how could you put your life on hold for a stupid game?
I don't even know if he works anymore!
I remember before his addiction he talked about his girlfriend. I think he said they broke up because she didn't like him playing the game.

Before the WoW addiction, my buddy agreed to come to a Kanya West concert with a bunch of friends. So when the time came, I didn't think he would show up because of WoW. I was surprised when he came on MSN. I guess he thought he had to make an appearance. So we went to the concert. The next day, he disappeared and never saw him on MSN again.

I haven't talked to him forever, I don't even know if he's playing WOW anymore. Maybe he moved to another MMORPG??

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WoW stole my boyfriend

2008-01-05T12:53:30Z

my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 9 months, and everything was good....until i found out he was cheating on me...WITH WOW! wow stole my boyfriend. i thought getting him burning crusades would be something he would like, i didnt expect him to replace me with it. if i go to his house, i watch him play wow, which i dont mind that much, cause im pretty interested in the game. but what upsets me, is when he gets frustrated with the game, which happens often, and he takes it out on me, which really hurts my feelings. its not like hes a loner, he usually gets together with his friends all the time for little pow WoWs, which turn into all night raids. i used to see my boyfriend almost every day and things were great, now, the him i see is often through the text messages that he rarely answers anymore. i broke down a couple days ago because i couldnt take it anymore, and i felt like he was playing his computer before me, which in my opinion he was. of course, he denied it. i told him that im not asking him to choose between wow and me, but if things stayed the way they were i would have to break up with him, no matter how bad ididnt want to. he promised that hed see me more often for the rest of the summer....it was true for a couple days, but at the moment he is running karazan, which he probably has been doing for the past 8 hours. i really wouldnt mind if it was something he did every once in a while, but i feel like im wasting my summer waiting for the moments when hes not on the computer

this game is addictive, and to me seems as bad as any drug out there. it tears apart families, friendships, and relationships. anything that destructive isnt good. i know i dont have it as bad as some of the people here, but i never knew there were other people out there who felt like they were being put on the bottom shelf for a computer game.

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i can't believe it

2007-12-10T06:02:12Z

I could never have begin to comprehend the destruction wow is causing in so many lives after having joined this website and tribe. I am a newlywed of only 3 months. I love my husband with all my heart and soul. He is the greatest thing that ever happened to me. Little did I know that he has an addiction. Sad thing is I didn't realize until just recently. My husband got himself into a mess at work because he lied so he could stay home and play. he apologized to me, to work, he felt so much remorse and shame. and all i think was, "we'll get through this." sometimes some people have to fall before they realize what they have done. that's exactly what happened, and everything was well for the next three weeks. he said that was it, he was done. until it came...his insatiable urge to play. i hate it. and yet there is nothing i can do. i should have known that because he hadn't taken the game off of his computer right after it happened...that he never would. I just don't know what to do. I'm so concerned, but he takes my care and concern as a threat, an attack. i just want to protect him from making another mistake. but he says he must prove to himself that he can play in moderation. it's been three days and he's played every single day for God knows how long...i am at work. what do i know? I just can't believe how much this game changes him. he is such an amazing person, until the claws of wow sink into his brain. he becomes so consumed...i just don't know what to do, because my tears and words never convey to him my concern. the heartache and frustration is starting to snowball again, and this time, i don't know what i'll do because i can't tolerate his behavior...but i know i'm bound to...

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WOW HATER

2007-12-04T21:36:44Z

I sit here once again wondering whats wrong with him,
At first I decided it was too much for one man,
So I made out a plan to stay as quiet as I can,
I sat by and watched as my world fell apart,
He went on clicking like it was an art,
I wanted to cry t o him "please dont leave"
But off to his mistress i seen and couldnt belive,
I tried to talk to him and tell him how I felt,
I even screamed and yelled till I cried,
But he just went back to chatting,
And I went back to living a lie.
I posted a blog, called my freinds,tried to live again.
Then came the holidays and I was so glad,
One more chance to celebrate with the husband I had,
One dumb reason and he was back on his way,
To one place I hate and the world of unknown.
Home to his game and his online freinds,
Back to the one thing that is causing our end.
One or Two hours i could endure,
But day after day i wish for a cure.
How do I tell him that I cant take no more,
How can I do it without walking out the door?
I think maybe we should move on,
so we can still be friends before that too is gone.
Some people break up for mundane reasons,
But what if yours actually changes with the seasons?
Holloween, christmas it is all there,
for the people whose lives they cannot bare,
At least if he was cheating with another girl,
H e would still be living in this world.
So as I pack my things and my childrens too,
I wish to say to you..........
WORLD OF WARCRAFT SHOULD COME WITH A WARNING LABLE,
ATTENTION: MAY INHIBIT ALL RELATIONSHIPS, INCLUDING FAMILY & FREINDS.

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I love playing wow and am heartbroken by some stories here

2007-12-01T06:27:27Z

Hi

Im new here. I just randomly searched anti wow and came up with this. Im sorry to hear all these stories about how it has negatively impacted your lives. I currently play quite a bit of warcraft. About 3-6 hours a day. But I am kind of on vacation so its ok. Ive had good self control when I need to. Many of you have had issues with your spouses and this game. Another person before mentioned that its NOT the game, its the relationship and he got jumped all over for that. I am suggesting that it is possible and most likely a combination of the two...the game and the relationship. There might be something lacking in the relationship that is filled in by the game and i am not suggesting another relationship (even though it does happen). I would just like to encourage any of you with problems to seek a real conversation instead of just getting mad. Its just like talking to someone on drugs or someone who is drunk, its not gonna work if you get mad and yell. Be a good listener would be my best advice. Please try and work things out with people. thanks.

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Wow is killing my bf PLEASE HELP ME!!!

2007-11-26T13:22:46Z

Me and my bf have been dating for a while and I think he is the one but the only problem is he plays too much wow and I don't know what 2 do I broke up with him but I got tired of going back and forth looking for guys like him.So I need your help and I don't know what 2 do,I rly care about him but it is ruining my life and his one day he didnt even anwser me cause he was playing wow and That is frying his brain.I mean hes negleting me and ignoring me so now I dont know what to do Plz help me!!!!!!!!

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My husband is a world of warcraft zombie

2007-11-26T13:19:26Z

I have been so lonely since my husband bought world of war craft 4 months ago. I can see this is turning into an addiction. He spends every night from 7 until 2 or 3 am to play. He quit a good job making $21 to go to a less demanding job making 12.50 an hour to play.
I started college 4 months ago and we had one computer he and I were competing for computer time. So he went to a rent to own place and got me a laptop very sweet you say... Fuck no it was so he could play WOW without me getting in his way. We have DirecTV and they were offering a 12 month free subscription to WOW but some how they weren't honoring the deal. So he called and called and called them day on end spending hours on the phone to get this deal to no avail finally they gave us a credit for the WOW amount.
I am very ill and I desperately need to see a doctor often we are going broke from him quitting his job to go to a lesser paying job but he cares not. I brought up maybe getting a part time job so I can go to a doctor he said oh I’ll look. Nothing not a dam thing happened. We have been married for 10 years I thought he was my best friend I guess I was wrong. I hate world of war craft and the pencil dicks that created it. I am ashamed of my looser husband and who he has became in such a short time.

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Baby on the way and can't get my husband out of the computer!!!!!

