life kind of landed me in polyland without me really making a decision about it. I was happily monogamously married for 9 years when my husband lost his mind...no really if I told you the long version I'd get done and you'd say...oh...so he lost his mind. After moving back home to CA I fell in love with a good friend of mine...who was married with permission to have other relationships. The choice was never poly or not...it was be with him or not and I wasn't willing to not be with him. So I was in a poly situation. It's had it's ups and downs and alot of growing pains and I'm not sure what form that relationship will finally land in when it settles into something, but it's all been huge to who I am now. Along the way there were other possiblities and finally I met a very sweet man who is also married with limited permission to have another relationship as agreed to by his wife. At first I just thought we'd be friends maybe snuggle buddies but somewhere along the way I fell in love with him and it caught fire. So now I'm in a place where there are two men I love...who I do not want to give up. Though I do want to have a primary relationship and I don't want to be in a relationships with constant dating on either side. I have no idea where this path leads...but it'll be interesting to find out.

well In a prim ltr with the Mother of my only child for 8+ years. And after up and downs with others we think we may have found a great fit.
North Cali, Sacramento.
37 me 27 & 23 my Lovers.

hello all,

i'm an east coast transplant (rhode island) living in san francisco and coming into my own around poly life--knew this about myself forever but just recently (2/3 years) began to be open about it. trying to learn all i can, be deliberate in my relationships and have as much fun as i can!

i have differing views about the "falling in love" phenomenon, so that (along with a BUNCH of other things) sets me apart from most people. i don't know that i am polyamorous in the strictest sense of the word (many loves) but i am definitely polysexual and i know that i do have the capacity to love more than one person at a time--i don't know that i could have more than one primary at a time or anything like that, though.

i like this tribe because i like being able to talk about poly ways while also discussing the aspects of being big people. i like being at a point in my life where being a fat man is seen as sexy by some women.

hmmm...what else to tell?

ask me!

yosenio