How to tell a Cancer guy that we are over?

Man....that's terrible! Mine would say "I know you've been hurt in the past. I just don't want to end up paying for what other men did to you. I'm not the one that hurt you". Ha! Now I just want to forward all those messages to him to show him.... Sheesh!

Yeah, he sounds like how my Cancer friend is. I'm actually leaving out a lot of my story with my friend though, because it's so long and complicated. But we started out as more than just friends (we've known each other for more than 1 1/2 yrs now).. in fact he pursued me (on Myspace, it's always been a long-distance relationship with us because he lives in Hungary), and told me how I'm his ideal girl, physically, mentally, etc.. And we chatted all the time for a few months, and then moved it down to chatting every weekend. But we developed strong feelings for each other (at least I know I have, and I'm pretty sure he has too, but he doesn't come out and say it lol, he just says he loves me as a friend). And when we first started chatting I even encouraged him to date other women because I knew we couldn't physically be together, and he would go on a couple dates with them and then break it off. And I'd ask him why he stopped dating her and he'd say things like, "Because she's not you. You're my ideal girl." But he says we have to be just friends because of the distance, which makes sense, because we can't be bf and gf and have just an online relationship forever. But he gets jealous when I talk about my bf (yes, I do have a bf now), and he has another gf now (he's had a couple different gf's in the last year). But he still wants to chat with me on the weekends. I just told him actually just a few days ago that I don't think we should chat at all anymore, because my bf wouldn't like it, and I know his gf wouldn't like it. And I told him that he makes me feel like the 'other woman' lol, even though we say we're 'just friends', it doesn't feel like that in my heart. So chatting with him makes me feel guilty. But I don't think he took me seriously because even after telling him all that, he told me he'll be gone for a few days but should be back on the weekend (so we can chat). I just told him that he doesn't have to worry about coming home for the weekend, at least not so he can chat with me, because I know his gf wouldn't like it, and my bf wouldn't like it. And honestly, I don't want to be a hindrance to him having a good relationship with his gf (he's only been with her a couple months so far). Because he broke up with his last gf (the one he had for about 6 months) while we were still chatting, and I can't help but feel guilty about it. Even though I would tell him to treat her good and don't break her heart. And then when he broke up with her I told him he must be too picky. And he said maybe he is.

He's told me before that we could be together if I came to Hungary and that the distance between us is the only thing stopping us from being together, and he would like me to visit him. But I just can't move over there, that would be a huge step for me. LOL I've never even lived on my own yet. I still live with my parents. And I'm a lot younger than he is, there's a 13 yr difference between us. He realizes that too, and he said before that he also thinks he's too old for me. So I don't think he knows what he even wants lol. But I do know that I'm not going to go all the way over to Hungary just to get my heart broken by him because he gets tired of me later on. And I also know that I'm not going to get inbetween him and his gf's by chatting with him anymore. We can lie to ourselves and say we're 'just friends', but that's just it, I think we're lying to ourselves. And we can't have healthy relationships with other people while we're still talking. It is sad though, because we really do have a strong connection. And I've been crying a lot lately realizing that we'll have to break it off :(