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In the past several years it's been interesting to find my standards regarding what I find acceptable when I'm single versus when I'm in a relationship. When I'm single I have no problem flirting with, playing with (in a kink sense or otherwise), groping, snuggling, or even kissing women that show interest to do so (providing I know they will want to keep it casual, too), whereas if I'm in a committed relationship there is none of that with anyone other than my partner. I still generally draw the line at no-strings sex if I'm single, but I've still crossed that line a few times in my life with "friends" that I knew very well beforehand. Generally speaking, however, I try to keep these kinds of activities to a minimum when I'm single to avoid causing misunderstandings and/or drama, not to mention avoiding picking up colds... and such.
Do other people have similar double standards or have gone through similar transformations?
Do other people have similar double standards or have gone through similar transformations?
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Re: Different standards with being single and being taken
Wed, June 18, 2008 - 6:42 AMThat is how I was when I was single. I was always a big flirt and dating many guys mainly just for fun...dancing, snuggling, playing but rarely sleeping with them. I don't see it as a double standard though. If there was no commitment there on either side in any way, I think of it as normal single behavior. My monogamy always kicked in when the relationship was serious emotionally. I truly feels like a chemical change in my body and I just am not interested in anyone else when I am in a committed relationship. I might notice attractiveness but there is nothing in me that wants to pursue it. -
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Re: Different standards with being single and being taken
Mon, June 23, 2008 - 6:16 AMyeah, I'm with you there. Let's face it, if a guy's single, he's gonna be a dog. And when he's in a relationship, he knows what all the other dogs are thinking, so play time is over, and serious commitment kicks in, because otherwise, the girl goes to the dogs, literally. -
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Re: Different standards with being single and being taken
Thu, June 26, 2008 - 9:59 AMHmmm...I wouldn't describe men as dogs per se.
I think it's normal to be flirty and then mono. There are so few people worth dating out there, then you you find one it's nice to protect it.
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Re: Different standards with being single and being taken
Thu, June 26, 2008 - 12:21 PM"yeah, I'm with you there. Let's face it, if a guy's single, he's gonna be a dog. And when he's in a relationship, he knows what all the other dogs are thinking, so play time is over, and serious commitment kicks in, because otherwise, the girl goes to the dogs, literally. "
Way to simplistic - remember it takes two to tango. If some women didn't like the "dogs" then there would be no "dogs." Also there are plenty of women who play the field as much as any guy. -
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Re: Different standards with being single and being taken
Fri, June 27, 2008 - 7:00 AMtrue, but most guys don't find that fact pleasant or attractive.
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