2007-11-25T13:46:25Z

Please help me! I have a baby on the way in 3 months and all my husband does all day from when he gets home to when he goes to sleep is play that game! All I can think to do is force him to give it up make him cancel it and take all the money away from him and tell him to get some fucking counsling.... He promised me he wouldn't let the game ruin us again and not even a month after I let him start playing again it happens. We almost got divorced over this once and now he is doing it again and sees nothing wrong with it!!!! I mean you have to be fucking kidding me right!? What should I do, I don't want to have to tell my son later in life that his dad choose a video game over us!!!!

This is so sad and I'm so lost. I don't want this to be the end of us. I'm also a part time student and like I said have a baby on the way in 3 months and he wants me to get a job now!!! So that he can feel like we are paying the bills!!!! He cries about how we have no money and that we can get anything and then he spends 150 on his fucking warlock!!!!!!! That could have paid to get something fixed and he acts like he doesn't care!!!!!!!! I know hes depressed and this is the easiest thing for him to distrack him from work (he's in the Navy) but I mean come on!!!!! He says we have nothing in common and that he doesn't feel like he loves me anymore and all this bullshit but yet we have a shit load in common and he just looks past it because I don't like wow!!!!! Please some one help me!!!!

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I was addicted, it ruins lives

2007-11-25T13:36:40Z

I was addicted to these games for nearly 3 years... i was addicted to wow for nearly a year and a half... its been a year since i played ... and i see the fricken EVIL in wow... i've seen friendships, relationships, careers (school and professional) and lives go all down the drain. I feel like i was a witness to a slaughter, or a massacre, what these games did to people was atrocious, although somtimes amusing. I saw it all, i participated in a lot, ive seen much of what can happen to a person or persons from all three views... as the person its happening to ... as the person who watched it happen, and the person who tried to council people through that crap.... my last months in the game i got tired of playing... i just talked to people .... thats the only thing i miss, that is ... meeting people with like interests and interacting with them... but... the last few months i was there i spent a a lot of my time counciling people whose addiction was ruining their lives and the lives around them ... i've seen people get cheated on ... marriages break up ... children neglected ... i became an expert on what was dysfunctional about the game and the people in it. It made me sick ... its a horrible thing ... the sad thing .... is ... you can't help these people ... they're addicted .... and this addiction spreads a fricken cancer that corrupts everything around them, all you can do is try to lead them down the paths of making the right decisions for them selves .... get them to see what they are doing to themselves and others ... and through alot of listening and advice ... try to help them drive themselves towards what is not destructive ... ive got a lot of stories, ive seen and heard a lot of things... i hate wow

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Need Help!!!

2007-11-18T07:21:13Z

I am a young married woman, with 2 small children. My husband loved games ever sicne I knew him, and the occasional playing all weekend didnt bother me. We'd have friends over, I'd go out with my friends, and he'd stay and play games all day and night. Well, we got married, and had our kids and then about 10 months ago he finds WoW. I hated it from the start, everytime I said anything I ws ignored, he was so focused on this game, that I couldve accidently killed myself and he wouldnt have noticed. Then after awhile I gave in and began playing myself and agreed that it was very fun. But also very time consuming. I actually got to level 66! While our son was a newborn, my husband changed to the night shift (4pm-10pm) to help me with feedings in the middle of the night. We were supposed to go back to the day shift together like most normal families do. Well, now I am working days, where he works. And instead of going back to the day shift with me he wants to stay on nights. But I heard so much crap from him about having to go to nights to help me out. He hated working nights because he works every night during the week and all day saturday. He tells me he just enjoys working nights now. So here is our day:

I get up in the morning to go to work and work 9 am to 3pm. It takes about 20 minutes to get home, so when I get home, he goes straight to work. I spend the evening with the kids, cleaning and cooking and baths, and trying to get them in bed. He gets home around 11 pm, at which point I try to be in bed by then or have to go to bed as soon as he gets home. He stays up until about 4 am playing WoW. Sleeps all morning and Im gone by the time he wakes up.

He keeps saying he just likes working nights. But I know he just wants to play this game uninterrupted. And he doesnt care how many nights I cry myself to sleep, wishing he would want to be with me more than a stupid game. So tonight I have sent all my gold and items to his character and will never play again. Eventually if he doesnt start to notice me or miss me or spends more time with me in any way, Im going to leave him. I dont know where I'll go....but any place is better than living here with such lonliness.

And to all you MEN out there:
You can make as many excuses as you want, I have heard them all "It's not your time, its mine" Thats a complete lie, I dont care who you are. If you're a married man, you're time is you're whole family's time.

And to that jerk Daniel....... You're going to die a very lonely man. Like the kind kids run away from when they're little and make up crazy names for....like for you itll probably be "Cry for me Danny Boy" "I hate on WoW haters" "i cant relate to you because I have no one who cares about me so I sit in a virtual game where I can be a gay blood elf who thinks all these cute blood elf chicks think Im hot, when theyr'e really guys pretending to be chicks, while they jerk off looking at meon the screen" HAHA get a life. Good lcuk with the girls.

If any of you people who feel like their partners love their game more than you. I feel for you, feel free to chat with me

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FUCK WOW

2007-11-06T08:42:56Z

excuse my language... but from what i see and understand from a EX. of a wow player is this....

they play because in the game they are the KING of the domain... they kill monsters! get praises from people all over the world! and they level up and get "STRONGER" and have better weapons and spells ETC.

WHILE IN THE REAL WORLD... THEY ARE TO THEIR EYES... INCOMPETENT. OR NOT AS STRONG AS THEY ARE IN THE GAME! WHATEVER !

But in the game you are strong and MIGHTY... but they game will not play real mortgages and FEED YA FUCKING KIDS! fucking retards!

now don't get me wrong...not all players of the game are this way... only those that seem to LIVE, EAT, WAKE UP for the fucking game! those that play 2-3 hours a day... thats a bit much but for that game i guess its okay... sort of a hobby... but when all you do IS PLAY... then its NO LONGER a hobby... its slowing taking over your LIFE...

FUCK U STEPHEN!!!

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I just wish he would stop...

2007-09-15T02:33:01Z

Me and my bf of currently almost 8 months now, are fighting for our relationship because of WoW. Well, atleast I am.
He doesnt seem to care about anything anymore, everything that once mattered to him means nothing. The other night, I was throwing up on the floor for over an hour, and when i tried to call, he rejected it because he was playing WoW. No one was home but me, and I couldn't get up off the floor.
Whenever I try and talk to him about his addiction, he either shrugs it off and says he is sorry, promising for it to never happen again, or just getting angry and lashing out at me. No matter how many times he swore never to ditch me for that game again, hes always gone against his word and played when he promised to talk to me.
He told me he was going to ask me to marry him. Now, I am only 14, and he is 18 so he knew I couldn't anyway, thats why he didnt ask me. We were so inlove, and we had such a deep connection. He can't see that he's losing me and everything we ever had. I've lost all the good memories, and whenever I think of him now, I can't help but break down and cry. I don't understand how he can say he loves me, yet play a game instead of spending time with his gf. This problem has just been escalating over the past few weeks, and hes left about 20 minutes this whole week to communicate with me.
I don't know what to do anymore. I've tried ignoring him and talking to him about it, I've even tried threatening a break up, but nothing seems to work, and if it does its only short term.
Please, if any of you have any ideas on what I can do, I would really appreciate it if you could share them with me.
Thanks for your time, and thanks for reading.
And guys reading this, never make the mistake of rejecting your gf for a game. It won't get you anywhere.
Thanks again everyone

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Marriage almost over!

