I haven't been on Tribe much lately, but I've just managed to pop in and I just wanted to give a little update for any who read my previous post about half way down the page...
In a most carefully predicted twist of inevitability, I HAVE indeed found the guy I was statistically destined to meet... about now! I still keep reeling with disbelief, because he is perfect for me, creative, monogamous, and as alternative as me - perhaps even more so. I am ridiculously in love and I just can't believe how lucky I am [neither can he - we've both been seriously burned by polyamorists].
So I just wanted to let people know, give some hope perhaps - that what you are searching and hoping for, even when surrounded by the inherent dysfunction that polyamory is [to me] - there will be someone out there for you, who will come to you when you least expect it.
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In a most carefully predicted twist of inevitability, I HAVE indeed found the guy I was statistically destined to meet... about now! I still keep reeling with disbelief, because he is perfect for me, creative, monogamous, and as alternative as me - perhaps even more so. I am ridiculously in love and I just can't believe how lucky I am [neither can he - we've both been seriously burned by polyamorists].
So I just wanted to let people know, give some hope perhaps - that what you are searching and hoping for, even when surrounded by the inherent dysfunction that polyamory is [to me] - there will be someone out there for you, who will come to you when you least expect it.
:)
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Re: Statistics FTW!
Thu, September 6, 2007 - 9:45 AMWow, great stuff! My congratulations to you! Love is the best feeling in the world, and its fruition is therefore a thing for us all to celebrate.
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Re: Statistics FTW!
Thu, September 6, 2007 - 5:54 PMThank you! That was just the ray of hope I needed! Best wishes to you and your new love.
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Re: Statistics FTW!
Thu, September 6, 2007 - 9:32 PMAmazing good fortune!! I am happy for you and your new love.
....sighs whistfully...
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Re: Statistics FTW!
Tue, September 11, 2007 - 9:20 PMcongrats. but i wish that you could have refrained from judging the other styles of relating that may be perfectly healthy (and not dysfunctional) for others. i just feel that this kind of judgment is dangerous and hurtful. it is what keeps us thinking we know better than someone else, keeps laws from restricting what should be personal choice, and just plain feels disrespectful and presumptive to me. I try not to think I know what is best for others, just for me.
sorry you have been burned by poly folks. some of my closest and most emotionally healthy/sane/present friends are poly. i have been hurt by far more monogamists really, though i still would not attribute that to their sexual/relational choices. as humans--we just tend to hurt each other. we do our best, but the hurt seems to get passed around and around.
please--if this tribe is to be *alternative"--let's start by having acceptance and respect of/for other choices. most of the world judges anyone who is not monogamous (and so many other relational/sexual choices as well). please let's be more expansive and loving than that. -
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Re: Statistics FTW!
Thu, September 20, 2007 - 8:44 PMsigh... yay for you!!
there are so few places on tribe and anywhere that is not boring middle America where a monogomist can speak thier mind without being reprimanded by the polys, or even someone in the grey area such as yourself, I appreciate your encompassing nature and willingness to speak out, but will you concider backing down and let the monogomists have this space? sorry but I am feeling a bit protective.. sometimes we want a place to let our guard down bitch too, you might find the mono vs. poly tribe to be more openminded to match your openmindedness.... just saying
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