Hi all! My name is Sandy...looks like there is more than one of us on the list from the postings I read... I am 45, starting over after a 21 year marriage and dealing with health challenges which our society chooses to ignore since I am not among those capable of paying high medical costs to see doctors in private practice and must rely on our public health system which is basically non-existent. So far my perimenopause symptoms have been mild which is a blessing but the night sweats can be annoying to say the least.
I personally think that a lot of how we deal with any situation including this transitioning to crone status has to do with how we view things...is it an obstacle or a challenge? Yes, we may be losing something but can we see what we stand to gain? As I said, I am dealing with other health challenges specifically fibromyalgia which our public medical community refuses to help with...this is annoying and sometimes even downright depressing...but it also has forced me to take better control of my life. I can't count on them to provide me with aid so have been forced into making choices about how I want to live the long life that is still ahead of me. The same goes for the ending of my 21 year marriage. It was not my choice to end it...but once it was done; I realize how even though it was a good marriage in both mine and societies' eyes...it still produces a lot of toxic emotions and feelings of restriction in me. The freedom that I gained has allowed me to actively choose how I choose to live. I am polyamorous by nature (always have been since childhood) and simply couldn't see how much trying to fit myself into a monogamous world was warping who I was and suppressing the flow of love, energy and light in my life. I now have two wonderful lifepartners and though we don't always have everything we want...we have most of what we need and I am discovering joyously that that is fine with me.
Do I worry occasionally about what happens from here? Yes, I know that menopause may well exacerbate some of my health problems or add new ones. Am I depressed about it? Again sometimes but in general I look forward to the new adventures that await. I look in side and see that I have a better grasp than ever before in my life how to express who I am and what I would like to accomplish in this world...the first 40 years where simply a warm up for the best part of my life.
I personally think that a lot of how we deal with any situation including this transitioning to crone status has to do with how we view things...is it an obstacle or a challenge? Yes, we may be losing something but can we see what we stand to gain? As I said, I am dealing with other health challenges specifically fibromyalgia which our public medical community refuses to help with...this is annoying and sometimes even downright depressing...but it also has forced me to take better control of my life. I can't count on them to provide me with aid so have been forced into making choices about how I want to live the long life that is still ahead of me. The same goes for the ending of my 21 year marriage. It was not my choice to end it...but once it was done; I realize how even though it was a good marriage in both mine and societies' eyes...it still produces a lot of toxic emotions and feelings of restriction in me. The freedom that I gained has allowed me to actively choose how I choose to live. I am polyamorous by nature (always have been since childhood) and simply couldn't see how much trying to fit myself into a monogamous world was warping who I was and suppressing the flow of love, energy and light in my life. I now have two wonderful lifepartners and though we don't always have everything we want...we have most of what we need and I am discovering joyously that that is fine with me.
Do I worry occasionally about what happens from here? Yes, I know that menopause may well exacerbate some of my health problems or add new ones. Am I depressed about it? Again sometimes but in general I look forward to the new adventures that await. I look in side and see that I have a better grasp than ever before in my life how to express who I am and what I would like to accomplish in this world...the first 40 years where simply a warm up for the best part of my life.
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