2007-09-06T04:35:02Z

I, like many of you, entered "I hate world of warcraft" and up poped this. I have been married for 15 years. Great guy. We have 2 great kids. My son asked for this game for his birthday. Well, now my husband plays. I thought it was harmless and rather enjoyed hearing about the mystical adventures until Saturday night. I stumbled accross a very inviting e-mail to my husband from deb. Yes the famous other woman is now a third in my mariage. They are "friends" from the game. I asked him what he would think if he found an e-mail like that to me from a man.
Anyway, standard statements took place, you know, Baby, I would never cheat on you. I love you. She is just a friend. Blah, blah, blah!!!! He was actually more mad that I read the e-mail than what the e-mail implied.
I could go on and on, but I think you get the idea. My point being, I have been out of this game for a long time. I know what I think but I would love any imput. This all started with this game. It has forced me to really look at my marriage. I am begining to wonder if besides our love for the kids we really have anything else in common. After this many years, amazing how things change.

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Help!!!!

2007-09-01T23:37:35Z

I'm 21 years old i've been married for 4 yrs and 2 months pregnant with our 4th baby, so asking him to choose between me and the game right now is not the greatest idea, i actually tried it and believe it or not he told me that if i was willing to let a game get between our relationship then that was up to me. We have 3 kids the oldest will be 5 this month, my scond will be 3 in oct. and my baby is 7 months, well he has been plating since before i got pregnant with the baby, and my whole pregnancy was like hell he was playing about 5 hours a day during the week and 6 to 8 on the weekend, now he plays less but almost every day, he sleeps all morning works all the afternoon and plays all night. I feel so lonely and tired it's not easy taking care of 3 kids and being pregnant, the worst thing is that i start work next week and i know he is not going to stop playing. I dont know what to do i've tried everything being nice, being mean, ignoring him please give me some advice.

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Im new to this :) this is my WoW widow story

2007-08-22T03:19:35Z

hello to everyone who reads this
I agree with all the posts I have read. This game is ridiculous and needs to go. I have been with my off again on again boyfriend for you could say 4 years. The major problem with our relationship is WoW. at first we went out and did things together, HE HAD A JOB!!!!!! things were great :) and then he started playing Diablo 2 here and there. ok, it was all good, I moved in with him and his grandparents until I could get on my feet. He started playing Diablo more and more, and kept telling me about this new game coming out, called World of Warcraft. I got my own place and stupidly let him move in with me, because We were " in love." Well that's when you know what hit the fan. that was going three years ago. I worked my butt off doing doubles and 12 hour shifts and trying to make it in the Nursing world, I would come home and he couldn't even pull himself away from the computer long enough to ask me how my night was. Eventually he lost his job . I think in the four years we have been hanging out he worked maybe 2 years of that. He would play WoW from the time he got up until he went to bed. He never found a job. Eventually about 2 Decembers ago I kicked him out and I will not let him move back in. We still remained friends and around last April he gave me this sob story about how he wants to marry me and have kids and what not. well it's now the end of august, he's still not working and he had a coronary because his monitor broke and His computer and WoW is "his Life" That was a total slap in the face. I actually found out some bad news Friday and instead of supporting me, he kept complaining about his monitor and how he wont be able to play his game for a week. soo all those girls who know how I feel, give me a shout back :) I need support !!! :)

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Some don't understand

2007-07-29T18:10:29Z

Thank goodness I found this site and I know there are people who understand. This game has truly stolen a lot from me. Well, another RPg, Star War Galaxies, took the communication out of my last marriage that I wish i still had more than anything. But now we are dating again, and I walked into his house to see WOW on the screen. My kids don't care about much other than that. The topic of discussion is guilds etc.
Can the people I see posting being ugly about how we feel see that it is really painful to be second to a fake world?
Here is the link to the Blog I broke down and wrote this AM.
http://blog.myspace.com/andreaskye

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he didnt play...at first

2007-07-06T23:39:43Z

We had been engaged for five years (he was in the Navy and I was in college, we could never get our schedules to coordinate) So anyways, he goes home on leave for two week and comes back addicted to wow. I didnt go with him cause I couldnt get off work. And I will admit that I played, I was addicted . . . for a while. It wasnt so bad when we were both playing, I didnt think anything of it. Then we got married and we were still avid players. I got pregnant, and we were still avid players. I had the baby, and I stopped playing. I now have no intrest in the game and totally feel for everyone who has a loved one addicted to this game. I do EVERYTHING. I cook, clean, laundry, take out garbage, take care of the baby and work full time. He wont even change a diaper if hes playing. He comes home from work anywhere between 12 and 3, and instead of picking up baby he plays. He has saturdays off, I dont, he makes me take the baby to a sitter so he can play all day long. I have four hours with my daughter after work and before she goes down for the night, and instead of spending time with her I am doing last nights dishes or trying to catch up on laundry, or cooking. He wont lift a finger to help out. If she starts to get fussy, or hungry, do ya think he would do anything? Of course not! "Amy, your daughter wants you" Last time I had any time to myself was when I had to go the doctors cause I was sick and couldnt take the baby. Does anyone feel me? Its like, hello . . . what do I have to do to make him see me or her. I tried unplugging the computer, I broke the damn thing!!! He went out and bought a new one. He gets mad if I bother him with anything while hes playing. Nothing I say or do stops him. Sometimes he will help out for an hour or so after I explode on him, but then its right back to the same thing. If anyone has any ideas (aside from divorcing him) I am all ears.

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NEW ANTI WOW SITE

2007-07-02T01:45:23Z

http://www.myspace.com/wowsucksass

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wow ruined everything..

2007-05-31T00:22:49Z

I'm currently in a relationship with my boyfriend brian. we were perfect for eachother, yes we are only 18.. but we just loved eachother and bla bla bla.
well around christmas break from school he disappeared for 3 days while i was out of town. all his friends called me saying "wheres brian? last i heard he went to the store with his dad and that was like.. 4 hours ago" just non stop calls.
i would call him and his phone was off. i was like.. freaking out thinking the worst like he was dead or something crazy like that.
but nope. he ended up hiding out at my next door neighbors while i was out of town, which is our good friend dan.. well his good friend, not so much mine anymore.
well anyways thats when it all started.
its gotten to the point where he plays wow so much and im just completely competing with it. I think its f'ing ridiculous.
us girls should have to put up with it. its so controlling. completely changes the people who play.
anyways. me and brian fight almost everyday. to the point where he just emotionally abuses me constantly because im jealous of a game. yes its stupid that im jealous. but im finally aware that im not the only girl who feels this way.
it got to the point where us hanging out turned into me sitting next to him at his desk for hours while he played.
then it got so bad that he joined this like.. competitive guild or something where they went on these ridiculous raids from like 6pm-1 or 2am. nonstop playing. they took place friday,saturday and monday.. and i flipped out. those were my weekends and i hated how i was home alone while he played his stupid game.
well finally he quit that. but now him and dan made their own guild.. and websites they are so involved with.
even his mom right in front of me will yell at him and be like "what fun are you? all you do is play warcraft 18 hours a day" and i totally agree. its terrible. torture.
his friend dan, who is also addicted (he has no girlfriend, never really had a serious one) always says "brian why have a girlfriend when you have wow?" he calls me a bitch because i complain when i get ditched because of a game.
a pointless game might i add. there is no point, no end. i dont understand. its a bunch of magical BS!!!!
ugh. i threaten him constantly with wanting to break up because i feel like number 2 to a game.
he just calls me names.
he never leaves his room, its like an inconvenience for him to shower, he eats in his room so theres plates. its disgusting. i cant stand it.
i feel like im just there for his "after wow sex" or something.
everyone, including his non wow playing friends say you should just dump him already.
or just break up with him for a weekend to make him realize how much he misses me.
which to me would most likely backfire. he would love not having me nagging him about hanging out.
he would have all the time in the world to play his precious "wow".
before all this.. he always said " we will get married, move in, ect" now.. i dont even know.

what should i do? break up with him? just sit here and take it?
i almost feel like i should just deal with it, because id be more miserable without him because i dont think i could love anyone as much as him.
its just.. when hes playing i wish he could pay me a little more attention, call me , something. hes just so addicted.
this kid needs and f'ing intervention or something. all these guys do.

ahh help!

