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Are Cancer men cheaters?

topic posted Thu, March 27, 2008 - 11:11 PM by  Ellie
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I need to know because i keep getting conflicting information.???
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Ellie
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    Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Thu, March 27, 2008 - 11:15 PM
    Depends on the man. ANY man is capable of cheating if given the right reason or opportunity. Strictly speaking in astrological terms, Cancers are not known for cheating, and on the whole are pretty loyal and clingy and possessive over their mate. What's your situation and what conflicting information are you getting?
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    Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Fri, March 28, 2008 - 9:21 AM
    we are more prone to cheat if we feel like we're not getting enough attention, love, or effort from our partners
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      Fri, March 28, 2008 - 9:41 AM
      ok yea well i got cheated on my first time in my whole life (or at least that i know of but i don't think so) by a cancer so just trying to make sense of it. Still a little pissed ;(
      • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

        Tue, June 24, 2008 - 10:09 AM
        I am really sorry to hear that. I am a cancimini - June 21.
        My sister dated 2 Cancers that cheated on her. She is a Sagittarius. The first guy cheated on her and later professed that he wisened up, but I doubt it. The second guy just outright cheated on her with his ex when my sister left on a month trip.

        My only girlfriend was a Sagittarius as well. I was really loyal in the relationship and despite physical abuse from her, I was stupid enough to stay by her for that long. I dated her for 3 long years in a very exclusive, committed relationship, thru the pain and happy times, and we broke up because I think she lied and cheated on me. 2 years after the breakup still have some feelings for her. I don't think I could ever break up with her, so in ways, I am glad she did it. when I confronted her about my suspicions.

        Anyways, Sagittarius and Cancer are generally bad couples due to conflicts. However, what I am trying to explain here is how Cancers can vary greatly. I had experience with both the bad and the sad, which is myself, haha... I read on astrology to reassure myself that things shouldn't have worked out anyways so I don't get so depressed about it.

        I hope this helps you feel a bit better about your last relationship and I hope that things go better for you in the future.

        -Peter
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    Thu, April 3, 2008 - 10:30 AM
    Well I posted something about a Cancer man I know (my post is called, "Cancers and sexual relationships?"). And he kept trying to flirt and get something sexual started with me, etc. And then come to find out... he had a girlfriend all along! He's lived with her for a few years, and he says he loves her and everything. His gf is a Capricorn sun and he said she's 'too bossy', and I'm a Pisces Sun and he said he liked my more sensitive and more 'submissive' nature lol. I didn't know he had a girlfriend when I posted that. I actually found out pretty recent. So that Cancer man is definitely capable of cheating. I asked him (after I found out about his gf) if he's ever cheated on her before and he told me he hasn't. I don't think most Cancers are 'normally' cheaters by nature, but of course some are capable of it, just like with any sign.
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      Thu, April 3, 2008 - 10:36 AM
      Oh and just so you know, I never did anything sexual with this Cancer guy. He wanted me to, but I didn't lol. And I would never do anything sexual with a guy if I know that he has a gf. I wouldn't disrespect another woman in that way.
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        Thu, April 3, 2008 - 11:49 AM
        Well that just puts u above most women these days. I, too, could never do anything sexual with someone who had a gf and for the same reason so coodles to u. It seems, these days, we are diamonds in the rough!!!
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          Thu, April 3, 2008 - 11:52 AM
          That's so true :) It seems like a lot of women these days either don't care if they do that to someone else, or they let their own selfish desires get in the way of their morals lol.
    • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

      Mon, January 10, 2011 - 7:05 AM
      My story relates to Heather's story. The only cancer man I've been involved with is apparently a cheater. I would say that cancers are more prone to emotional cheating since emotional bonds is what they crave the most and I really can't imagine a cancer that's ever satisfied with how much emotional support you might provide to them. Then again I'm an Aquarius with a Pisces venus and that can explain my emotional connection with a cancer. I've found out he had a girlfriend after 8 months of knowing him, he would deny he had one when I asked about it before. And she's also a bossy capricorn. My ironical side would say if this bossy woman can't make him be faithful to her, then I'm not sure I would want to do that / I was never in a mood to walk a man though faithfulness like you walk a child / I've got many other better things to do. So yeah, the cancer man is not so innocent as most of you advertise here.
  • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Sun, May 25, 2008 - 10:34 PM
    you must remember you have 2 TYPES OF CANCERS!!!
    the WELL-ADJUSTED and the MALADJUSTED.
    I have met some crazy, I mean dangerous cancerian men.
    I have also met the caring and devoted type.
    It really is a matter of lifestyle and stuff.
    And the Cancer man that I have three children with, I have been with for 13 years...
    I want to bail out from this relationship because he cheats like dog in heat.
    Some of the women are insulting to me.
    And he can lie without blinking an eye.
    Boy, be careful of some Cancers, but don't write them off completely. Because some are wonderful.
  • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Sat, June 21, 2008 - 11:10 AM
    There's no hard & fast rule based solely on sun sign. A person's chart includes a lot more data than just that.

