Are you in a challenging poly relationship right now? Does one of your partners find it almost impossible to connect with your other partner(s)? Have you tried everything you can think of to get your other partners to support the relationship and nothing quite does the trick?

After spending 3 years doing everything I could to bridge this divide and eventually losing one of my beloveds to the resulting pain and suffering, a new idea came to me recently. What if they really don't have to have a connection. What if it's just like the two like poles on a magnet that the more you push them together, the more they repel each other?

With that thought in mind, I then asked myself how do we take care of the very real needs of a partner being excluded by the other partner?

The answer that came, do it with a tribe. Find others who are in the same boat. Form a network of support of those who are living this same dynamic and all agree to be there for each other. Not to help process the feelings and actions of the group but to just be there. So when you are suffering you get on the phone or email log on to this tribe and put out a call and the first person who has the time to come over to your house, does it. Drops everything and just comes over and holds you and reassures you that it's ok to feel what you're feeling and next time you will strive to catch that quarter of a second that our brains give us to move into the frontal lobes instead of our brain stems.

An unconditional loving support group.

http://tribes.tribe.net/challengingpoly