First, I'm so so sorry, Ceesaw! Previously, I wrote "Could you please check on his Natal Chart" and now I see that you had already posted the link to his Natal. I was on phone, in a rush and the Synastry caught my eye (especially the Chiron, North Node part - I got more excited about it than you obviously lol - basically because I love NN conjunctions, especially in Synastry), so I started writing and didn't check back for the other links. So... Sorry. (-_-)

I'll leave what I wrote as it is. Except: the paragraph about Mars and North Node was about your North Node. Your NN is in the 9th House and encourages you to Taste it all: new things, differences, different cultures, spiritual growth, education, etc etc. On the other Hand, your Mars is conjunct his Chiron, which means that you are there to heal a wound of his. His Chiron is in the 1st House in Taurus, so he might have ego problems. The 1st House is the House of Self. Taurus is also associated with a dickhead Ego. Basically, your Mars on his Chiron might be there to boost his Ego with willpower, initiative and all Mars-related things.

Therefore, you might consider this relation as a "karmic encounter". Not necessarily soul mates, but maybe 'soul guides' there to experience each other.

Sorry, but I've got to ask this: I see that the Universal time on his Natal is 4:00, so I'm wondering whether the time is 100% accurate or you've round it up? (I guess you already know why I'm asking, but just in case - 10 or 20 minutes might make a relevant difference in the Composite. Basically.)

The Composite Sun in the 9th House (according to these birth times) doesn't necessarily indicate a relationship. Composite Sun in 9th House might be a romance that ends "platonic", or a romance that is there for the people to taste s/t new - a romantic experience, or a "experimental romance". Remember that your North Node is in the 9th House as well, and that your Mars and his Chiron are conjunct in Synastry, so the Composite Sun in the 9th House might reflect and underline what the relationship is about (and it might be about that conjunction in Synastry). You help him, you have a new experience, you grow towards your North Node and that's it.

His Natal Chart is a little karmic disaster and if it's true that souls pick their Natal Charts before they come down on Earth (I heard so), he picked a very shitty one. Especially in matters of love. I don't know how "dangerous" or "aggressive" he might be, but maybe he just said "I'm dangerous" to play himself up. It's not unusual for guys to do things like that to act the man out, especially if he's got some confidence-issues that he wants to hide. I'm saying this because his Chart is really a karmic disaster and indicates issues and issues: Mercury Rx, Venus Rx, Saturn Rx, Pluto Rx - every retrograde in a Natal Chart can be considered "karmic".

Mercury Rx is "clumsy" (more or less). Venus Rx experiences love on an introvert level (shy deep down within). Saturn Rx goes like "and no matter what I do, it's never enough" (feeling not worth or not good enough), Pluto Rx is a package that includes many bricks in the way, but also much inner strength and "bite" to save those. Pluto Rx might also include "I'm a mess, but I'll play on cool". On the other hand, his poor (I can say poor) Venus is like stuck in a battlefield opposite Moon (inner self), square Saturn (limit), square Pluto (death, rebirth, transformation) and even opposite NN (or, conjunct SN). Venus conjunct South Node is karmic. Moreover because all those planets hit his Venus. Also, he's got tensions. His emotional needs (Moon) and his emotional needs with other people (Venus) are at war (basically, what he wants is versus what he needs). For example: in one moment, he wants you but when he wants you, it isn't what he needs, but in the next moment, he does need you, but when he needs you, it's not what he wants. That's basically Moon (inner self, personal emotions) opposite Venus (inter-personal emotions). His NN/SN might also reflect this. He might be jumping back and forth between his North Node in Cancer (nurture others, selfless) and his South Node in Capricorn (nurture oneself, selfish).

With all the squares to his Venus (Mars, Saturn, Pluto), a perfect relationship for him doesn't necessarily exist. I think it's also worth to mention: his Lilith is in the 8th House in Sagittarius. Lilith counts as esoteric, but since all Astrology is esoterically mythological, I find Lilith very interesting, and most people can identify with its interpretations. Lilith might be a "dark side" and it's worth to mention because it's in the House of Death, Sex, Transformations in Sagittarius (the flighty sign that has it hard to commit). However, Lilith in a guy's chart might instead describe the type of woman that would lead him very very wrong. There's more about this in MaryEllen's Dark Moon Goddess Lilith Tribe.

Basically, he's got lots of 'baggage' and that baggage is his thing, not yours - just in case that you misinterpret the Chiron/Mars conjunction as "you're there to heal him in every single way". No, you're not. According to Astrology and that NN/Mars/Chiron conjunction (and Composite Sun in the 9th House), you're there to 'experience' each other.

Composite Saturn is in the 5th House and Composite Saturn is often a 'limit'. In the beginning, you don't notice that limit but when the time is right (and when you don't expect it) Saturn activates its 'doom'. That 'doom' might be just an 'expiration date'. Most relationships/relations have that 'expiration date' and in this Composite, Saturn is in the House of Romance, Fun, Games, etc. so it might be the case that the day will come when you will bore each other, or that the romantic feeling that might be there now, will disappear... or s/t like that.

Whatever the case, there are so many angles and perspectives that you might look from and you'll still not find the perfect answer. that's why, my suggestion would be: trust your heart (and your mind) and let it evolve ...and I think that the Alicia Keys line that I mentioned in the previous post might fit very well.

Here a link to astrologyweekly regarding Mars/Chiron in Synastry: www.astrologyweekly.com/forum/...ead.php Maybe you'll want to check it out if you already haven't.

And I already said that the threesome might have been a part of that 'healing'. MIGHT. Doesn't have to. IMO, there are things that we shouldn't know, but I guess you asked and I hope this post is (if not helpful, then) at least somewhat inspiring. Not necessarily the most traditionally accurate interpretation (I leave that to traditional people), but anyways. Gods are crazy, stars are blind and you never really know, so follow your gut. (That would be my opinion.)

Regarding this: "In the past I have been repeating unhealthy behaviours and then beating myself up (hope that makes sense)."
Don't. That's the unhealthiest behavior of all. Just trust that it all goes the way it should and as long as you learn from the behaviors, no matter how healthy or unhealthy, it's all good. IMO.