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Something to get you going josh

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"Now I've decided that celibacy may not be the way I choose to live any longer."

(My mind's a yummy cauldron of perverse thoughts but I'm not sure which of them I would actualize if I could.)
Put this in check..for now. You are going over packed(sexual tension) into a one day trip(So, to speak).
At this point, you could explode at the hint of a nipple, so..take things slow and go out on a "safe date".
One with a friend, just to take you back to the swing of things. The one requirement is that you HAVE to ask them out.
Have no friends like that..try a work pal and try not to over-apologize for all the mistakes you think you are making on that date.

That's the wise way to go.
The easy plan is to go to some dive club, later toward night and pick up on the woman who is looking to have sex and is excited about the fact of "re-popping" a person's *cherry*.
"But getting back into the swing of things is scary and I'm not sure what I really want anyway."
I did the celibacy for 15 months when I was trying to figure out me and breaking the chain of me being treated like a piece of meat.
It was scary and not much scares me in life. Little steps, here and there, but forward.
As for what you really want???? However, you will start seeing what you don't or didn't want when you decided to go celibate and, hopefully, will head the opposite direction from those people.
Worked for me, though..I don't know how much work you did around the area, or the cause for your celibacy.
For me...I wrote out all I wanted and all I didn't, thought on the past and what I wanted from the future that was different.
It all is well and good now..once I got out of over thinking things too much and learned to relax again, but..with the wealth of info of what I truly desired in people. It, also, took me away from the co-dependents and users, so..I'd have to say it was a good thing.
Up until that point, I hadn't been without sex, since I was 16, for more than a month and that was a big stretch of time for me.
Either way...it's like a bicycle, only funner, lol.
What I mean is you might be away from a bike for a bit, but you still know how to ride it, though it can be clumsy after a long departure.
In the end...you'll be fine.
+SW->

I've been celibate for a year or more several times simply to clear my system and get re-grounded after a major relationship ended. Once I was done getting my strut back I didn't worry about ending my celibacy. I stayed celibate until I ran into someone who turned me on and reciprocated. Until then, no worries. Sooner or later it tends to happen, especially if you're happy and doing the things you love.

Sort of, if one counts the 5+ years of anti-depressant side-effects. I voluntarily stay on the meds because I didn't want to slip into (yet another) depressive episode. The 5 years after that were definately not by choice, but forced by J.'s medical conditions. Several months before J. died, the shrink changed my meds again, and something clicked back on in my brain, but of course it was far too late. So right now, my running total is over 10 years.

Even more so then Josh...Help!?

Oh yeah, a few times. The shortest was 1 year and the longest was nearly 3 years. Each time it followed a major break-up (seems to be a theme with some of us). In my case it was a measure of recalibrating myself and learning to understand and interrogate what had happened to cause the break-up in question for the purpose of NOT doing THAT again. I needed time away..time to myself...time to process and decompress so as not to bring all that particular baggage into someone else's life. I was always still highly sexual. but just didn't involve others, and I discovered a lot about myself through fantasies and lots of masturbation. Now, if you consider celibacy to not include self-play then I suppose I've never been truly celibate...unless you consider the fist 12 years of my life.

-K

I suppose that by being with someone who doesn't like sex, I am celibate by choice. I don't know why anyone would want to do this for more than a few months if they had other options.

no way

Celibate? Dude, I'm having enough problem wittling down to one at a time.

Just couldn't do it.

.... no, can't even wrap my mind around the idea. LOL

which probably means I'd be one of those people that benefit the most from it, but all the same...

There's a new study that shows frequent ejaculations lessen the risk of prostate cancer by about 30%. I guess I'm low risk!

Sort of by choice, but not really.
In my 20's I just hardly ever met women with whom I felt compatible.
I had the social skills of an iguana.
It just wasn't happening.

I could have gotten laid, at least occasionally, though, as I demonstrated to myself by one day going through the effort of asking out and seducing a perfectly nice girl with whom I was not very compatible. I discovered that it really wasn't worth it. Though there was nothing wrong with her, it's much better to wait for someone with whom there is some kind of chemistry.

So, I had long periods of celibacy, sometimes for years on end, back then.

Since then I've learned some lessons about communication and stuff, and a lot about just being more at peace with myself. I'm still terrible with introductions, but that's where the blessed miracle of the internet can be utilized to good effect.

I'm still compatible with blessed few freaks, so there are lonely stretches of months of celibacy sometimes still, but the situation is no longer grim as it kind of used to be.

It has crossed my mind but....no. I still can't be certain that is a good thing or a bad thing but I love sex.