    Cancers are generally home based folks who hold their emotions close to the chest. That can make for a very domestic partner or a very... playful one.
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      Wed, July 9, 2008 - 7:40 AM
      There is a description of the male art of the sign where it likes to collect adventures on the road but come home to a loving faithful mate.
      So there could be a pattern of one main squeeze and a few on the side.

      This description is by Linda Goodman who was quick to add that the Cancer errant male is also often quicked out "the home" quite bluntly at that point. Linda Goodman is an Aries but I have found her astrological profiles very good and deep.

      Linda Goodman's Love Signs: A New Approach to the Human Heart It is an old one.
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        Tue, October 28, 2008 - 5:53 PM
        I am a scorpio girl and I am now exclusively dating a cancer man. I really hope the negative actions of each one of you girls cancers is not my future. We have this fantastic intuitive connection that I have never felt with anyone. He knows exactly where to touch me, when to hug me, and where and when to kiss me. I am so happy. We are apart for 10 days while I visit my parents and now I am nervous that he will be talking to girls online. I don't even want to think about it or know. AGHHHH
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          Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

          Tue, October 28, 2008 - 10:13 PM
          I'm with a Scorpio myself Stefanie!

          I couldn't think of any reason to cheat because I know Scorpio really cares for me :) . That makes all the difference. I think the cheating Cancers didn't have this connection in the first place. Mostly living on a Lunar level... of basic pleasure and sensation.

          Cancers talk to everyone! We are everyone's wet blanket. Allot of woman talk to me. And I got Cancer Mercury.... Im cursed with the ability to not stop listening, it sucks. BUT Loyalty remains top on my list, and I can hold a personal conversation with someone, as if it were a regular conversation. Cancer is the most personal water sign, as it is the only one that is part of the personal signs (Scorpio and Pisces are both Universal Signs). Don't be nervous, be direct and know his contacts. Cancers can be quite talkative....

          Well not on this tribe anyways!
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    Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Wed, November 12, 2008 - 1:35 PM
    I am a Capricorn woman and my hsb of 7yr is a Cancer......while let me tell it is one hell of a ride. I am a different type of Cap, becuz my family comes first,thn career, and I cook a homecook meal every evening every so often we go out to dinner. I am a homebody whn not working and my hsb is as well. His ex and I r Caps born on the same day! In the beginning of our dating my hsb ws clingy and couldn't let her go and she played on that and he ws a functioning alcoholic! So it ws hell the first 5yrs of my marriage until I put him out filed for divorce and let him know either u get it 2gther or ur out of my life so he got rid of playing games with the ex. C Cancer men r very insecure,moody,love to argue,BIG PROCRASTINATORS! NOT HUMBLE AT ALL.....so we had a lot of problems of course he would say I am bossy and I am in some ways, but I am no nonsense and I love my man/family etc. nothing comes before them. On the other hand he was backstabbing (talking about me to other people/sister)and I would be in his corner financially when he couldn't produce, but he wanted everyone to think it ws all him he has a problem letting people know he has a wonderful wife,mother to his kids,and career woman he always would find something NEGATIVE to say!!!! He is not passionate,sometimes self contained,not humble and that makes me mad cuz then he is always lying but he hs gotten better bcuz I will not accept anything less so they r a piece of work to deal with!!!
    • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

      Mon, January 10, 2011 - 7:19 AM
      They do lie! I have a very keen intuition. Not long after I met him I just flat out told him I was sensing he was always telling me lies. Of course he denied and found it offensive, but later it proved my intuition was right. And I knew it even then, but I would never argue with a person over something which is not proved. We barely ever argue, I don't give a *** consuming my energy in making you realize what you already know about yourself. But after your fault is proved, don't think you'll get clean and dry with just a stupid excuse.
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    Sun, January 16, 2011 - 5:39 PM
    I Agree wi th stef, Im a cancer guy and If im in a relationship with a scorpio i couldnt even have my eye on enyone else. Scorpios give high security which cancers are addicted to, and we cancers give our full loyalty to scorpios who could give us the security we want,. You just know scorpios wont cheat on you once they trust you.
  • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Mon, January 17, 2011 - 3:00 AM
    "Are Cancer men cheaters?"

    /Facepalm.

