Today has been a beautful day. Suppose all days and night are. Just there for the noticing.
One things I was noticing today, among others related to processes of learning, respect, fluidity..., is the vitality of sprint time. And the organicness of natural vitality springing up as it seems to be showing up in increasingly felt & expressed libido.
People seemed quite perky today that i came across. Something in the air, so to speak.
Like rabbits and other critters who become infused with the erotic Love energy around this time, people seem to still share much of this natural energy.
Yet along with being a human, can come a lot of societal, familial and personal programming, inhibitions and judgements against the natural flow of feelings, energy and even Love as it can be felt & expressed in many ways. Through religion, societal / cultural "norms" of behaviour, insecurity, fear of losing control if we release the tight grip of intellect or seperatness we may have built around ourselves to "protect" ourselves from feeling deeply or other seemingly right-brained areas of life.
Ive already shared a bit about some of my feelings in this area via another thread and links within that thread, on this tribe. Suffice to say mutuality, consensuality, honesty & genuine Loving respect are basic requirements for healthy relating and sexual loving.
Aside from that, most judgements or dogmas about feeling & sharing Love and the erotic energy of Life seem to be nothing more than judgements or dogmas. Beliefs that do not change the nature of the inherent and potential purity of loving sexuality. However we choose to express it.
Whether through a celibate lifestyle.
With a harem of consenting men or / and women.
A casual fling with a near stranger based in mutual loving pleasure.
Long or short term monogamous relationship.
Long or short term nonmonogamous lover(s)...
How have your views about Love, sexuality, sensuality, morality changed throughout your life experience? If they have.?
What do you feel constitues sexual or moral purity? What then constitutes sexual impurity if anything?
One things I was noticing today, among others related to processes of learning, respect, fluidity..., is the vitality of sprint time. And the organicness of natural vitality springing up as it seems to be showing up in increasingly felt & expressed libido.
People seemed quite perky today that i came across. Something in the air, so to speak.
Like rabbits and other critters who become infused with the erotic Love energy around this time, people seem to still share much of this natural energy.
Yet along with being a human, can come a lot of societal, familial and personal programming, inhibitions and judgements against the natural flow of feelings, energy and even Love as it can be felt & expressed in many ways. Through religion, societal / cultural "norms" of behaviour, insecurity, fear of losing control if we release the tight grip of intellect or seperatness we may have built around ourselves to "protect" ourselves from feeling deeply or other seemingly right-brained areas of life.
Ive already shared a bit about some of my feelings in this area via another thread and links within that thread, on this tribe. Suffice to say mutuality, consensuality, honesty & genuine Loving respect are basic requirements for healthy relating and sexual loving.
Aside from that, most judgements or dogmas about feeling & sharing Love and the erotic energy of Life seem to be nothing more than judgements or dogmas. Beliefs that do not change the nature of the inherent and potential purity of loving sexuality. However we choose to express it.
Whether through a celibate lifestyle.
With a harem of consenting men or / and women.
A casual fling with a near stranger based in mutual loving pleasure.
Long or short term monogamous relationship.
Long or short term nonmonogamous lover(s)...
How have your views about Love, sexuality, sensuality, morality changed throughout your life experience? If they have.?
What do you feel constitues sexual or moral purity? What then constitutes sexual impurity if anything?
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Re: So then, your views on Love, sexual "morality", purity, animalistic.. lets hear them.
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 1:28 AMIt was beautiful today. I love springtime :)
My view of love, sexuality, morality, etc. haven't really changed much yet.. but who knows, maybe they will later on in my life lol.
"What do you feel constitues sexual or moral purity? What then constitutes sexual impurity if anything?"
Personally I think sexual and moral purity are if someone waits to be in love with someone before becoming sexually intimate with them, and better yet, if they wait til they're married. LOL and to me there's so much sexual impurity that I'm not really going to get into that.. but some things that are sexually and morally impure are the obvious ones.. rape, incest, pedophilia, etc... -
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Re: So then, your views on Love, sexual "morality", purity, animalistic.. lets hear them.
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 1:51 AMBlech!! - Rape, incest, lying, knowing one has stds and not telling love / sexual partners....
Yeah. Anything which puts anothers divinity, freedom and beings values below ones own desires in relationship to each other is pretty friggin messed up. That i too feel constitutes impurity.
Disregard for the validity of anothers being and equality of values. If they are different, then respect it enough to relate in other ways and / or with other people.
Crazy in a way, I read of someone suggesting that if someone wants sex from a person, than the "object" of that persons desire should just give themselves over to the person rather than deny them. And the person who wrote that is a very well known chinese medicine doctor and spiritual teacher. He was referring specifically to a woman being raped, that she should not fight and just let herself be used to provide pleasure for another rather than "blocking" the flow of energy.
I had to reread that when i read it. Maybe Im confused? But that just seems really off and distorted to me. Feeding the mindset of disrespect, virtual temporary slavery and objectification of a person ( female or male ) is not spiritually or otherwise clear. It simply supports the idea that such raping person can continue using others like meat.
In many other ways that teacher is likely quite clearly developed. Shows how we can be a mixture of clear and distorted energies. Very bright and yet in some areas very clouded.
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Re: So then, your views on Love, sexual "morality", purity, animalistic.. lets hear them.
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 7:15 AMWell, it's actually fall down here, so the energy is a little different. Rather than the libidinous energy I'm feeling more of that warm, cuddly, wanna be with someone special in front of the fire kind of energy. Different side of the same coin really, lol!
For me sexual purity definitely doesn't need to involve developed love, and definitely not marriage, lol, but different strokes for different folks eh? :) I think sexual purity is something that can be felt more easily than defined. But I'll try anyways! Like when you meet a special someone and you just feel that connection with that person. But this can have a wide range of possibilities inherent; you can meet a special someone who just turns you on so much, and does the same for her/him, and you just want to rip each others clothes off, and maybe you do. Nothing wrong with that, sometimes souls meet in special circumstances and truly want to pleasure each other, and be pleasured by the other.
Other times you meet people who jive with you on every level imaginable, and you just want to spend every moment of every day with them. And if they feel the same way, well, then you are both blessed. This can last for a week, a month, a year, a lifetime........really, it depends, IMO, on the depth of the connection, and how hard you're both willing to work at it. I never met a lifetime couple who had spent every moment bathing in rose petals; one of the key issues of defining a long-term relationship, IMO, is how hard you are willing to work as a couple towards a life-time goal.
The key factor of course, is mutuality of sentiment. Regardless of whether it's a hot and beautiful one-night stand, or a lifetime of sharing, the sentiments must be mutual in order for it go from mundane to magical.
Sexual impurity are scenarios that violate that mutuality of sentiment in some way shape or form; from sleeping with a girl/guy because you've got nothing better to do on one end of the spectrum, all the way to rape and what have you.
IMO
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