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Hello!
So my best friend (a cancer) of 12 years has been in this relationship with a girl who has been really jealous of me and our relationship since the very day they started dating. My bf has tried to get us to b all bff's but the girl very obviously wants nothing to do with it. and is always yelling in Spanish when I'm around. Quit frankly, I don't want anything to do with this immature PERSON (LOL! i'm trying to b nice) either, so could care less.
What I don't get is more and more throughout the past year my bf talks to me less and less, and would only call me if she needed my help with something or when she's upset with her girl. She has totally changed and I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to her and see her anymore because she wont or can't see me unless her girl is there. If she's on the phone with me her girl will start making kissy noises in the phone and hang it up, that kind of crap. But she swears up in down she's in love with this girl and wants to b with her for a long time.
I decided to cut her off after one last f-d up incident. So a month later when she called I ignored her. Then she started txting me. I told her off through the txt message and she basically acted like i'm overreacting and nothing I said is true!!!
She is infuriating me and we have never fought like this before. I feel I need to cut her off in order to protect myself from anymore pain. But then I think maybe i am overreacting and maybe she'll wake up one day.... I love her so much and want to b there for her but it is totally against my nature to keep someone around that hurts me like this. I can't wait forever.
I need your opinion!!!
Is there a chance she'll wake up or should i just except that i've lost my best friend and move on.
So my best friend (a cancer) of 12 years has been in this relationship with a girl who has been really jealous of me and our relationship since the very day they started dating. My bf has tried to get us to b all bff's but the girl very obviously wants nothing to do with it. and is always yelling in Spanish when I'm around. Quit frankly, I don't want anything to do with this immature PERSON (LOL! i'm trying to b nice) either, so could care less.
What I don't get is more and more throughout the past year my bf talks to me less and less, and would only call me if she needed my help with something or when she's upset with her girl. She has totally changed and I don't know what to do. I don't want to talk to her and see her anymore because she wont or can't see me unless her girl is there. If she's on the phone with me her girl will start making kissy noises in the phone and hang it up, that kind of crap. But she swears up in down she's in love with this girl and wants to b with her for a long time.
I decided to cut her off after one last f-d up incident. So a month later when she called I ignored her. Then she started txting me. I told her off through the txt message and she basically acted like i'm overreacting and nothing I said is true!!!
She is infuriating me and we have never fought like this before. I feel I need to cut her off in order to protect myself from anymore pain. But then I think maybe i am overreacting and maybe she'll wake up one day.... I love her so much and want to b there for her but it is totally against my nature to keep someone around that hurts me like this. I can't wait forever.
I need your opinion!!!
Is there a chance she'll wake up or should i just except that i've lost my best friend and move on.
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Re: Calling all cancers with best friends!!!
Mon, May 18, 2009 - 10:42 PMI would say cut your losses. Cancers like to keep people in their lives no matter how toxic the relationship. I often find myself thinking about my ex friends/significant others/estranged family members etc but then remember that they're not in my life for a REASON before I try to reopen those lines of communication.
I think you were completely right in cutting out this toxic relationship. Really, who needs to be subjected to emotional torture and pain? To use lyrics from The Offspring "The more you suffer, the more it shows you really care, right?" Yeah... not so much. heh.
Obviously your best friend cares more about this immature girlfriend than about your feelings so its time someone cared about yours... even if that has to be you. -
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Re: Calling all cancers with best friends!!!
Mon, May 18, 2009 - 10:57 PMThank you Copper! Your absolutely right.... and thanks for the lyrics LOL!!! That really puts it into perspective! I love that song, Jesus....
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