Need some words of encouragement

topic posted Wed, July 29, 2009 - 4:42 AM by  Kelly
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I am more than in a rut. I took an unintended break from dancing , it has been months :o I feel like my skillz have all left me :( I have had so many changes in my personal life that dancing has been put on the back burner.

I really just want to get back into it. I am beyond blocked. I was going to start again in beginner classes. I thought that my body would remember, my muscle memory would kick in, but so far I don't know that it has.

Any words or ideas?
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Kelly
Richmond
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  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Wed, July 29, 2009 - 6:40 AM
    No ideas for you, just a {{hug}}. Hoping you get back in the swing of things soon.
    • Re: Need some words of encouragement

      Wed, July 29, 2009 - 6:43 AM
      Music seems to help me remember my love for the dance. Maybe go through all your music and find a song that speaks to you. Perhaps then you could just have fun in your living room dancing away to it... Maybe that would break the ice and let your creativity start to flow again (and from that...who knows...maybe technique will follow!)

      **hugs**
      • Re: Need some words of encouragement

        Wed, July 29, 2009 - 7:37 AM
        Thank you, maybe I'll break out my old playlists. I gained a bit of weight and don't fit nicely into my old costumes :( maybe I'll get new ones that fit me. That always used to help me (dancing in costume)
        • Re: Need some words of encouragement

          Wed, July 29, 2009 - 11:05 AM
          Be patient with yourself. I have found as i've gotten older that it doesn't take much of a break for my skills to go to hell. So with knee replacement and back spasms and other interruptions i have learned to be patient because the skills are still there and will come back if i just relax, breathe and do what i can today.
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Wed, July 29, 2009 - 8:26 AM
    I've had several injuries where I've had to be out of class for several months at a time. When I go back, I take a beginning class, in addition to my regular classes. I've found this helps build strength and get me back on track with what my body should be doing. Also, it helps me not feel that bad about not being able to do everything my regular class is doing -- reminds me that once I work back to it, I'll be able to do it again.
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Wed, July 29, 2009 - 8:46 AM
    I completely understand! I am starting to get back into it myself after being out of it for a few years, and it can be very difficult feeling motivated again. Between trying to finish school and working, and the stress that comes from that, I often feel like I just don't have the energy to practice. Plus, I hadn't found a new teacher to dance with after I moved back to my home town. When I finally started practicing again, I just put on some music that I used to dance to and I went back to practicing the basics. I always liked how one of my old teachers used to warm up, and I just started doing that. I sort of felt like it was like riding a bicycle, in as far as I remembered how to do the moves, but I felt like my body wasn't as strong as it was when I was dancing a lot. It felt like my locks weren't as sharp, and my movements not as defined, as before. Luckily, there is such a thing as muscle memory, and I slowly started feeling it come back again the more I danced. One thing I was surprised at was that I could still play finger cymbals like I did before. I hadn't lost that even though I hadn't played them in several years. Now I am just wanting to learn even more patterns. Oh, and I don't think there's anything wrong with starting back with beginner classes! I always start with beginner classes when I start up with a new teacher just because I am not familiar with their style (one of my teachers used to say it was a respect thing, if nothing else). I don't think it ever hurts to go back to the basics, either. There's no such thing as too much practice! :)

    So, I would say put on some music that you really love and that moves you, and just do what comes naturally. That's what I've been doing. I find that putting on a piece of music that I absolutely love helps motivate me.
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Wed, July 29, 2009 - 3:42 PM
    think of what got you hooked on bellydance, maybe there was a specific dancer you saw and said "i have to try that!" or something like that, watching a little youtube in that vein might be helpful ^_^ have fun! welcome back!
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Thu, July 30, 2009 - 8:18 AM
    When I really don't feel like dancing I pull out a pair of melodias or something nicer to work out in and do my make up all up- not full blown, but usually some fun stuff to practice w/ make up and to feel more dancer-ish. and I always put on arm cuffs and like little glovies (I'm more goth/tribal) so those really make me feel more dancerish and inispired.

    Past that music always helps me. I flip through youtube and find a genera of dancer that has a great peice of music then try to find it and put my own take on it. Lol at this point the people at my gym where I practice probably think I'm a voodoo killer type person since I show up to work out about a third of the time w/ full blown eye make up. LOl I get depressed easily about my 'lack of progress' so I find it really helps me out.

    =) I hope you find your happy place for dancing. You will turn around quickly! *hugs*
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Thu, July 30, 2009 - 6:01 PM
    One thing that you might do...conditioning exercises specifically geared towards developing the muscle control and development that are used with dance...we're doing a session of this in our classes this time and it's really helping me to isolate and strengthen those muscles...

    Anybody got any good DVD recs? I've got oodles of notes, but don't think my instructor would appreciate my posting them outside the group.
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Fri, July 31, 2009 - 6:33 AM
    Firecracker! Firecracker! Sis-boom-bah! Kelly! Kelly! Kelly! Kelly! Rah! Rah! Rah! GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO KELLY!!!

    Hope that helps! :)
    • Re: Need some words of encouragement

      Sat, August 1, 2009 - 4:39 PM
      hahaha, yes that helps!!! Thank you, that is all helpful. I am going to jump back into class, and start with beginner. I would think/hope that I progress really fast.

