Hi Robert! I think the best route is to come out to some non-play local events to meet people, get to know them, and start learning what's available within the community and also regarding the huge variety of activities, styles and interests out there. There's a Skate Night at Skateworld near fashion valley from 7-9pm this Thursday, but probably easier for a first visit would be the Singles Mixer we have this Friday evening from 8-10pm on the back patio of Shooterz on 30th just south of University. It's 21+. We also have a huge variety of other events - both social and educational throughout the month. For an events calendar of all the local activities through Club X and other groups and individuals, check out groups.yahoo.com/group/SDCalendar/cal .. though it's on yahoogroups, you won't receive emails from it.
A couple of years ago, I heard about someone wanting to host CFNM parties, but haven't heard anything on it recently for this area.
If I can answer any other questions for you, please don't hesitate to email me at info@clubxsd.org
Welcome to this journey .... caryl