*nodding*

I understand what you are saying. Sometimes I wonder if it wouldn't be easier if I had just "lost" my husband to illness or something rather than the issue of divorce. To get over it. But I think it is just a different but similiar grieving process and wouldn't have matter. I certainly don't wish him dead or ill will. Now, for some other people... that is another story. :P

You really have to fully grieve for things. Therapy is a good thing. Friends and writing things down as well.

I think it is possible to forgive but at the same time... I think it is more difficult to truely forget and move on. Sometimes we just cling to that past and that hurt so much that we can't let go. But we have to. The ppl who have hurt us (long ago) definately have and there is no point in hurting only ourselves but clinging to it. Of course, this is all easier said than done. In my case, harder still b/c I'm hardwired to be... more emotional than the average person. So everything is 100x more intense for me. Frustrating as hell.

Anyway, I hope things improve. I know that I didn't think I would be at the place I'm at now after a year and half after he left. Divorce only became final in Feb. But then I had other emotional/relationship drama occur and I'm still trying to heal from that. And even that is getting better slowly but surely. It just takes time and we have to be kind to ourselves.

*hugs*