      I am not fitting in my Melodias though :( I put on a wee bit of weight through 2 pregnancies (that both ended in miscarriage) I wasn't past my first trimester, but still had put on weight. I am working on that though, and if I am lucky enough to be pregnant again soon, I plan to dance all te way through :D
      • Re: Need some words of encouragement

        Mon, August 3, 2009 - 12:12 PM
        Old Navy has some good not too expensive yoga pants. They go up to XXL in the stores and the web site has plus sized ones. Not as cool as Melos but they'd do for the time being. It always helps to have something nice to wear even if it's just to work out.
        • Re: Need some words of encouragement

          Tue, August 11, 2009 - 9:24 AM
          soooo right, I picked up a pair that were on sale and I totally love them... they have a gray and black band across the top so I dont' feel the deepseated need for a hip decoration, I can see the movement w/ the band and and and and ....!!!!! a real honest to god gusset in the crotch so they don't go all camel toe on me. I can't wait to go get more- they are my second favorite pair of yoga pants, the other being a pair of daisy fuentes (don't ask I don't know) wide leg things from Kohls. totally kick ass... both of them. =)

          Hope you are on your way to getting back on your feet!!! =)
          • Re: Need some words of encouragement

            Tue, August 11, 2009 - 12:59 PM
            my heart goes out to you, that you had to go through that with your pregnancies. if you ever are at a loss for inspiration, know that you are a strong woman dancing for the loved ones that are looking at you from the other side of the veil...both alive and those that have passed on. I have a non-dancer friend that also had lost pregnancies, two early on, and one late term, and her friends became her support system that helped bring her back from some dark times. Spend lots of time with family and friends and dancing sisters who help bring around that feel-good vibe.
            These thing happened on your path to learn from and make you stronger, however devastating. Dance to honor the love lost and to remember their blessing, however brief. Dance to celebrate the honor of being alive and to bring joy to your heart.
            please be sure to take your doctor's advice during your healing and recovery, and during your re-entry into dance. Don't think of your body's change as a hinderance to your dance, but a reason to get moving, dancing again. Find something comfortable to wear for now, and if you fit the clothes again, nice, but if you trade them in for something else that fits the new you, that is good also.

            I took a 3 year break from dancing between marriage, moving, changing jobs, kids, moving again... listening to anything danceable and trying out some new styles got me back into it again... I was sketchy at first, but dedication and practice are paying off and I am getting back into the "belly groove" again... With time and patience you will too!
            Many blessings to you and your family, and bright wishes for the days ahead.
      • Re: Need some words of encouragement

        Wed, August 26, 2009 - 10:54 AM
        Are we some how connected?! I've been going through the SAME thing! I had a miscarriage and am now having issues with getting back into anything really. Dance is the biggest bummer. It bums me out to not dance. Then when I do get the feeling to do so, I look in the mirror like ::what the hell happened while I was on break::...no good. I hear ya on the putting on the little bit of extra "love". (that's what I call it to keep myself thinking positively =P)

        Anywho! I just thought I'd say, I feel ya...and you aren't the only one sista! I'm starting to force my way through things...and I'm sure we'll be just fine here in a month or so... :)
        • Re: Need some words of encouragement

          Sun, September 20, 2009 - 12:04 PM
          Much love and light to all my dancing sisters. Just dance - No mirrors - Just dance.
          • Re: Need some words of encouragement

            Sun, September 20, 2009 - 12:11 PM
            Just a little update. I am feeling a bit better. I jumped into a class in a different style than I am used to, and am drilling and/or doing Pilates/yoga and Dance DVDs every morning. It helps. I used to do my hardcore working out in the morning, but chose instead to dance :) I still have the extra 'love' lol, and plan to work on it through my diet instead of so much cardio.

            I think working on a different style has helped more than anything. I am in a great class and have some privates with another teacher set up for next week (and a few weeks past that) and in December (can't come soon enough) and want to set up a few with someone else, but I have yet to call her. Who can afford all of these classes. I certainly can't afford as much as I would LIKE to do.

            Thanks for the kind words and my hearts are with those of you struggling with issues after miscarriage.
  • Re: Need some words of encouragement

    Thu, September 24, 2009 - 2:43 PM
    Hi Kelly,

    Your body will remember. I don't think the body every forgets the movements we learn in dance.
    Example: i JUST started dancing again after a 25 YEAR break. I still know all the moves I learned back then, they are just harder for me to execute now until my body gets used to moving like this again.
    How long did you dance before you took your break?
    • Re: Need some words of encouragement

      Sat, September 26, 2009 - 2:12 PM
      I danced off and on for many years, but started really focusing for about 3 years before the break. I had learned more cabaret, and when I started back in I was more tribal based. I am now going for a true fusion. I am back :D and more excited than ever about the new things I am doing :) I also have been hanging with some wonderful dancer friends who are very encouraging. When I hit my first class after the break, I almost cried at how my body had seemingly forgotten, but I can see now that it is there, it just is taking longer to coax out. I am also convinced that I will be a better dancer because the skills will be hard won.
      • Re: Need some words of encouragement

        Sun, September 27, 2009 - 8:52 PM
        I'm rooting for you!
        I just had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago, I haven't been to class since then. It's been hard emotionally to connect with people and music and just be creative. However, I know that everything happens for a reason, and when I'm feeling up to it I'll go to class and dance up a storm :)

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