Because many Cancer men turn hot and cold. I was married to one, and he was sweeter than syrup at night and in the morning; but somewhere in the middle, he'd be a jerk and respond nastily. And because of his mood swings that converted him into a jerk, he made it really really hard to continue loving him. Oh, and he got lazy and took me for granted.

After my split with my spouse, I was emailing with another Cancer man, and I wasn't even ready to date! He gave me this whole damn diatribe about how he was looking for more than friendship and that he didn't want to pay for what somebody else did to me. I mean, this guy made me sit up and pay attention. So, I thought "ok, this guy may be worth it". After we met and became intimate, I was still skeptical, but he was really sweet and attentive right after. Somehow, a month later, He turned cold and week after week he was hot and cold. He was sweet when he wanted to be sweet. He was a distant jerk other times. And we never did anything, we never went anywhere. And I was falling head over heels for him. After I snapped and started becoming distant, he noticed. He started becoming clingy and I started giving him more attention...and then he went cold AGAIN. I was so tired of that and other things that I just realized that it was just too hard to love him. I'm still trying to get over him. Oh dear, now I'm getting all emotional.