You two are perfect for eachother. Remember we must always try and create our actions to be non-violent provoking.
If you are one way... and she is another.... oposites attract. You two are a like in one or more aspects because like minds attract. This means you two are simular in character... but oposite in body-learning-life. Every human being is born as reflection thats a part of a picture. Each of us hold one piece. All pieces are unique, our soul signatures are unique, our vibrations are unique.
The bodys-brain... is very complex. We need to be near people who are oposites, in order to grow. you cant give plants just one thing and they grow.. they need many things, or sometimes very few things... just like humans. Some people are more simple in many things than others. As above, so below.. and so we have different physical features, different stances, therfore... different ways of Learning.
If you see her as an energy vampire.. then there is a likely chance she sees you as somekind of vampire in something else...
maybe you are a vampire to yourself.. seeing your self One way.. or rather a positive way, is saying Close Doors.. you are done.. you are positive person... you marked yourself, dubed yourself.. Good. Therfore.. you are not. You have not learned.... enough...
never say You know everything.. or else you close yourself off to learn new things, you close yourself off to being open and ready for anything.
Thats how we enter our heaven, our dna.. is through learning that there are no such things as threats. Its all learning.. we learn, we grow.. we Bloom.
If you truly love her.. then you are soul connected in the way that your soul knows you two are great to Learn from eachother.. she is as strong as you want her to be.. and vise versa, if you two can stay all the way.. oposites pull. Then you two begin to see your True selfs, in a perfect reflection.
Its kinda like how I was raised to believe children were seen and not heard... I never knew why.. I learned that its because children are impressionable and they always learn and speak of what they learn, so therefore if a child hears.... something someone in the family needs to keep away from outsiders... thats why children were punished harshly in mafia homes.. old ways of covet secrets. to secure the families materials.
Speak .... Talk to one another... you will never know or learn if you always assume... you must sit with her and show her your heart... be collective.. show your self control and do what you know will set your mind and soul free from your wondering thoughts, your questioning learning mechanism to grow will only preceed to pressure you until you learn.

Hope this helps. Be strong

Perception is a reality. The problem arises when so much of one's perception is dominated by scornful things in life. Beauty is copious in life but much more focus is put upon the conflicts i.e. the media, the powers in place at the moment, simply for purpose of control. A mass of people in disarray is much easier to infuence than a unified one. We live in an age of cynicism. We have witnessed such deception that it is hard to believe anything, and it benifits the people in power to keep us from dicovering ourselves and each other. There are people like my girlfriend and your parents perhaps because they have trouble believing in beauty beyond the torment they witness on a daily basis. Their perception lens is set to pick up on a certain pattern (which happens to be more negative). Some others maintain a balance between this world and the outside world (outside time and space) because they believe more in it. I don't just believe in it I have coalesced with it. We are in space time and outside of it simaltaneously. What some people see in the physical world, blinds them to the reality outside the world.