Pisces men: What the heck is up with them?

topic posted Wed, August 8, 2007 - 7:17 AM by  Erin
The Pisces man I am seeing seems to be so ADD. One day he's all over me, the next its like he won't even touch me with a 10 foot pole. As a Cancer, that is extremely frustrating.

I've read that Pisces men are incredibly elusive and that married women are their natural prey; yet, they get hurt easily. Okaaaaaaaaay. So then why the hell is the guy I'm "seeing" feeding me all this crap about how he worries that I'm going to change, and that he's afraid of rejection, and blah blah blah. I'm really losing my patience with this guy. Does he want me or not?!? Should I ask him straight up? Should I do this whole all or nothing bit? I read that they hate making decisions, but if this going nowhere--then I'd rather just go my separate way. I mean, its bad enough he can't seem to decide what job he wants and his credit is shot to hell.

If he asked me to, I'd turn my life upside down for him; but security is one thing I need. If he just wants me for kicks, I'd rather move on with my life. My patience has been tested, and it has just about run out.
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    Wed, August 8, 2007 - 12:32 PM
    I really really would like to like pisces but they always turn out to be the most disgusting creature when you get to their TRUE nature.
    and the fact that they hide it with all that being sensitive makes me ill.

    i find them better manipulators than scorpios.
    Pisces are selfserving whinny babies. I wouldn't leave my marriage for one.
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      Fri, August 10, 2007 - 2:31 AM
      All the pisces men I knew played the hell out of their women.... (i did say women)...
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        Sat, September 15, 2007 - 10:00 AM
        some long as they're not married, they're players for life..but i gotta admit...Fucking hot and attractive players with mind blowing communication skills...
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          Wed, September 19, 2007 - 11:51 AM

          I totally relate to what you wrote. As loving as they are, he was as cold as ice; and me, being a cancer was (and still am) an emotional wreck. And yes, pisces men are my magnet; however, now i have to be really, really careful. Thanks for connecting--understanding what I'm going through.

          Last week I actually went to a tarot lady and she told me that this Pisces guy will continuously have disastrous relationships throughout his life. I realize that I don't need that mess. I have a life to lead too. And yes, great communication skills--when they want something.
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    Fri, August 10, 2007 - 10:42 AM
    Erin, I'm wondering if your Pisces guy has planets in Aquarius. Where's his Mercury, Venus and Mars? Oh, and where's his moon? Knowing the sun sign is simply not enough.
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      Wed, August 29, 2007 - 1:18 PM

      There really is no way for me to know what his rising and moon signs unless I ask him directly--and not sound like psychopath. What frustrates me is that this guy and I were friends when we were teens and I was into him BACK then. I keep running into him over the years and we finally hooked up; not exactly the way I was hoping for things to turn out.

      First he was really interested. He called me daily and even sent me offline messages. Once we slept together, he disappears and then reappears showing interest in everything I do. I was so frustrated with him Sunday morning, I slammed him where I knew it would hurt. I'm crazy about him, but I had to tell him something to let him know I wasn't letting him walk all over me. Now he's disappeared again.

      When we're in the sack, he is the most intense, most passionate guy I've ever been with. Ot of the sack, he hides all the passion somewhere behind those gills. Sigh. I am frustrated as hell. And as soon as I give up and start moving on, he comes around again, stirring me up with questions about my divorce and asks me to do stupid things like wake him up at a certain hour. Then I call and he doesn't pick up. Then again, who's the stupid one who gives in to him?!?

      Yes, I have to agree that these men seem to be so self-serving, but I am stupidly crazy for him--and he knows it. Now the question is: should i directly ask him what's up and try to believe his response?
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        Sat, September 1, 2007 - 7:47 PM
        Well, Pisces men drive me f'ing crazy... and I can say that because... I'm married to one. If he weren't so damn funny (when not moody) and good with cooking, I'd have given up a long time ago.
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          Fri, September 7, 2007 - 8:36 AM
          yes, i agree they are funny. My pisces guy is so funny, he totally catches me off guard. He is definitely driving me crazy. He's good at disappearring too.
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            Mon, September 10, 2007 - 7:57 AM
            Man, have I got a good story for you guys. Yep, it’s true: My Pisces guy is a total player. This past Friday I decided to purge myself of him—I deleted him from anywhere there were attachments online. And so I actually had a wonderful, relaxed weekend until my friend called me this past Sunday to tell me some girl was calling her to harass her. She was saying that her cheating boy friend, ****** had her number on file and that they shared the cell phone. The cell phone HE told me was his father’s.

