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Compersion

topic posted Wed, February 27, 2008 - 6:54 PM by  offlineSabrina
This is a workshop building question

Dirty definition: Being happy that your lover is with another lover. Making space and giving support for your lover to connect with other love interests.

If you were to "teach" the art of compersion what would you include? How would you structure it?
If you wanted to "learn" the art of compersion what would you want from the "instruction"?

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    Re: Compersion

    Wed, February 27, 2008 - 8:37 PM

    Hmmm - A couple of ideas on my short list:

    1. Trust. In yourself, your lover, your relationship.
    2. Abundance. That love/affection is infinite and not finite.
    3. Continuity. Patience... all things have a time and place.
    4. Jealousy. Management.
    5. Fear. Determining what you're afraid of - learning how to communicate those fears.

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  • Re: Compersion

    Thu, February 28, 2008 - 12:05 AM
    The best thing I've found to help me with compersion is empathy. I don't know how teachable that would be. When I can feel my beloved joy when they are with another it is much easier for me to be happy for them.
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