Why I created this tribe

topic posted Sat, February 16, 2008 - 4:47 PM by  Margi
I posted an invitation for members of the Simple Living tribe to join this tribe and someone in that tribe responded that they thought the topic of the "Too Much Stuff" tribe was redundant because it was the same topic as the topic of the "Simple Living" tribe. Here was my response:

This tribe seems to cover a lot of topics related to material possessions but i want to focus in my tribe specifically on how we feel about our stuff, how our stuff affects us, not so much on consumer decisions nor how we spend money. This is really about the stuff itself, the stuff that sits around our homes, might keep us from moving to a different home when we need to, or maybe even if you don't have much and the mobility that gives you. Also what kind of stuff do we really need? Three sets of dishes? One set of dishes? Just a bowl and spoon? How do we keep from accumulating stuff like paperwork from long ago? How do we make decisions about what to get rid of? So i think the topic is somewhat different from the topic of this tribe.

The reason this came about is that my husband and i split up, i still live in the house we shared, and i have lots of stuff. I am trying to decide how much of it to keep, whether i want to move out to a smaller dwelling, or add housemates, or even just hit the road and travel awhile without the burden of stuff. Yet i have a lot of cool stuff we collected over the years, from garage sales and whatnot. Much of it is quite practical, like decent kitchen equipment. Also have lots of cool and interesting books, mainly just for fun. Also lots of garden tools and stuff in the garage for doing household repairs, etc. Not sure if it will get used although it often comes in handy. Seems a shame to get rid of it if i stay here but if i want to move i would have to do a lot of work just to get rid of the stuff! So i created the tribe to try to get a better understanding of how other people deal with possessions.
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Margi
Oregon
  • Re: Why I created this tribe

    Sat, February 16, 2008 - 5:15 PM
    I know the situation you described perfectly...

    I had been in a long term relationship. We had accumulated a tonne of stuff. The stuff drove me nuts. For one, we had accumulated a bunch of stuff when we were living in a large house, and then moved into a small one bedroom apartment. My partner didn't want to let anything go, so we were crammed into this small place. This crowding made me a very unhappy person. As the relationship started to fall apart the stuff also served as a mental trap for me. I begrudged all the money that we(I) had spent on all this stuff and the thought of how to divide all this stuff kept me from feeling free to leave the relationship.

    It took me quite a while to mentally let go of all the stuff and free myself from the stuff and the relationship. I realized that most of the stuff couldn't really be moved all that easily when I relocated (I moved from the Island of Newfoundland all the way to Vancouver), so it would probably be cheaper to replace those things I needed. Those things that I had spent my money on and did not want to let him have (partly because he wouldn't have any use for them, and partly because I had saved my money and sacrificed to do so - all while he spent his money on his hobbies) I found homes for with family members or friends who I knew needed them and would appreciate them.

    I moved to Vancouver with a duffle bag, a back pack, and my bike and have never been so happy in my life. Much of what I needed has been given to me. The person who was moving out of the place I was moving in to left me a bunch of furniture and dishes. Friends have found out my need and discovered that they have too many of this and too much of that.

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