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hate this effing game i need to vent

2007-05-30T17:26:35Z

my boyfriend and i are in a long distence relationship, im in ny and he is in florida. we've been fine for a year until he has recently started playing wow. i hate it. he plays for hours on end and doesnt call me when he says and then when we are on the phone he is still playing and isnt listening to anything i am saying. pisses me off and when i get mad he says " why are you getting so mad over a video game".
im about fed up and i have every right to be, there is a whole REAL world out there guys, i dont understand why you waste so much time playing this sh*t!!!

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i hate it hate it hate it

2007-05-25T06:00:56Z

i hate wow, how repetive it is, the same lvl 16-22 dungeon, the same lvl 33-41 dungeon the repetitiveness, the same quest in ganker land just to lvl up ur toon, the same want 2 play on it, the feeling u get when u kill sumone lvl gray just for fun, the same feeling u get when u take out there hero they called in to kill u, the same armor every charicter wheres, the same shield ppl have, the same group waste ur time, the sameness in every group, omfg how fucken repetitive it fucken is

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Ok, so if all you girls knew your partners played Warcraft...

2007-04-20T06:04:47Z

Why are you getting all tetchy about them playing it? If you had an issue with the game, you should never of allowed things to advance to the stage where the problem becomes that big.
You knew they played WoW, and you knew they played it a lot. If you expected them to change for you, you were going to be disappointed by other things, not just WoW.

I play WoW...extensively, I might add, but I don't care. I enjoy it. To anyone who tells me to get out, and get a social life, WoW is, for all intents and purposes, my social life. I can meet and talk to people often living hundreds of miles away, and, unlike real life, if I meet a bit of an idiot, you only have to ignore them. And it's not the real life kind of ignore, where they decide to be an idiot and follow you around, and still try to speak to you, this is like, lock them in a box and never have to look at them again ignore.

To the guy who said WoW is a con, you have a small point there, but it's voiced in an incredibly bad way.
Yes, your PC may need to be upgraded, but that's true for *everything*, not just WoW. His next point, the subscription fees being too much, are a matter of opinion. He feels they are too expensive for a game that is tedious and repetitive. I'm sure everyone here has preferences on TV shows? Subscribing to an online game is like paying the TV station to only play your favourite show, over and over again. Sure, if you don't like the programme, you're screwed, but if you like it, you're getting the deal of the century. Pay some money, and only get what you want.
His point that the gameplay is not to his taste is therefore moot, and cannot be discussed, as it is opinion.

Then again, from what I've read here so far, I'm completely expecting a reply of "OMG, you play WoW, that must mean you're MEEN and have no LYFE!!shift+1!!"

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How to quit WoW

2007-04-06T06:49:10Z

(edit : There is another tribe just like this one, but without the !. Should merge them. Below is a copy / paste from there.)

I believe there is a HUGE community of people out there who know they are addicted, and want to stop, but for their own reasons, havent yet.

Here is how I quit WoW.

First, my qualifications : (skip, boring read) played for about 20 months. At the height, 40+ hrs / week. Deleted 3 70s, due to needing space for new chars on my favorite servers. Could solo MC attunement run. Had an epic flying mount 1 week after expansion. etc etc etc...

Got fed up finally, knew, could FEEL it, that I needed to quit. I Wanted to quit. But simply walking away, I knew my chars, or even an empty account, would lure me back, and it would start all over again.

So I opened an account on a gold buyers website and went to town.

Over the span of almost 3 days, I sold 2000 gold. I made $70. It felt soooo goooood. The game was fun again, I was giddy with excitement. I farmed motes of water from the small lake east of shattrah. I put primal motes of water on the AH for 20g a pop. I was able to 2 shot the eels in the lake, and made a buttload of gold very quickly.

The morning of the 3rd day, I couldnt log in, my account was banned. It was a mix of "ARRRRGHHHHH!!!" and "ahhhhh finally....". The closest I can explain it was like the scene in water world, where the old guy in the oil hold sees the fire coming down, and, knowing it was going to kill him, sighs "thank jesus".

I honestly havent felt the urge to go back, and its been almost 2 months. My friends think Im nuts for going out the way I did, I think it was hillarious, and I feel better than I have in over a year. Im back in to weight lifting, runing, and most importantly, my social life is growing again.

I would definetly recommend this method, as it is permanent, un-retractable, and fun. Have something to fill the void after you do this, pick up a guitar or a 2nd language or SOMETHING, ANYTHING!! :-) It helps. It also feels good to help other people quit, trust me.

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Details of how I sold the gold for real money :

I have a paypal account (free)
I went to mmoinn.com and signed up (free)
I saw on mmoinn.com there was a need for alliance gold on perenolde, and how much they would pay for it
I filled out the sell gold form
In game, i mailed the gold to the character they specified
(At this point I was highly skeptical it would work, I half expected to lose 800g)
minutes later, the mmoinn account had a credit applied to it
i withdrew it to paypal

I took screenies of all this if anyone needs to see them.

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Is this a solution or a termination to a WoW relationship

2007-03-16T18:30:45Z

I have been with my gf for 2years now and we have had a lot of problems, we moved in together around a month ago and i now speak to her less than when we lived 400miles apart. Today i sat in the same room as her for over 8hours while she played and she refused to even go outside for a cigarette, and spoke to me for less than 10mins all day no matter how hard i try i just can't get her attention.

I now find myself starting to hate her for ignoring me and choosing the game over me.
As an IT worker i found myself writing a program to cause WoW to crash at timed intervals, and possibly preventing it working at all.

My question is is if she wont voluntarily stop playing should i take the matter into my own hands and take away the problem or am i being selfish and spiteful?

Should i use the program or try and find another way. She shouts at me if i sugest she limits her time.

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WoW finally the hopeless and never get laid finally have a place to meet

2007-02-23T01:25:15Z

ok this game is so much like never winter nights its not funny and i don't like that game. I checked out the game and i literally felt like i was in a world conrtolled by dorks. I can say that im happy they all have a place where they can meet others like them and get laid . I think this is a good way to show these geeks that there is life after video games. As for those pathedic men who once had life and did get laid...you all are the dumbest Mother-f*#kers alive. You got a woman right there whose ready to get buck wild and your blowing her off for some animated bullshit game. The game is like hypnosis, you get sucked in and you can't get out. GET THERAPY! Girls, if you play this game, work longer hours, make more money and go shopping. Im sure by now you need a new wardrobe.

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welcome to world of warcraft. the word's biggest con

2007-02-21T22:34:02Z

how can anybody like this game. i am sorry to say that my brother has it and i have to leave the room if he plays it. i have tried and failed to show him that this is possibly the worlds biggest scam. figures suggest that the company will make

$840,000,000 in just 4 years. and these figures don't include the cost of buying tyhe game or the fact that the game has not been released in china yet.

i pity the poor fools that have parted with their money. i have no sympathy for them. GET A LIFE!!!

