I second Duchess Althia's recommendation. I think she has the the right read on the situation.

wow.. yeah the only thing that makes me question it being a stalker, other than I haven't been able to catch anyone doing it... is that I know there are people that obsessively collect or ...ick... use it in some perverted way or whatever. If it is a fetish thing.. then that would probably not be a stalker.. or perhaps I really just can't process that thought right now... there is a twisted sort of industry in that... someone showed me a link to a panty exchange networking system online.. . I don't know if it is real or not but it sort of looked real. Fetish people wouldn't normally be stalkers because they wouldn't be satisfied with collecting only one person's shoes... .or underwear.,, jock strap, etc..

I have considered the camera thing... a webcam would actually work fairly well from what I am told... and not expensive. I'll probably try that....I don't think I would do the trap thing though as I would probably cut my own fingers off if I did. thanx anyway, tho... ")

The underwear ;laid on the bed thing... seriously creeepy. whoa. And as far as having all your intimates tied to a flagpole... that is just bizarre...but I could see that as going a little too far....I guess you may have gotten it back at some point hopefully. I wouldn't want mine back.
:P It's fun to buy new stuff, though.