            Am I angry? Sure. But I’m glad this happened because at least now I know his true nature and I’m not going nuts trying to figure him out. As if it were a big surprise, he thinks he is a total stud, and he has absolutely nothing to bring to the table. No career, bad credit, and a horrendous financial situation. I actually know his girlfriend—whom is supposedly his ex, and she’s got money. He probably can’t even leave her because she is his sugar momma. Can you say pathetic? At least he didn’t dig in to my wallet—because I’m sure he believes I’m stupid enough to let go of my money just like that foolish girl. Did I mention she’s also a psychopath? Ugh. Good riddance.

            So, this Pisces man is a bad apple. I know they’re not all like that, but this one took the cake because we were supposedly good friends since we were kids. Things happen for a reason, I guess.
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    Sat, September 15, 2007 - 9:58 AM
    Haha you're not alone. In the past, I went through confusion with a Pisces as well..yes plz enlighten us. what the heck is up with some of these pisces men? ( im a scorpio, by the way) dont get me wrong..most pisces r hot, but confusing..

    The Pisces I dated in the past..he is one of the most emotionally complex ones i ever knew (Except for scorpio). When he's wounded, he prefers to not reveal too much about it as he prefers to" burden himself rather than burden others" (not a good excuse for keeping your feelings unhealthily bottled up, though). But when he does reveal a bit of the pain he went through, its like whoaa what the hell. It's like..this Pisces guy i know - he built a WALL around him and it frustrated me..because though he had a wall, he was giving me mixed signals..One day, he'd be like,"hey babe i love you. i can't stop thinking of your smile." And the next day, he'd be as cold as fucking ice. Not cool. And the next day, he'd be shutting himself away frm the world. and then the day afterwards, he'd come to me with the most innocent smile. NOT COOL.

    (In the past, i liked tht pisces guy a lot however.. because i was amazed by his strengths though he had many flaws - he's intelligent..and we both shared similar interests..)

    When a pisces feels insecure and unable to open up, they are prone to make wrong decisions (Sometimes, that is...just a warning..)

    However, to me, there's something so appealing abt the pisces that made me go,"damn i wanna get around the wall, get to know another side of him and possibly change him for the better.." though of course it drove me nuts one too many times. i got emotionally destroyed by the pisces in the end x( though he was one of my favorites, in terms of dating :( but oh well. past is past.
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    Thu, September 20, 2007 - 2:31 AM
    I always seem to get on great with them constantly!. They really understand me when I'm upset and say and do the sweetest things for you. The only thing I can't stand is the fact that they are sooooooo sensitive. Man, I thought I was sensitive...but they take the cake, so much so that I want to bang my head against a brick wall. Also, I don't know if this is true for other Cancerians. But I like strong people, people that are going to entertain me and lead the way....Pisces aren't like this at all...they want you to make all the decisions and do all the work. Which is fine for a while...but it gets boring! I still love Pisces though, they are the best to have around when you feel totally like shit.
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      Thu, September 20, 2007 - 8:13 AM
      So I guess when I texted him on saturday and called him a heartless assehole, he probably got hurt?!?!? How ironic. He actually sent me an online message: "Thanks for your text on Saturday!!!" It really must have irked him because he'd been so irresponsive to my "nice" messages the last 3 weeks.

      And if he wanted me to do all the work, then he's crazy. He didn't even meet me a third of the way! I can handle the sensitivity, but the coldness after we slept together is what sent me flying off the wall. One minute he is soooo damn interested. Another, he doesn't even touch me!

      What hurts me the most is that I always held this guy in the highest regard. We were friends when we were 14 and then he just disappeared; same thing happened when we were 19; and then he reappeared again in 2003 and this past summer. Haha, what a fool I've been to trust him. I mean, it takes months, years for me to trust a man--and I thought I could trust him. What's more, I don't just sleep with guys for no reason. It takes a heck of a lot of trust-building for that to happen.

      Even though I'm attracted to Pisces men, I'm better off keeping them around as friends; this one screwed it up for the rest of them.
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        Thu, September 20, 2007 - 5:17 PM
        my ex-bf in college is a pisces. He drove me nuts. As friends they're fine, but stay away from them romantically, that's what i say
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          Fri, September 21, 2007 - 6:49 AM
          Thanks for all the feedback. Now I really know its not me. Its those Pisces men! Yes, I learned my lesson
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            Mon, September 24, 2007 - 6:53 AM
            and to further bolster my argument, my pisces ex popped up again out of nowhere! And the worst is that he acts like nothing happened! Ahhhhh! Ok, now i need mental support here. I love him without knowing why and I'm afraid he's just going to hurt me again!
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              Thu, September 27, 2007 - 11:43 AM
              And here we go again, my pisces ex is either really stupid or really arrogant. He asked me to join him for drinks on Saturday night at a hotel. After the way he treated me and all the lies, he must think I'm still blindly in love with him. What a moron. I'm sorry you Pisces loser: You must honestly think I'm desperate to hang on to you. Yes, I love you; but I love myself more-- and there are plenty of other "fish" in the sea.

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