I have nothing against skinny hairless chickness boys. But I find alot of hairy "bearess" men seem attacted to them instead of men. I think that is why many of us find ourselfs attacted to straight men because of the "hairy butch, no cream, hair gel, no beauty product factor. Would like you alls opion
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Re: Men not into skinny hairless, chicken boys
Mon, January 9, 2006 - 9:35 AMsometimes people like others that are similar to themselves, some people like others that are different from themselves.
...i tend to like variety... everbody has something special about them :)
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Re: Men not into skinny hairless, chicken boys
Mon, January 9, 2006 - 10:31 AMHmm, I'm a definite bear, but not into my own type, like slender, smooth, long hair. Who knows where it comes from? If we believe the likes of Konrad Lorenz (who got a gaggle of geese to think he was their Mom) it may have to do with early "imprinting" which in my case may have been Disney cartoon feature heroes, almost invariably of that type, at least in the 50's.
Very hard to find the opposite case, of twinky hippie men into bears, since the social currents are set up in the opposite direction: when did you ever see a fat hairy man play a romantic lead, or anything but a character part? -
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Re: Men not into skinny hairless, chicken boys
Mon, January 30, 2006 - 7:29 PMtv sitcoms are full of fat men with hot skinny wives. (two words, drew carey)
the pight of the teddy bear men isn't that bad in general anymore...
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Re: Men not into skinny hairless, chicken boys
Mon, January 30, 2006 - 7:30 PMwhen i say fat i just meant hte opposite of skinny which is what you were speaking of, just to be sure i'm not offending anyone... -
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"fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Tue, January 31, 2006 - 12:08 PMI much prefer "fat" which describes a condition, to to "overweight" which tries to be polite, but makes a moral issue of "not measuring up" out of size in cases where it really isn't one. We don't for example, call short people "underheight."
I don't watch TV, so I'm pleased that there are fat people in romantic leads! But the gay scene is still completely unfriendly, and fat men are assigned to the "bear ghetto" where they can be with their own (second-class) kind.
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Sun, February 26, 2006 - 8:22 PMI'm a fat chick, we get the same short stick... You'd think that being a 3 on the kinsey scale would give you more oppertunities, but i've gotten shut out on both ends. poo. -
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Sun, February 26, 2006 - 8:43 PMI don't know what the kinsey scale is... But I am a big girl. I have gotten to a point in my life where I don't care what the scale says but I care what the tape measure says. i am proportionalte but I still get tossed in with the Fat Girls. But I am not attracted to other Fat Girls. There have been acceptions due to fantastic personality that out shine the physique. But mostly I am attracted to long lithe graceful women. I thik this is because they embody my inner image of myself. Looking at them makes me feel like I look good with them. I wonder if bear men are attracted to skinny chicken guys for similar reasons. -
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Mon, February 27, 2006 - 10:07 AMSpeaking only for myself, no. I don't think I have an inner twink trying to get out. If anything, there's a fatter guy trying to get IN ;-)
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Mon, February 27, 2006 - 11:26 PMalfred kinsey was one of the first people to really study sex. One of the things he came up with was the kinsey scale, 0 being heterosexual, and 6 being homosexual. He said that most people ranged in the 1 to 5 area. I'm a 3. I don't really like using the term bi-sexual becasue then that means i'm aggreeing that there's only two sex's., but to just use the word queer wouldn't work either becasue i wanted to relate that i am not jsut attrected to men, or just to women.
I'm a fat girl through and through, i weigh a lot, my midsection is generious and not quite as proportioned to the rest of my body as i'd like, and i've gotten worse lately. Despite that, i agree with pretty much everyhting else you say. I dig skinny chicks. ;\
(i mean really if you want to get psychological you could say i have internalized hatred but what's the use of picking straws about something i can't change) -
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Tue, February 28, 2006 - 6:21 AMOkay so I would place myself as a 3 on the kinsey scale then. I also think I am attracted to skinny or rather smaller women because of a nututre need. I want to take care of them and feed them. However, when it comes to men I am attracted to huggy bears because I want them to nurture and take care of me. BUt then I have been attracted to nerdish/geeky types and macho hunky types. Okay so I can't pin myself to one type but when I fantisize I think of myself with lithe and graceful thinner women and/or with big burley hairy men. In reality there is a whole new paradigm. -
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Tue, February 28, 2006 - 11:32 AMwell i'm sort of in between on the social weight scale and about a 4.5 on the kinsey scale. I am married to a wonderful man whose character, not his gender is what fueled our romance. That said i like women who are both bigger than me and smaller than me. Bigger women seem more butch to me and i am so into that and smaller women are just hot and who doesn't want that? At least there is variety out there for us all to choose from:) -
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Re: "fat" is actually a preferable word, at least to me.
Tue, February 28, 2006 - 5:53 PMnot to steal the flame from the boys, but that's something i've always wondered about...
I'm very fem. I like skirts, i have 3x more skirts in my closet then pants... i like makeup and fashion and hair and cooking and yes, sometimes i really love cleaning.. all things typically gendered female and not typically butch, but i'm 5'10" i'm a BIG girl, and often i wonder, would someone go after me under the impression i was the butch, the dominant one...?
like we ask to not have our personalities based on our genitals, but how about not basing our personalities on our bodies? (just raising the question for discussion) -
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Re: "I am a powerful feminine"
Wed, March 1, 2006 - 7:51 PMI like skirts, I like pretty things, I can only cook in a limited way and I hate to clean but Ilove to organize. I am tall and big, according the "average". There are times when I want to me meek and small and blend in but it is not a trait I can carry off well. I am the loud voice in the crowd getting ti organised and I am the party planner but I will hire a caterer. I like pretty and delicate but I also like stirking and bold. So yeah I can't be defined by my genitals. I don't think I can be defined by my body type either. Girls my size should be less outgoing according to my grandmother. In her opinion I should be ashamed of my size and not be so loud. As if I should be afraid that someone might notice how fat I am? These are notions from the Mid 20th Century that have become stereoypes etched into our social vocabulary. I think Oprah Winfrey and that chick from Hairspray have had sllot to do with remolding my opinion of myself. I work from the inside out, and therefor what I see has allot to reflect back on me. Eventually I will get of my own shadow but for now I prove I am not afraid by makeing everyone around me love me. Oh I lost my point. I will try back later. -
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Re: "I am a powerful feminine"
Thu, March 2, 2006 - 11:40 AMI like the turn of phrase. "I am a powerful feminine". Can I use that? On closer introspection i would definitely go with my earlier comment that bigger girls seem more butch to me. That is my own personal bias in that area and really has nothing do with reality. It's still real to me so I will have to be more diligent in the way i might type someone based on size because as you lovelies have just proven it is just not true and even if the connotations are positive it can still limit your ability to totally "get" someone. Well that's enough mind expanding reading for me today. Off to Egypt tommorrow!!
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