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GET A LIFE!

2007-02-19T09:23:22Z

You guys all have great lifes I can tell. Sit around and bash peoples video game hobby all day. Yeh, I want to have lifes just like the ones you guys pretend to have.

Sigh.

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Not to be a dick... Well, maybe.

2007-02-05T05:04:44Z

I don't mean to start shit, but honestly; if you think a video game is the reason why your relationship sucks, well you've got some issues yourself.

If your own significant other chooses a video game over you, either you're just a terrible girlfriend or you're loose as a goose. In fact, you should thank world of warcraft, for unveiling your eyes and showing you that your significant other truly is a pathetic human being, so that you can move on and find someone worthy of your loose cooch.

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My Friends play it and well i had to find new friends

2007-02-03T08:25:39Z

Well yeh they started playin like in 04 when we was in year 12 and well basicly yeh i had to go find sum mor friends that liked rugby like i do just mentionin im an aussie but yeh they played the game almost non stop like sumtimes they didnt even come to skool just cause they all wanted to get on and play together like i played for a couple of mins and i mean whats fun about just clikkin sumfin then clikkin sumfin else and yeh i agree wid that other post it is just a hell of a big con in australia its $20 a month and they run out of game cards at the game stores almost as soon as they get them.

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I left my husband for 7mos due to his addiction to WOW

2007-02-03T01:15:24Z

I sat and cried outside for hours. My husband would play 14 hours a day of WOW. He would bark at me when I tried to speak to him.. you know just hello... I tried to seduce him from the game. I cried to my gyno ... It is not like other video games where one can find a safe spot or a pause... WOW does not. If we made love... he went back to the game when done. He would wait for me to go to sleep and then get up and play until morning. I then shut down... I am not a nag and did not want to change him but it was ridiculous... When he was not playing he was talking about it. He showed me the game to get me to play... YUCK! He was a guild leader...

So I left... then at Christmas time he came down .. and I am giving him a 2nd chance. But I am not going to be a martyr in my own life... I went to live mine.. cause being with him was like being without him anyway.

People did not understand if they do not know the game. But I lived it and my husband was living in it. People could criticize me that I left for 7 months I moved 7 states away. By the way my male gyno told me that several women were leaving their husbands because of that game... and that he understood why I was weeping in the office so badly. He did not come to 4 of my ultrasounds.

PS... When he started it was not bad.. apx 1 year into it became a problem... and it only seemed to escalate... there is no end to WOW. So you people telling us women to get over it... and that your wife or gf don't mind... well that was me in the beginning... be very careful .. if you have the discipline to get up and leave the game good for you... but if you don't she may up and leave your sorry a@# and start living. Food for thought...

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WoW Has Destroyed So Many Of My Relationships!

2007-01-27T01:01:28Z

Whilst I'm male- I can totally sympathesize with all the girls who are having problems with their BF's playing WoW 24/7. I know exactly where you are all coming from, and as I am STILL going through all the emotions myself- I understand how furious/frustrating it can be when someone really important puts a bloody monitor before you.

For me, the whole situation is in reversal- I'm 19, as is my (now EX) girlfriend. I was absolutely heart-broken when her 'busy' schedule turned out to be nothing more than a full-day session on WoW with her 'guild'.

Figuring out that she'd lied so many times about her addiction (to my face) was extremely hurtful/painful- as I totally believed every one of her excuses; including going to church, to the library (to study), having an early night , not having enough money to do anything, too tired- all of which equated to 'playing WoW'. What's even worse is that I can remember completely re-arranging my own life several times to accomodate my ex-gf, only to be fcuked around by this stupid game.

WHAT REALLY ANNOYED ME WAS WHEN HER KEYBOARD WARRIOR WOW FRIENDS TRIED TO HIT ON HER!!! OMFG- Get a fcuking life you losers! Most weighed 100kg's more than her, were virgins, 40 years older- and unemployed (yes, I was (unfortunate enough) to see pictures of them).

Now we've split (admittingly, I eventually cheated on her). It know, it wasn't the right thing to do- and I do regret how I went about it... but this game had such an effect on me (and our relationship) at times that I feel I would have never even considered taking that nasty path if she didn't have her priorities so damn mixed up over a computer game.

It's not over though, now it's my guy friends (a group of a about 10 people, all 19+). They won't go out on Friday/Saturday nights anymore- to drink socially, or even take E at clubs (a huge, very enjoyable night that always bought everyone really close together). It's all 100% WoW now... and it's really destroying me, as I am the only one who does not wany to get involved the game that helped ruin my relationship with one of the very few girls I've actually liked.

I know, in the future- if my relationship with someone else is being severely effected by this damn game, I've just got to put my foot down and say- it's either me or your keyboard/mouse, and I think those in the same situation should do the same.

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WoW developers paying hommage to a fallen comrade

2007-01-18T03:48:38Z

Recently I heard that there are references in WoW to a developer (or graphic artist) that died during the production of the game. I almost feel bad for saying this, but the only thing I could think was that it's too bad that all of them didn't follow his fine example.

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EB Games Employee Going Nuts.

2007-01-18T03:47:27Z

Hi everyone,

I live in Perth, Western Australia and I work for EB Games and I am so sick of WOW and anything associated with it.

Wednesday the 17th is the release date of Burning Crusade the WOW Expansion pack and nearly every Bloody customer wants a copy and its just fuckin insane, I personally think the game should have warnings and pictures on the box just like cigarettes do here in Australia stating that excessive consumption will ruin your life.

I read that 1 in every 167 people in the US have an account for WOW, thats nearly 1.8million people and consumed souls, and if you take into consideration that theres just over 7million players world wide, thats bullshit.

In my store we sell the game for $30 and the new exp pack is $60 or $100 for the collectors which comes with a free poster, then we have the 4 walkthroughs worth $40 each, then the $60 toys and then the $30 T-shirts and also the Trading cards ranging from $8 to $50. And dont get me started on the online fees, it costs $42.95 for a 60 day game card. LAME.

I honestly think we should change our name from "EB Games" to "World of Warcraft (oh yeah and other stuff ).

But by far the biggest thing about WOW that just pisses me off is my friends. WOW has consumed their social lives, and all they talk about is WOW and how good (hah) it is. All I've heard for the last week is " Is Burning Crusade out yet" , "Cant you just take some home so I can play", "But the servers are already open" ....... Boo Frickety Hoo.

I've spent the last 3 shifts calling 367 people in regards to there pre-order of the WOW exp pack.

I am hoping and praying that because of mass production that each and every game sold has a read error and no one will be able to play and also corrupt their existing account and get some people out of there chairs and get some fresh air and a social life back, and not end up like that japanese guy who played WOW for 86 hrs straight and then died in his chair in the internet cafe from huge blood clots in his legs from lack of circulation, its just fuckin stupid and Blizzard are raking in the $$$$$.

I must go now as I have to get up and be at work by 7:30 am to greet the many WOW junkies dying to get there fix.

Cheers Mike
Bitching & Moaning For A Good Cause.

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Reporting query

2007-01-07T20:07:42Z

I'm a reporter with the Arizona Daily Star in Tucson. I don't know much about video games, but I am interested in writing a story about how online gaming is disrupting relationships. I'm hoping you all can put me in touch with adults in the Tucson area who have had to deal with this issue.

