Lust does not manifest through cause and effect, although it seems to. When you see a healthy man or woman with the appropriate physical characteristics and you feel lust, clearly it appears as if the experience of lust was "caused" by the experience of the object of the lust.
As it happens, the truth is that both experiences occur simultaneously and are at effect of invisible factors and conditions. It is that invisible side which I want to explain.
The well known pyschological mechanisms of projection and objectification are the basis for the experience of lust.
The way these work is subtle and took me a lot of time and practice to comprehend. Now, because after many months I am quite clear on the nature of this mechanism, the intention has arisen to work with it for a positive end. So the first step for me is to explain to someone else what has been learnt and test it out.
It is frustrating trying to put it into linear words for me because it then appears to be a step-by-step process. In fact the mechanism of lust is a spontaneous and automatic emergence of multiple aspects under a variety of conditions. So here is the essence of it as best I can put it:
Unconscious doubt in the validity of the self is the seed of lust. When the conditions are conducive, the sense of intrinsic value and worth is projected onto an external object. This object then becomes "charged" with whatever tendencies are inherent in the self at that time and appears to be a source of validation, value, and worth. Because the source of worth is experienced as being outside the self, this gives rise to fear, grasping, and unconscious guilt at having denied one's intrinsic worth. This condition of grasping is commonly described as "low self-esteem", but if carefully examined the notion of "esteem" in and of itself is a projection of value onto an external standard, so it is more accurate to describe both low and high self esteem as artefacts of lust itself, with no intrinsic existence or meaning.
This is the pith of it. Commonsense observations show that this mechanism repeats again and again regardless of whether the object of lust is "won" or not. The repetition of the mechanism of lust occurs independent of volition or other business, hijacking consciousness and temporarily or permanently obscuring the ability to view situations and people with accuracy.
The really positive aspect of this situation is that once you subjectively comprehend that lust is a consequence of denying and projecting self-worth, the disadvantages of lust as a mode of being become painfully apparent. Dissatisfaction sets in and spurs growth.
The liberating truth is that all satisfaction, happiness and contentment come from within. Knowing this to be true, it becomes easier to forgo the perception of gain or profit in favor of a more stable and permanent source of happiness.
As it happens, the truth is that both experiences occur simultaneously and are at effect of invisible factors and conditions. It is that invisible side which I want to explain.
The well known pyschological mechanisms of projection and objectification are the basis for the experience of lust.
The way these work is subtle and took me a lot of time and practice to comprehend. Now, because after many months I am quite clear on the nature of this mechanism, the intention has arisen to work with it for a positive end. So the first step for me is to explain to someone else what has been learnt and test it out.
It is frustrating trying to put it into linear words for me because it then appears to be a step-by-step process. In fact the mechanism of lust is a spontaneous and automatic emergence of multiple aspects under a variety of conditions. So here is the essence of it as best I can put it:
Unconscious doubt in the validity of the self is the seed of lust. When the conditions are conducive, the sense of intrinsic value and worth is projected onto an external object. This object then becomes "charged" with whatever tendencies are inherent in the self at that time and appears to be a source of validation, value, and worth. Because the source of worth is experienced as being outside the self, this gives rise to fear, grasping, and unconscious guilt at having denied one's intrinsic worth. This condition of grasping is commonly described as "low self-esteem", but if carefully examined the notion of "esteem" in and of itself is a projection of value onto an external standard, so it is more accurate to describe both low and high self esteem as artefacts of lust itself, with no intrinsic existence or meaning.
This is the pith of it. Commonsense observations show that this mechanism repeats again and again regardless of whether the object of lust is "won" or not. The repetition of the mechanism of lust occurs independent of volition or other business, hijacking consciousness and temporarily or permanently obscuring the ability to view situations and people with accuracy.
The really positive aspect of this situation is that once you subjectively comprehend that lust is a consequence of denying and projecting self-worth, the disadvantages of lust as a mode of being become painfully apparent. Dissatisfaction sets in and spurs growth.
The liberating truth is that all satisfaction, happiness and contentment come from within. Knowing this to be true, it becomes easier to forgo the perception of gain or profit in favor of a more stable and permanent source of happiness.
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