It would make me feel bad. I would begin to replay things in my mind to make sure I didn't do anything to purposely scare him off. If I'm really curious, I will call him and if I get him, I'll ask him what did I do? did my breath stink? was my butt too big? what? why didn't you call?
I would finally end up with saying, "it's okay that we didn't hit it off but don't play kid games with me, if you don't dig me or want to go out with me again just say that", you know it's okay to say that you had a nice time or not and that it was nice hanging out and leave it at that. I won't slash your tires, I'm a big girl...we don't slash tires.

I'll respect you more if you are up front with me. Maybe we threw down and you didn't like that I like to lay and cuddle instead of running into the shower afterwards...whatever, just be straight.

I think I speak for most women when I say I'd rather hear the truth and then I can go my way.

let's hear from some men?

it would make me feel like crap..but hay!...u live and learn...i keep it movng...i never cry over spilled milk...i just re-fill the glass...neeeeeeeeexxxxxxxxxxt!

I personally go on many more first dates than second dates. Usually I skip the 2nd date option because the person wasn't honest with me ... they smoke, they're covered in tattoos, they drink too much, they have more children than they told me about, etc etc. If they don't call me it doesn't bother me one iota because I wasn't going to call them, either.

What does bother me, though, is when I meet someone online and we build or start building a great friendship ... and that continues until we meet in person ... then they don't want to talk to me anymore. If a woman is married or has someone she is into a lot, that's fine ... all she has to do is say so up front. We can be friends anyway (though how close depends on how jealous her SO is). If we meet in person, great. I'd have no expectations other than we'd meet, we'd talk, we'd part company at some point. Hugs are nice but not required. Kisses of any type are not required or desired. She's into someone else ... I'm okay with that. Then when I get back home and she won't talk to me anymore, it leaves me with a feeling that I did something grossly wrong though I can never figure out what it is.

Bottom line for me is that they really weren't my friend, anyway. They had some kind of secret agenda working and when I didn't play into their hands, they cut it off. As someone else said .... next!!

No call after a first date is nothing. If s/he doesn't call, I'll call (if I want to). If I don't want to, I don't care about not getting a call.

If I call and don't get a return call I say two things:

"Asi son las cosas de la vida." (That's life.) Then I say "Next."

First of all try to remember the details of your first date: who suggested to arrange it, how many time did both of you bust out laughing, did you feel the sexual tension, pay attention to the final words.... if your date was really romantic and outstanding- then be sure he/she will definitely call you. otherwise, a gentle vibrator would be a wonderful compensation. Enjoy your lonely evenings ;) www.edenfantasys.com/vibrators/

I would realize the he wasn't really into me. Yeah, it would make be feel low. Kind of makes you wonder why they wanted to get together in the first place.

I had an incident happen to me five yrs ago, that I can relate this issue with. This woman, that i was falling in love with, was sending me funny emails every so often, now I have a great sense of humor, but the bullshit's had to stop with the funny emails, when I'm trying to be serious in getting to know her.

We had made plans to go to a meet and greet, but it fell through because there was this asshole that wanted to control the whole thing, well that didn't go over too well, and not to mention, the building that I lived in caught fire and I had to move. We had made secondary planning that if the meet and greet did fall through, that I would go to her home for a week (she lives in Conn, I live in Delaware). After I found a place to live, I told my now present landlord that I was going to take a much needed vacation. And he didn't have a problem with it.

So, I called the train station and I got the price for two tickets, one going up and one coming back home. So, I got up on Saturday morning, early, got dressed and had my mom take me to the train station. I said my goodbyes and I got on the train.

Long story short, things between the two of us didn't work out, because of non-communication, and her controlling ways while I was there. So, when it was time for me to leave, I got up, packed my stuff and we left for the train station. Now mind you, I was in a traumatic situation, and I wasn't in my right mind. When I came back home and I finally moved, I was by myself and I just let the fact that I was in my new apartment, and I could start all over again, sink in.

I got a text message, it was her. When I finally got back online, I got an email stating that things between us wouldn't work out, because of what I did. BECAUSE OF WHAT I DID! ALL I FUCKING DID WAS GIVE HER A FULL BODY MASSAGE!! I didn't touch her tits her ass or even her puss. (sorry for yelling). I was crushed, hurt and humiliated. At the beginning of the courtship, she did tell me that she had herpies, and that was fine, but I didn't stop talking to her or trying to woo her. She also told me that there was no second chances. I'm glad that she told me that she had herpies, because I wanted to fuck her something FIERCE.

To tell you the truth, and I don't mind telling you, I was a hurt pup. So, I just didn't email her back and I chalked it up to just another woman that couldn't be honest wih me, and I talked to a buddy of mine. So, I found out, in the end, that the asshole that fucked up the meet and greet, was talking to her the whole time I was there. It's a good thing that I was home, because I would have lost it. But, that showed me that she didn't have a backbone and that she allowed someone to change her mind about me.

So, when he or she doesn't call you anymore, just chalk it up to experience and move on.