Okay, this is something my wife has expressed interest in. She wants to do a role reversal with us and use a strap on me. Now I'm of two minds about this. One part of me is all willing to go with it. But that other part is telling me no, don't do it, it's unmanning. My question, to man and woman, is this a worthwhile experience? To those who've been on the giving and receiving end, does this have the potential to get me off and bring us closer?
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Re: Strap-ons
Wed, March 26, 2008 - 9:08 PMhave you ever had your ass played with? licked, rimmed, finger play?
if so, id go for it.
when my guy wants it, he loves it.
but for anal play, you have physically want it, be ready for it, both physically and psychologicaly. if you are missing any one of those ingredients, forget it. it wont do a thing for you.
if you havent experienced any for of anal play performed on you, then i would have a few drinks, enough to get you relaxed, while shes going down on you, have her play with your ass, what she does is up to her, but atleast finger it, rub it. if your ok with it, let her contiue.
if it kind of seems wierd, you have to give something atleast three tries before you can really honestly say you dont like something. yes there is execptions, but try it a few times.
if youre not feeling it, tell her. she needs to be respectable of your decision.
so all in all, id start off slow at first and work your way up. but if while in the mist you wanna go home then by all means go for it. -
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Wed, March 26, 2008 - 11:27 PMI agree with Lily . . . if you like assplay, you'll probably like the strap-on, provided you take it easy. I am lucky to have a man who **loves** having his ass played with, so I gt to have all kinds of fun. I love rimming him, sticking my tongue up his ass, and my fingers. I bought him a couple of butt plugs, to either wear while fucking me, or alone when he jerks off. This made him want to try the strap on. It was a new experience for both of us, as previous boyfriends weren't man enough to let me fuck them. We started with a really small toy, to be sure it wouldn't be too much for him. Very quickly, he wanted something bigger. I found it really, really hot to fuck him while alternatively playing with his hard cock. Did it make him seem less manly to me? Hell no! As the advice columnists always say, what is the gender of the person fucking you? If it's a girl, then doing this doesn't make you gay. It makes you a hot man who knows what he likes and is willing to experiment.
Fun fact: You can wear it too, over your hard-on, and fuck her in both holes at once. A good time for all!
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 12:02 AMTo hell with "unmanning." It is it more "manly" to try something new or less? Besides, only your wife will know. If she doesn't think less of you for it then who cares? If you think it might feel good and be fun then go for it. If you don't think you'd like it then tell her so.
If it feels "unmanly" but good, well, go with it. Take the oportunity to see how your partner feels during sex. It might be interesting. You can always put your pants back on, grunt, scratch, down a beer, watch a game, belch the alphabet, and re-assert you man-ness later.
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 12:02 AMTo hell with "unmanning." Is it more "manly" to try something new or less? Besides, only your wife will know. If she doesn't think less of you for it then who cares? If you think it might feel good and be fun then go for it. If you don't think you'd like it then tell her so.
If it feels "unmanly" but good, well, go with it. Take the opportunity to see how your partner feels during sex. It might be interesting. You can always put your pants back on, grunt, scratch, down a beer, watch a game, belch the alphabet, and re-assert you man-ness later. -
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 12:03 AMHmm, tribe seems to have fixed the tab-back and re-post "glitch" Damn. Now I have to be doubly careful to spell check B EFORE I hit "post"
And me typing with a splint too
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 12:22 AMI don't see it an unmanly in any way. But I do agree with lily that you have to have enough prep and stimulation so that you want it enough to enjoy it. Oh and lots and lots of lube. The more lube the better especially the first time. I personally prefer a vibe to a dildo or butt plug because the extra stimulation makes the muscles relax for smoother entry. -
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 6:36 AMDoes it make me manly to get MY ass fucked it a guy might think it's unmanly? Pfffft..fuck that. Who the hell cares. If it something that turns you both on--whatever.
We use a strap-on now and then--I like knowing how much my guy enjoys getting his ass used and I've said this in other tribes--for me as a woman, I enjoy the feeling of power--slapping up against his ass with my body and hearing him moan in pleasure. Of course I am always really sore in my thighs the next day. It's damn work!
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 6:37 AMOh..and if you don't want to invest in a strap-on...just a smallish butt-plug for starters..then she can get behind you and grab your hips and thrust away. I get the same feeling from doing that.
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 6:47 AMMy husband prefers my finger but didn't enjoy the toy so much. He LOVES it when I play with his taint and his ass. -
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 8:45 AMI'd say if you're on the fence about anything you should at least try it. I've exposed my wife to it in movies and she says that it's not something that appeals to her right now. It's not a big enough priority for me to push her into it, maybe someday.
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Thu, March 27, 2008 - 9:02 AMI enjoyed reading all of the posts in this thread. It proves that all of our members ROCK!
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Tue, April 15, 2008 - 7:28 AMGo with it.
Try new things.
You might be surprised.
The ass has lots of nerve endings that connect to the sexual gratification areas in your brain... a very sensitive place.
A friend of mine boffs his wife up the butt for the tightness sensation... and she likes it.
Why could it not be the same for a man.
Besides, whats wrong with some role reversal. Let your wife be the initiator and hold the power in the act. Power play is hot in S&M, why would it not be in a roll reversal. But you would have to be free of hangups, which I suspect that you are not as you have "unsubscribed" to your own thread. Sounds like you need to work on letting go some of your make ego.
Let your wife have some time as the top and you might just find that its not a bad thing at all. But thats probably what you fear the most... that you will lose some birthright of power or some other kind of bullshit cast onto you by society!
LOL
Liking getting it up your pooper will NOT make you less of a man!
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Tue, April 15, 2008 - 7:31 AMHey and here is a second thought....
If you can't let go of the fear of getting it up your pooper and the emasculation that you perceive will happen...
then let her bind your wrists so that you are truly not in power or control. I bet you would be amazed at how freeing actual physical submission can be for your head and your butt hole.
Give it a shot and let her take control, make it into a head trip... makes for some great sex!
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Wed, April 23, 2008 - 10:53 AMWell all I can say is that you'll love it. My wife will run her tongue and hot motuh over my ass and drive me up a wall until I ask her to fuck my ass. She will start with one and then two and finally three fingers before she slides her double headed dildo up my ass. Once she has about 5 or 6 inches up my ass she will insert the other end into her pussy and then fuck me . I have to say that I didn't think I would enjoy it but it does feel pretty damn good. As you are laying on your back and your wife is above you, look into her eyes and see how much she enjoys doing you for a change... you'll fall in love with her all over again.
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Wed, April 23, 2008 - 11:01 AMI have been curious bout doing this with my wife, but not sure how it would feel. What does it feel like to get fucked up the ass? -
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Thu, April 24, 2008 - 1:36 AMIf you haven't tried it I can't explain it, but I would advise starting with something smaller than the average dildo if you've never done anal play before. For the first few times before your body gets used to the sensation and you get over the initial knee-jerk tendency to tense up slow and gentle with LOTS of lube is the way to go!
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Thu, April 24, 2008 - 5:04 AMThe male prostrate is suppose to be the G spot for males. If done right it will send you over the edge and you'll shoot a load like you haven't done since you were a kid. Have your wife start out with a lubed finger and go slowly from there. Having her finger fuck your ass while she gives you a hot blow job is the best.
