I dont think you really can.. like any feeling you can control.. sometimes, it takes so long to find some version of a bitter acceptance.. or a surrendering to painful feelings.. it just is.. and their is really nothing but time that helps.. or, maybe a deepening of ones own self love.

How I did it was to find the one thing that was more important to me than this person - and that was getting my education as a holistic healer/counselor. And please find something that was not so great and perfect about the connection - it helps to detach if you can.

I have long believed that my first love from my teenage years was my soulmate - we are very close in so many ways - and it was my karma to have him as one of my most beloved friends but not my partner. He is married not too happily to another and they have four children - he is too afraid to leave her to be with me - he just wants to keep our connection in the fantasy realm so he can hold on to something good in life. I just figured it was my lot in life.

Recently enter my true twin soul - who is actually a very similar being as my first love - though he is not attached, and he is so much better for me than the first love. He is beautiful in so many ways. When you meet the next person you connect with on this deep level - you will see it too - and you will thank your lucky stars it didn't work out with the first person.

I never thought I could find someone who I feel close to like my first love - and I waited almost thirty years to get it - but its happened. My twin is a holistic healer/counselor like me - and treats me as the goddess I only hope to be...

Just take care of you and do whatever you can do make YOU the best you can be - so when your twin soul walks into your life - you will be ready!

It is hard...its been about five months since I have been in touch with him but we have been trying to let go of each other for a year now. The hole that is in my heart is painful but it is getting better to deal with. What makes this detachment difficult is that I can still feel him and how much he misses and loves me and I fell the same way. I have to tell myself to move on there are so many experiences that yet need to be lived in our wonderful existence that I cannot let life pass me by. I know it is hard but be thankful that you got to experience something beautiful that most people do not get the privilege to experience, but my question to you is what did you learn from this? There is always learning involved and I hope this past relationship of yours has made you a better person and that you can apply what you learned in everything you do.

Peace

LOVE yourself FORGIVE yourself SECREAM !!!

i to tried to move on and let go

but one year later i still find myself craving him, and nothing but him...

and thoughts of moving on, only make me doubt that i'll ever be as content and happy and whole, as i was/am with him