My "need" for sex has probably decreased a bit. However, my recognition of my need for sex has increased. As has the social and (interpersonal) validation I derive from it. So overall, I'm probably more demanding now than I was 15 years ago.

Sometimes I think it's changed a lot, but then I tend to discover that I've just been in a rut and it's been dormant. Focusing on the things I enjoy, finding new partners, doing exciting new things tends to bring it back pretty well.

I'm probably also a little more risk averse, but better equipped to both manage risks, forsee and work around them, and to mitigate them. But also a bit quicker to take my risks when that's the right choice for me. I just heal so damned slowly these days.

The breadth of things I enjoy and want to try continues to expand, but that's been true pretty much since I passed Saturn Return.

Oh, and I'm in much worse physical shape right now than I've ever been, but that comes and goes for me. Soon to come again, I'm planning.

I find that the sensual side of a person is far more exciting than outward looks or accomplishments. I was very much the youthful, somewhat shallow, "if it looks good, it has to be good" type person. I'm so beyond that now. Of course, I won't say no to a good looker if offered ;) !

My libido waxes and wanes. If I'm getting it regularly the libido is always wanting more, but if, for some reason, the sex life dies down I find that I can go for a very long period without sex and not even think about it. I seem to adjust to the needs of the time far easier than when I was in my 20s and 30s.

I, technically being in that "cougar" category find the draw to younger men to be one of energy level, stamina. I am, for the most part, one of endless bounds of energy in the bedroom (when I get the chance) and it seems most men who are my equal in age or older just can't keep up. <laugh> Old joke that I said back in Kentucky...The men my age are dead, they just don't know it yet. That meant most of them would sit and watch TV changing channels with the remote and not move for anything...almost becoming corpselike. I prefer the more active vital man.

I miss the "petiteness" of my younger years (dress size) and endurance factor. I also miss having lots of days pain free. My body is letting me know on a daily basis now that it's over 50. ICK!

Mine is funny in that it's pretty much the same as it has been my entire life. It ebbs and flows. Sometimes for months at a time. I'm in an ebb period right now.

I also have a small issue with the word "need". To me a "need" is something you require for survival. I need air, food, water, etc. I don't need sex. I can "desire" or "want" sex. My desires can be very intense (hets only - our instinctive urge to procreate) to the point of it feeling like a need. But in my POV it is not. At least for me at my age.

But YMMV!

hmm my perception of sensuality, like to think that I am brighter and less shallow now that i am older. My needs for sex have pretty much remained constant from when I was a teen only difference being now my needs are getting met!!!

Due to some major female surgery, well, the sex I have is in my brain. Mostly, I get brain excited just doing BDSM power play and energy exchange. No sex act necessary. It is more of a turn on and longer lasting for me.

Getting older and having all one's delayed pain responses which have now manifested into acute health issues, well it really stops the flow for sex. Chronic pain, really messes with ones flow-jo jo jo....