I've read numerous stories in the national media about the commercial affects of online gaming -- people paying real money for virtual items -- but I don't think this dynamic of disrupting relationships has been reported.

Thanks in advance. My contact information is below.

Josh Brodesky
Arizona Daily Star
jbrodesky@azstarnet.com
520-807-7789

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Swansea College

2006-12-25T02:47:06Z

The following disgraced people are being listed for playing WoW:

Ricky Brown
Chris Tomkins
Rob Edgell
Simon Davies
Craig Morris
Ryan Slee
James Davies

Shame on you all!

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help!

2006-12-06T04:58:51Z

i play wow.... and hate it.
but i am one fo those people who get addicted easily. i dont hate the game, i hate the time it takes from me. before some start spamming 'leik omg GET A LIFE' or something.... i do have a life.... i do have many friends and have had a few gfs (im below 20 btw) but i just cant stop playing this game, even when i am bored and thinking of doing something else, i sit here anyway. i am not as extremem as some people mentioned here (18 hours a day etc.) but i play my share, and am beginning to freak Oo i want to stop before its out of control, give advice please :(

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Is he addicted? He claims not.

2006-12-06T00:39:37Z

My husband shows the following signs of addiction,
*Will wake up and check the forums.
*Has made me make a character insisting I'd like the game.
*Will not let me play the character and when I do, says how much I'm doing wrong.
*During sex, must see the screen in case of invites.
*Will check forums randomly throughout day.
*Will talk about the game 24/7 wherever we are.
*Can't remember a good time w/ me but can remember play for play of last nights raid.
*Will fight me over the game, putting it first.
*I have to go around his raid schedule in order to spend any time w/ him.
*Will stay up later than any other characters in the guild, will fully finish guild then spend over an hour on the forums.
*Server day- he has an alt on another server so he doesn't go without the game.
*Has told me to leave him if I don't like it.
*I can't remember one day he has not played the game.
*Destroyed a brand new wireless keyboard cause it wouldn't work for him at the moment.
*Has raised a fist at me cause an IM on my screen name (on his comp) caused him to die in the game.
*Threatened me so I would not tell any of his guild members and have him kicked out.
*Say's that by doing this I'm "being ridiculous".
*Doesn't care when I cry because of the game.
*Has thrown me out of his house when I try to stand up for myself against the game.
*Will raid over doing anything dealing w/ me.
*Doesn't care that he lost all his friends to the game.
*Doesn't notice or care when I leave.
*Doesn't realize how much I want to hurt myself cause I think I'm not good enough for him but yet the game is.
Any comments, feel free to email or reply.

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A post on wow NOT being the problem (long thread)

2006-11-09T17:25:11Z

Well I saw the link for the place on some forums and thought id have a look only to see people hating wow.

**This is a long post**

I understand a lot of the problems a lot of people have here but a lot of people seem to be aiming it wrong.

Until very recently I used to play wow. I was a guild master in charge of about 70 peoples gaming enjoyment, to run it and keep everyone as happy as possible.

This took a lot of my time but I made time for my friends, to go out and made the grades in my education. I worked hard and balanced both and have made it to the University I wanted doing what I wanted to. Now im here I dont have time for wow anymore, to spend the amount of time that would be required so sadly I gave it up for my education.

Now some of you reading so far may be saying, yeah grats you quit so what?

Well through my gaming time I learnt a lot from a different people, spoke to a lot of people in the game dealing with these problems and ive seen almost every single type of person from the people who couldnt care less to the people who literally wake up, play wow, eat and sleep.

**ADDICTION**

The thing I find EXTREMELY weird through reading this place is so many people saying about how bad wow is. To me I find this extremely puzzling. At the end of the day it is a game and yes it is addictive, but almost everything in life has addictive properties that people can get hooked on.

Why do people blame wow? Do alcoholics parents, friends, partners, etc blame Smirnoff, fosters, Guinness or any other alcohol company. Are there anti Smirnoff websites (not as far as ive seen).

Why? Because at the end of the day the problem will always be there, whether it is wow, alcohol, drugs or any other addiction. They will ALWAYS be there. It is up to the individual person to say no. If the individual cannot say no, come off the game for a night to do school work or deal with responsibilities then yes it is an addiction, but the addiction is not anyone’s fault but the person addicted.

If you still think it is down to the game then ask yourself, are you an alcoholic? Are you a drug addict? If no then why? Most likely because YOU said no at some point (even if you didnt literally say no to the guy offering you, you did decide not to actually go hunting and do it).

So in my eyes wow is no different, it is all down to personal responsibility, if that individual doesnt say no then they have an addiction problem. Maybe you foresee that as bad maybe you arnt bothered. At the end of the day that person needs your support as an addiction is an addiction at the end of the day.

6 million people play this game, most of them happily. The minority and the small fraction of people that get so intrigued by the game it is THEIR decision to play or not. If they dont want to quit there isnt a way to make them quit, try forcing them to quit and dont expect to have much of a relationship left. If someone doesnt want help then you cant give it, if they want to quit then help them. It is their decision and no-one else’s even if they are throwing their lives away.

**ENJOYABILITY**

So if you are one of these people that have a boyfriend or someone you care about that doesnt pay attention to you forcing them wont help. As bad as you may see it the game is very enjoyable as 6 million people play it.

Since ive quit I have noticed I miss most the socializing. Wow has such a high socializing aspect to it, most people typing to each other and also a lot talking through microphones. Many people will say this isnt socializing. Well no it isnt the conventional method but times change and the fact is people do socialize over the internet.

The game relies on people working together and that is one of the most addictive aspects of it. That you cannot simply pause it and come back later. People rely on you. So when you come in and try to force them off the computer do try to remember, because you cant see other people doesnt mean they arnt there.

Ive seen it happy many times and it really is annoying. It is the equivalent to running onto a football field and dragging them off the pitch in the middle of a match.

**SUMMARY**

So basically to sum it up:

- WoW is a game, people CAN get addicted to it as anything else in life such as cleaning. It is the individuals decision on whether to play or not and how much.
- If people dont want to quit they wont unless you threaten them which most likely will end up having little relationship for yourself.
- The game IS fun. Maybe you cant see it as a game like football or rugby or something else it is a team game with people all relying on eachother.

All in all put the blame at the person you have the problem with and not the game. If wow was taken away and banned tomorrow there would be another game that would be addictive that you could be addicted to.

I spent too long trying to put everything into this post and to make it not complaining at anyone but simply to point out the facts that are there and to try to show a different point of view as best I can.

Well hope it has helped if you have read this far anyway.

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You guys are dumb....

2006-10-04T20:23:16Z

LMAO,

You make a club of ppl that hate wow!!!

Hey you all need to get a life.....lol
Make a club about the war in Iraq or how about how our rights as americans are being taken away or how all these school shooting are tearing the fabric of our society down...

If you have a problem with wow like you can;t stop playing thats the least of your prob's lol its not the game thats the prob its you thats the prob!!!!

Take responsibility for your actions and don't blame it on somthing.....god the world is full of ppl like you guys! STOP LOOK LISTEN

Blaming is a thinking error, ask any drug counselor or doctor they'll tell you the same thing, like i said before if u have a prob with someone playing wow or you have a prob playing it yourself its not wow that the prob its YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Thanks for the time.......

p.s im sure you'll all have somthing to say about this flame me if u want i don't care its not me that has a prob.....lol

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wow took my friend away

2006-09-24T04:41:49Z

hi everyone, first of all ill admit it im a video game addict and i have tried wow and my honest opinion is that its a waste of money, but the reason im here is to tell you that wow took away one of my best friends, no hes not dead or anything but he may as well be, it seems that every spare second of his life is taken up by wow and his social life is quickly deteriorating, i dont know what to do but it hurts me to see him like this, im glad i found this site and that theres other people like me who hate wow.

