The Ex. and I have both filled out and submitted our disclosure forms for our individual assets/debts and financial statuses. I walked the packet of papers into the attorney's office at 5:00p today. Well... I guess that's all he needs, then.... the clock started ticking back on January 24th, so the date for the dissolution to be final is July 24. **Sigh** It seems so surreal actually, when I let my mind dwell on it. I spent literally my entire adult life with him. We basically both grew into our adulthood together, raised kids, lived life, made memories... didn't know any other life or could even comprehend life without the other. My, how things have changed.
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Thu, July 6, 2006 - 8:33 PM(((RO)))
I think surreal is a really good description of so many of these things. -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Thu, July 6, 2006 - 10:31 PM(((RO)))
Here's something funny...
My divorce took 2 years to be final because my ex refused to sign any papers. When I went to court for the final ruling on the default dissolution, the judge asked me all kinds of questions and finally siad, *This divorce is final. You are free to marry.*
I laughed in his face!
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Thu, July 6, 2006 - 10:37 PMyeeks!
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sat, July 29, 2006 - 12:06 PMshortly after my first marriage ended, i was running a small gallery that was connected to a pottery studio. in the summer, i sold a lot of pieces as wedding gifts. one day, someone had me wrap the gift they'd purchased on their way to a wedding and then asked me what to write in the "blank inside" card i'd also sold them. after a brief pause, i suggested that i was not the best person to ask that. LOL -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sat, July 29, 2006 - 12:16 PMLOL what were they thinking anyway? how do you buy a card and not write in it yourself? what is that? -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sat, July 29, 2006 - 9:47 PMit was a guy. he came in, said he had to be at a wedding in half an hour, i helped him pick the present, wrapped it and then he wanted help with the card. at least he was already dressed! haha -
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Sat, July 29, 2006 - 11:08 PMyes at least he was dresssed...wait...was he cute? -
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Sun, July 30, 2006 - 1:11 PMi don't remember. that was about 16 years ago! -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sun, July 30, 2006 - 8:12 PMeh I think you'd remember if he was cute(o: so it's best that he was dressed.
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Fri, July 7, 2006 - 12:17 AMIt's tough, I know, but it is so worth it to be free. I'm awaiting my date of freedom - September 9th.
Remarry? Yeah, like that's going to happen any time soon...YEEKS! -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Fri, July 7, 2006 - 3:01 PMmaybe we should do something that last week of aug for all of us recently divorced people. -
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Fri, July 7, 2006 - 3:03 PMHow about us recently un-partnered people; do we get to join in too? My divorce was too long ago to be considered recent... -
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Fri, July 7, 2006 - 8:13 PMtotally! plan to be here! -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sun, July 9, 2006 - 2:33 AM:) I know which date I'd want to put this on, but I'm sure I'll get overruled.
8/28 for any who care would have been my 13th wedding anniversary. I will be as far from Disneyland (our usual anniversary place) as I can be on that date. :) This is a BIG part of the reason I'll be in the bay area that week. -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sun, July 9, 2006 - 10:08 AMI'll be at Burning Man...
But I can definitely send out a *Best wishes on your divorce* vibe for you all.
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sat, July 29, 2006 - 12:18 PMhey wait! I was thinking Aug 24th...how are you doing? did it go final? -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Sun, July 30, 2006 - 9:26 PMIt was July 24th, if you strictly count six months' time required in CA. But the attorney is finalizing the paperwork and as of last Friday 7/28, he needed to clarify something and I communicated the information to him. So hopefully, he will bring the papers to the courts this week, and they will get processed soon. Once I get the final papers, I'm thinking about planning a get together at my place. Not specifically to celebrate the occasion although it will kinda be for that, but outwardly just to enjoy my friends. Don't want to have the daughter get offended if I come right out and say that's what it's for. It will just be a get together at the house and perhaps incorporate a little going out to dance at a club first or something beforehand.
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Tue, August 8, 2006 - 6:58 PMUpdate: Both the Ex. and I have reviewed and approved the final document via e-mail. The hard copy papers went in the mail to the Ex. yesterday. He will sign and get his signature notarized and send them back to my attorney. Then the attorney will call me to say they are ready for my signature. Once I swing by his office and sign, they will be delivered to the court. I figure it will be a done deal in a week's time. -
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Wed, August 9, 2006 - 9:18 AMwow
I hope it feels like progress when it happens. I'm not sure if that is the right word. I don't think it will feel good. But I hope it feels like steps toward good. ya know? -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Wed, August 9, 2006 - 8:45 PMYeah, I know. It will feel like progress and closure, sure.... but also it will hurt. It already hurts. I was merely giving my daughter a few sentences updating her on where the paperwork's at and such, and my eyes started to well up. Yes, I let her see that. She needs to know that I'm not all 'villian' and that it's hard for me too, but I didn't get all blubbery (she doesn't warm up to that). I just collected myself and changed the subject. Then I made a yummy pasta and chicken dinner with fresh steamed summer squash medallions. We ate together and enjoyed some simple conversation and just acknowledged each other. Sometimes that's all I need to feel much better. My worst fear is losing my relationship with my kids and being alone without connections to my children. -
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Re: last of the forms; "final" date 7/24 here soon
Thu, August 10, 2006 - 2:17 AMYou won't lose your connection with your kids. But I understand the worry. It sounds like you handled it perfectly. But even if you hadn't it would be ok.
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