    Ellie, you know the answer to that question. It's not a yes or a no.

    Everyone, born of every sign and every environment, is still human. Being a faithful person may come more easily to some but it requires actual determination. That's not to say that infidelity is some natural, inexorable force tugging at the hearts of all. That's bollocks if you ask me. It's just to say that relationships should not be taken for granted.

    But the typical "you can't judge just by sign etc." doesn't answer the spirit of your question. It doesn't explain the testimonials, either. :P The question isn't whether or not Cancer men as a whole are "cheaters"; the question is, what's behind a healthy Cancer personality cheating? What prevents such a situation? That's a question you want to ask about every sign you come into contact with, really.

    Bearing in mind that every individual Crab has its own mind, the general Cancer approach to any relationship involves emotional connection and empathic understanding. Big mushy words, but they're down-to-earth in practice. A typical Cancer of either gender isn't looking for a business partner, a peer, a friend-with-benefits. The goal is to connect with someone's vibe to the point where they stand out among human beings; where they're real and honest, such that they can be trusted to share the Cancer's inner world with.

    You reach that point - which is either exceedingly difficult or surprisingly easy, depending on who you are - and your Cancer will gladly die for you. The loyalty becomes absolute. Even physical temptation falls short of the iron wall of Cancerian duty. The human being itself may be flawed in numerous ways - all as a result of whatever upbringing, past, emotional scars they may have - but the basic Cancer nature is to grab hold of a single love and hang on. It's not called one of the most devoted signs in the Zodiac for nothing.

    But then, this isn't observed in all Cancers. Thus unto confusion; thus unto suspicion. Hard to imagine a description like that when you see a Cancerborn acting like a man-ho.

    It's something I learned about myself and improved on, something that I observe in the other Cancers I know: we seem to bottle things up far more than the average person. Thoughts, opinions, feelings, interests, anything. Partly because we prefer them to be secret. Partly because we don't trust easily. And in my case at least... (I'm young and dumb, remember? :) ) partly because we want people to pry us open to find those secrets themselves. It's one thing for someone to be a good listener... it's another for someone to draw words out to listen to. Put bluntly, that is -hot-.

    Regardless, I can easily see an inexperienced Cancer withdrawing more and more when interest is withheld. Why do you think sign compatibility warns so strongly against emotional absence? Take a look at some of the worse stories out there. It's usually a married Cancer (my money says he rushed into a marriage, revelling in the partnership without thinking things through) living some kind of double life with another woman. It inevitably falls apart.

    The stories are of course told from the standpoint of the one who was cheated on, so. They'll rarely go into detail as to what the marriage was lacking, and why the man himself thought it necessary to seek emotional commitment elsewhere. Make no mistake, the Cancer is at fault, but it's a preventable occurance on both sides.



    In the end, if you want to measure the Cancer sign for loyalty, put away the measuring tape and bring out the psychologist. Every person has needs, wants, dreams... You need to discover what your partner's are. You need to be secure in your own. I address that to everyone who reads this.
    As for Cancers... the above human formula is the same. It's the actual needs that differ.

    In the end, I maintain this above all else: you take a mature, self-actualized paragon of each sign... I guarantee Cancer will be the most steadfast in their loyalty. Not even Scorpio could match it.

    But that's just this li'l Crab's opinion. :-)
  • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Tue, February 22, 2011 - 8:39 PM
    Personally speaking, I'm the type who values fidelity and loyalty in a mate above all, simply because it is within myself. I would never cheat or even think about another woman if I was with the person that I loved and who I knew loved me. It's against my very nature.

    If I didn't love her or if we didn't love each other, then there simply wouldn't be a relationship since I would have ended it already. I wouldn't play games or waste time by cheating since that would be dishonest and a detriment for all parties involved. Love, faithfulness, and trust are all needed in a relationship for me; as far as I'm concerned they're all one thing. If it's not there, then there is no relationship.
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      Wed, February 23, 2011 - 4:38 PM
      "Love, faithfulness, and trust are all needed in a relationship for me; as far as I'm concerned they're all one thing. If it's not there, then there is no relationship."

      well said.
  • Re: Are Cancer men cheaters?

    Sat, July 30, 2011 - 12:45 AM
    It is not a sign thing, Its as simple as humanity. People are flawed so is astrology. There will be cheaters in each sign. To analyze a person based on a sign is silly, and to expect one sign to cheat and another not to unrealistic. The only way you will know if a person is a cheater is by getting to know them. It is as plain and simple as that.

    Astrology gives you an idea of who a person is, but the individual makes the decision (to cheat or not to cheat or some other topic)/ Hope this helps.

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