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WOW Widow

2006-06-07T19:20:21Z

I agree with Newbie. My husband is also a dedicated gamer and old D&D player. I had no clue how much time he spent playing WOW until we got married and moved in together...2 months ago. Sure, he'll hang out with me and do whatever I want (that includes tennis and dance lessons) if asked, but if left alone he can play WOW for an entire weekend! I am not exagerating. This game is even boring to watch. I mean, he will sit at the computer for hours waiting for something to happen. The game must have some seriously addictive qualities. Anyway, this evening he was using a microphone to talk with fellow players, and I could actually hear the voices of a lot of people who seriously need to grow up and get real lives (you know, here in the physical realm).
I was pleasantly surprised to find that there are other people out there who hate this game for various reasons. I really needed to vent some steam so I can go talk with him about this problem without shouting. Cheers!

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verdict

2006-05-12T02:32:08Z

Alright everyone here it is the verdict is in...
I have done it I have played the game. Now don't anyone go flipping out on me before I state my case please..
My side is this - I hate the game I don't want anything to do with the game it is evil.
My husbands is as follows- It really is a fun game if you would just give it a try you might like it.
As you all may well know my husband is in the army thus he is gone a lot and the weekends are the majority of our time together in turn i get VERY "annoyed" when he plays on weekend/our time.

So I go in to the computer to commence pestering because he is playing and not paying attention to me. He convinces me to play the game just once to make a character and so on and so forth. So we do it. Together of course because I have no idea what I am doing in any game let alone this one. So I make my thing and we play and we play for around 3 hours.

And I am going to be completely honest with you I did enjoy it. BUT I do not think I have EVER in my entire life played any game or really done much of anything other than be the computer or watch TV for 3 hours straight. So I saw that as problem #1 Problem #2 is that I am a SAHW (stay at home wife:)} Meaning I do a lot of nothing in a normal day. Thus I found myself having to fight the urge to play the game. Mind you after only one afternoon of playing!! So I fought it and did not play. This was two weeks ago since then I have played the game 3 times two of which were on my own and they only lasted for a few minutes because I don't have a clue as to what I am doing. The last we played together and it was a bit more interesting.

SO my final statement is this.
#1 It was never the game I hated it was the fact that the game took my husband away from me.
#2 The game absolutely has something that addicts you to it.
#3 I don't for see the game playing to be a problem for me because I don't having the "gaming qualities" and will never be able to play on my own.
I find that the game is actually neutral as i still think it is a problem and very addicting. But still it is something my husband and I can now do together and that he very much enjoys.

And that's it thats all of my findings.

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The Lengths of My Compassion

2006-05-12T02:15:42Z

I have been with gamers before. My first live-in boyfriend was a counterstrike fiend. We lived together for approximately 10 weeks in that time we were intimate less than a handful of times, and he slept in bed with me once. He was 20 year old boy I swear that game sucked his libido out through his eyes and into the monitor. My next boyfriend was into Battlefield 1942, this wasn't nearly as bad, and it had some sort of historical context. Now WOW. I truly love this man. He makes me happier than any of those before him. With him I am trying to understand the depths of the game. My passion is in stories, in life's universality, in turning the ugly to beautiful through words, I figured maybe I could find some beauty in the story behind WOW. Maybe through research I could find my niche in this story. He's worth it. So I'm trying. I will read the history of Warcraft, I will try to relate. Have you ever done these things to try and relate, like create a character, or ask questions while they're playing to try and understand quests, or what makes what they are doing on there more important than the real world they are neglecting? Have any of you found a way to connect? What are other ways you've tried?

As of now I hate Warcraft.

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See it coming...help...

2006-05-10T20:23:16Z

Hey, i'm new here, and have been browsing the rest of the posts. Now, my boyfriend has had the game for maybe 2 months, and he's becoming increasingly addicted. As a person who was heavy (HEAVY) into smoking weed, I can see an addiction when it begins to develop. I love this man, he's so fantastic, but he's already a perpetual procrastinator, and this game is making it steadily worse. I try to remind him of the things he needs to do, his priorities (we met when we were both in the Army and he's still in), and he notes them, but stays on the game. He's neglected our time together to go out and enjoy each others company because of his damn game. He named a character after me (sarita), and I thought it was flattering, but I know it was just a con to buy me off for a moment. Didn't work too well. It's never less than about 4 hours, usually much more, and the longest that I know of (i was here) was over 8 hours. It's kills me whenever he plays the game. I hate it because I know that nothing will take him away from it. He's a low level so I know that he'll be on more and more. And all his work buddies play. I hate them. Even sex rarely works. It's so frustrating... I had a boyfriend years ago who used to play Madden like it was crack. We broke up because of it. I don't want that to happen with my current man. I just hate it and am really glad i found other people who sigh and roll their eyes when they walk in the door and see that person on the computer, talking to their new "friends" and telling you "I have to go on this mission," or "I gotta help-" so-and-so. Fuck them. I hate this game...Thanks.

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Game Time Limiter in WoW

2006-03-04T18:14:24Z

Here is a tip for those of you who would like to compromise with your significant other in how much game time they play. If your problem with your loved one is more complicated than just game time, then this link is probably not for you.

https://www.worldofwarcraft.com/account/parental-control-verify.html

For what it's worth, it might help. I do suggest letting your significant other actually set it him/herself as a point of gaining trust, also because the page says "Parental Controls" and they might take offense if you do it, implying that they are children.

Agree to a time, then let him/her set it, and hold them to it.

And for any would-be male flamers out there who would berate me for giving this information, you can kiss my a** in advance. The information is right there on the official WoW site, and is quite public. That is all.

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Right...

2006-03-04T18:03:20Z

So you made a website. about how much you hate a game. And you call them nerds? (I quit playing when I got bored). Seriously...lame. If people take the game to seriously, that is there problem, not some crazy vigilante's. Maybe you just hate the game because you suck at it? Or maybe because you are a bit "different" from normal people. Either way, this site is taking valuable bandwith up on the net.

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WoW Addiction from the perspective of a male who misses his wife...

2006-03-04T17:35:34Z

Where to start here. I am someone with a rather unique perspective of online games, because my wife was into them before I was. She enjoys them far more than I do, including WoW. She got me into them. Certainly not to imply that I don’t enjoy WoW, because I definitely do. Just not constantly anymore. So, I’ve taken the initiative and am working to change that in our home life. So far I’ve been marginally successful. It's not easy.

The problem with any MMORPG is that people who play them either make that an integral part of their lives, period, and/or they simply do not realize that they are addicted, nor admit to themselves openly that addiction could happen to themselves... nor do they acknowledge anything going on around them. The entire world could literally be coming to an end, they don't care when it gets extreme enough.

While it is probably true that men greatly outnumber women in online RP games, I’m not going to make any of my statements a battle of the sexes, nor sexist. I will not bias my words for or against men nor women. It’s an addiction issue, period. I know plenty of girls that play WoW, and who are inanely as addicted as the men. Considering the motif that WoW uses (a D&D type fantasy realm), WoW actually has just as much appeal towards women as it does men.

