i have dated a goat before and also found incredible stubborn-ness, focus on work, production and "things" and dare i say boring-ness? (a-hem) the relationship did not last. (he had one, count it, one, move in the sack, which he repeated every time we were together and that was it! da goat! he also took his trademark one move and slept around a lot. i think it was a strategy so no one would figure out the one-hit wonder aspect of him.)

i also heard that as we progress through life, we "become" or tend to take on the traits of our polar opposite. so that is interesting food for thought...

Ranjeet,

I really had a chip on my shoulder about Capricorns for reasons I won't go into. So, naturally I fell in love with one, mostly for her brains and connection with spirit. She also proved to be generous and loyal. She is older and also took it upon herself to be a mentor. I think she wanted to bring me up to speed with a couple of disciplines and yes, she helped me with hang-ups. But she was forceful and critical.

After a difficult family reunion things went downhill.

Just to recap (no pub intended) what I think is true of Capricorns (my brother is one too), they are focused on achievement and know what they are willing to sacrifice for it, and I think they are prone to work alone so they won't have to compromise their values. So later in life, after they've found the cure for cancer or whatever they begin to realize they are tired and lonely. But they are pretty set in their ways by then.

My capricorn usually accepted what we had in common and held that to be our relationship without putting a label on it or being concerned with commitment or being unable to work together professionally. She was only concerned with what we could share---a hug, a meal, or agreeing about some issue. That wasn't hard because we lived in the same building and continued to be friends. I like peace, so I simply didn't communicate with her about our issues and disagreements, which was fine with her but was stifling to me.

She continued to be a close friend and a support, and we tried to get back together the next year. But in the end I had to move out (and for other reasons as well) so that I could be myself.

The other poster put it bluntly, but capricorns tend not to deviate from or compromise their methods and beliefs. You might end of being mortar to their brickwork, i.e. being both understanding and accommodating to their needs without reciprocation from them.

But you still might have a great relationship if, early on, you spell out what you are looking for in the relationship. And what you are willing to give on a long term basis that they value most. For her, it was respect and affection. She was often willing to give me a lot of effort if I gave her those. And if I did something extra nice for her she would make an effort to do something nice for me if she knew it was something I valued, even though she had to make an effort.

Two more things--Capricorns can be very private about their inner world, and can be possessive and protective of their friends.

So if you value the relationship maybe you can salvage part of it, give them their token of respect and let more intimacy grow with time. Just take care of you, too.

Good luck!

Vincent