How can I encourage my guy to lick me more? It seems like I'm always licking him in our nookie sessions, yet he's gotten into this rut where he'll only lick me when we're doing 69. It's his favorite position and it's just ok to me. I want him to just lick me so I can focus on enjoying the good sensations while not having to focus on pleasing him at the same time. It's distracting!
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Re: Please lick me......
Fri, July 25, 2008 - 8:14 PMI may sound coarse but it really this is only the "top" in me speaking out: Do you tell him to do it? Do you say out loud ,"lick my sweet pussy", then grab a hank of his hair and not let him up 'til he is done giving you the pleasure you seek and deserve? Lil' Missy does that every now and then ( ...and I truly wish it was more now than then... ) and it drives me wild with desire. -
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Re: Please lick me......
Sat, July 26, 2008 - 7:51 AMHe doesn't respond in a positive way to naughty talk of forceful behaviour on my part.
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Re: Please lick me......
Sat, July 26, 2008 - 3:49 PMwould work for me too! =)
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Fri, July 25, 2008 - 9:14 PMBeing a man who happens to love giving oral, it's hard for me to understand why your guy is reluctant to do this, but I do have a few suggestions.
First of all... I can completely understand why you desire to have him pay attention to you this way without the distraction of simultaneously reciprocating. I've never been a fan of 69 for this reason. It's just too much to think about and I can neither enjoy what she's doing to me or the attention I'm giving to her. Have you told him how you feel about this? We men are not the most perceptive bunch, and sometimes we just have to be told.
If you have told him this and he's ignoring your request, I might suspect that he's just selfish and doesn't want to give unless he's getting something in return. If he can't enjoy the simple pleasure of paying attention to you just to bring you bliss, I wouldn't hold out much hope for him ever being a great lover. -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 7:50 AMI know that he's gotten lazy on me lately. He'll just lay there while I give him oral or we do 69, then he'll want me on top for actual intercourse. I feel like I'm just manipulating a piece of meat lately. It's not very enjoyable to me at all. I really like missionary and doggy. -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 10:54 AMI know from experience that it's not much fun being with a lazy lover. Have you two been together for many years? -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 12:59 PMHell - I have been told I enjoy giving oral too much and for too long......go figure....
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 1:18 PMOver 2 years together, and just over a year sexually.
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Fri, July 25, 2008 - 10:06 PMI like Billy's idea. If that doesn't turn him on, nothing will. I am also a big fan of pleasing my lady orally, anytime, anyplace. So I don't understand a guy being reluctant to take care of you this way. He obviously doesn't object to licking you, or he wouldn't be so into the 69. I like 69 a lot too, but if he can't take a STRONG hint, he's not really interested in pleasing you. I do wish you the best of luck in teaching him how to please a woman. -
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Fri, July 25, 2008 - 10:15 PMMonica,
I've read what the guys wrote, and it all sounds good, so guys understand with my post I am not in any way discounting you. What I would suggest is foreplay before foreplay, at a time when he can see you in bed with him, you licking and sucking on his nipples, while playing with/licking your own, to turn him on. do that for a bit, and then shift attention to him, for him to feel what you are doing while still seeing in his head the visual of you playing with your own...
Maybe that can jump start something....
Lynn
***You have my permission to call me on it if it doesn't work!!!LOL!!! :-) -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 6:26 AMI sort of have this problem, too, Monica. While there are all kinds of ideas of things to try--some guys just don't enjoy giving oral all that much--heck, I don't like giving it all that much to him either. My husband doesn't like to kiss and doesn't really like giving oral all that much but does now and then. While I miss it and do a lot of things to encourage him (telling him how much I enjoy it, moaning a lot-since I really do enjoy it and so on), I just think there are some acts some people like more than others. I really don't want to bug my guy too much about doing it for me because I don't get any pleasure out of knowing he's doing something he really doesn't enjoy all that much. I guess you could just sit him down and say "it won't hurt my feelings if you are honest--but I really like when you give me oral but you don't seem to want to do it--what's up about that?" You may be surprised.
As far as the hair pulling "lick my sweet pussy thing"...wouldn't work in my house because HE is the Top. :) Sounds very hot though!
So while it's frustrating for us that have partners that are hard to convince to do something WE enjoy--it's not always all that easy. It somehow reminds me of trying to get my kids to eat vegetables they didn't like. They'd do it but have a really sour look on their face.
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 7:52 AMI think he's just gotten lazy because he's usually tired from work. But I'm always horny and need a lot of attention. -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 8:11 AMWhy don't you just ask him why he only likes to do it during 69 and ask him to be completely honest about it, as you desire it more often?
Betcha...
...he could tell you the real deal if you do ask him straight up. -
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 1:19 PMHe told me that it turns him on better having a woman on top of him. -
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Unsu...
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 2:25 PMThen sit on his face, facing the opposite direction of "69".
Problem partially solved for both of you.
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Betcha
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 10:30 AMHi Monica,
In my opinion, 69 is great for getting the juices flowing and getting hard and wet, but for focused oral pleasure, I would personally like to eat my partner out, then after my honey gets her jollies, then I would want her her suck me off.
I'm mainly dominate in having oral sex, but I'm also very fair when it comes down to giving a woman what she wants..
But that's just me.
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Sat, July 26, 2008 - 8:47 PMOk, here's why I don't understand why anyone, male or female, would be reluctant to do whatever their partner enjoys. For me, the biggest turn-on in the world is the sights, sounds, and feelings of my woman being REALLY excited. If I haven't already explored and experimented enough to find all her hottest buttons, I would hope she would communicate with me and tell me what it is that she wants me to do, and how to do it. Although I do prefer finding the buttons on my own. Whatever it is that turns her on, I'm going to do it a lot. I really enjoy having a fully satisfied woman beside me. Even if I didn't enjoy going down on my woman, it would become pleasurable if I knew she was really enjoying it. It's not so much about what she is doing to me, but how she responds to what we are doing together that turns me on. I just happen to be really lucky, and have a woman that really enjoys what I do to her, and she feels the same way towards my pleasure as I feel about hers.
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