I want to discuss things here to both help myself understand the frustrations of others, but to try to help others as well. I see some really infantile replies from some males here that are just over-the-top, and I want to make sure all the females out there that are suffering know that it can happen to men with their significant others just as easily.

My wife and I played online RP games for at almost 3 years. I won’t get into the others outside WoW, because we were at one time both equally addicted to them. We don’t have any kids of our own, but I have a 9 year old from a previous marriage who is over regularly and loves video games as well. I do NOT let him play MMORPGs, though, nor will I ever.

Things in our lives fell by the wayside and my wife and I wound up with a lot of financial problems. At last I began to see the light about a year ago. Sure, I kept playing the game, but not without the fact that catastrophic consequences could result if I played too much.

The first step in seeing the fallacy of these games is to recognize and acknowledge the biggest differences between an online game and just a regular old hum-drum computer game or console game. It’s really very easy. And it makes the greatest difference in the world. An average computer or console game you can usually find a stopping point and turn it off. Save Game is your friend. You stop long enough to do simple things that you need to do and come back to the game when you’re ready. Not the case at all with an MMORPG. You not only have things happening in real-time, but these games are geared to have large groups of people go into dungeons and instances and interact together, for hours on end. People start to depend on you for online participation in your guild or group of online friends that you play with. You feel a part of something, but the ties to the computer get out of control if you let them.

Which leads to the next step, something so simple that people fail to do. Manage your TIME. I know a guy in one of the guilds I’m a member of who constantly bitches that his girlfriend comes over to his house, like it’s a bother. He jokes about it and the others rib him for it. But I really feel sorry for this girl. She’s very dedicated if she’s put up with him for this long (probably a good 6 months at this point). I don’t know the extent of their relationship, but I hope to hell he’s offering her more than just bedroom time.

Nobody likes to be ignored in a relationship. But addictions are not easily cured. So I started out slow, but steady. I always made sure to make progress of some kind. That’s why when I began to break the hardcore addiction last year, I started jumping off WoW and just began doing other things. First it was just chatting with my RL friends online, who noticed the change in my behavior immediately. I would no longer be Idle on Yahoo Msgr. for hours and hours. I did things like surf the internet. I’d go back to WoW of course, but I could feel now that I was away from it how much it was taking away from other things I loved to do. I could feel my wife’s true distance from me IRL. I give her her game time, of course, but I began to ask that we start doing a few things together. Starting up a Netflix account, watching movies at home was the first step. She didn’t always join me, but the times that she did made me feel better.

I will freely admit that I’ve just got some simple burnout on games of this type. But something had really shocked me a few months back that made me stop and think. We had an online mutual friend whom we hadn’t seen in several months in another MMO because we went from this MMO to WoW. Well, we recently went back to the previous MMO, logged in to find an e-mail in our mailboxes from her 14 year old son stating that she had passed away very suddenly. She developed deep vein thrombosis in her legs and an anyeurism traveled from her legs to her heart, stopping it completely. She was only 36 years old. I know it’s an extreme example, but quite frankly, it scared the crap out of me. People don’t develop deep vein thrombosis unless… they stay sedentary most of the time, don’t go anywhere, don’t move from the position they are sitting or laying in. I couldn’t imagine anything other than sitting at a computer around-the-clock causing something like that to happen to her.

When I was really addicted to MMORPGs, I used to get mad at people that I was close to for leaving the keyboard. These were our online friends. I’d want to plan a group hunt that night, and the fact that they only had an hour or two to kill before they had to go spend time with their kids, or go buy groceries, or go clean the house up, or go exercise, etc., actually was offensive to me. In hindsight, I realize that those very people were the ones that had their act together. They were the ones that managed their time and didn’t forget to LIVE their lives, nor forget their loved ones that they lived with.

Last year when my addiction reached its zenith, I probably played WoW 80-100 hours a week. That’s about 16 hours per day. I was semi-disabled for awhile, so this was all I did. My wife, too. Today I probably play it 10 hours a week, or about 1-2 hours per day on average. I make sure all important things are taken care of first before I sit down at my computer. Even when I do sit down, the urge to play doesn’t always strike me.

My wife is still unfortunately addicted. She’s not as bad as I used to be, but like I said, I’m trying to change all that, which is why I’m here to discuss this. There are certain quirks I’ve learned to live with when she is playing, and for the most part when she’s home and playing we get along fine, it’s just that sometimes she feels on a really distant shore from me. It’s painful to have to pull her from the computer to do something with me, but I recognize the reasons why, so I’m taking this process slowly, and being patient with her. I also play WoW with her from time to time to make her recognize that I do love her and do want to spend time with her. But I would like a little of the reverse sometimes, too. Now, we were both raised as homebodies (some of you might call us the antisocial type), but that’s just how we are. We’re private individuals. But there are still many other things in the home you can do besides online gaming, you just have to make sure you’re managing your time. Because some people don’t take this simple step is the reason why the game addiction goes out of control.

Sure, my online friends don’t like it when I say I have to leave to go do some household task they find “menial”, and some of them seem downright offended that I have to leave at 8p.m. sharp so I can go watch a movie or read a book to wind down for bed. But I know some of them very well, because I used to be in their positions with my addiction. Besides, as far as RL is concerned, they can kiss my a$$ if they don’t like it, and they know this.

I really feel for some of you. You’re all just trying to simply reach your spouses or boyfriends, and you are just trying to tell them that you’re NOT an obstacle to them, and you’re NOT their enemy. It’s going to take time for them to see it that way. There are no easy answers here, unfortunately. Online games are here to stay. How each of you goes about it is what needs to work for you, but I will always believe the two important steps with the online games are to 1.) recognize the potential addictiveness of the game and 2.) learning to manage your time. As a man, I’ve always been terrible at managing my time, so this was doubly hard for me to figure out. If you have to do what I did, then that's what works. If it involves something as extreme as turning off the computer for awhile, then that's what works. But no game addict is going to take that step until they are able to acknowledge it as a problem. Denial is a difficult thing as well.

Anyway, that’s all for now, I just wanted to share my opinions and tell you that I truly understand what you’re going through.

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Agreed

2005-08-18T14:34:08Z

Ahh. More people other than me that feel the same way. My husband played WoW excessively before we got married he wasn't doing anything but playing which included completely ignoring me. We got married 2 weeks ago and I moved 650 miles away from home to live with him, I have no one but him now and last night he informs me that he is going to start playing again. He played for 2 and a half hours and though that that was fair because he didn't play "that much" *sighs* I can't believe that something could be this addicting I truly hate this game with a fiery passion.. We have a great relationship. And I am not loose or ugly in response to the other guys comment. This game really takes hold of people and it's almost scary.

Is there anyone that can help tell me what to do.
I told him I didn't approve of him playing and that it really hurt me when he did but that in the end he needed to do what made him happy. He chose to play.. :( It probably wouldn't be bad if we had been married 10 years and I wanted him out of my hair. But that is most definitely not the case..

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newbie :)

2005-06-12T02:06:09Z

OMG!!!! I checked for a tribe like this on a whim! Just goes to show you can find anything on tribe........My husband is an avid gamer, always done "table top" D&D...anyway since this F&@*ING game came out...UGH. It's life support for him. And he thought we should upgrade our computer, buy more memory and get cable internet........for this game....a scam is right...it's costing us WAY more than 12$ a month...although it does keep out of my hair.....hmmmmmmm...never mind. Anyway, glad I found y'all ;0)

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