i have two children. i love them with every cell in my body. with every bit of me. i honestly, and i am only saying this because i hope it will help someone else, didn't know my role in pregnancy. i felt, i don't know what i felt. but it wasn't confidence, i guess then it was insecurity. or maybe inferiority. it by no means had anything to do with my partner, or my friends, or my parents. i just feel like the society i grew up in provided no framework for the experience of pregnancy and fatherhood for males. i felt lost.

i don't want any other men to feel like this. now that i have experience, and i know absolutely how wonderful my children are, i know my fears and insecurities were unfounded. now that i have experience i feel ready to have children.

ironic isn't it.

i am not going to have any more children. that is a choice i made. i feel so lucky to have the two that i do, they completely fulfill me.

i do want to be here though, for any men (or women who are worried about their man) who have a child growing inside of a beautiful goddess.

if any of you ever read this. or anyone who is thinking of having children want to discuss the male role in pregnancy please reply.

i personally don't think there is any specific answer. or any specific role. but men don't grow the children physically, so our part is less directly tangible. and every single bit as important.

love to all fathers,
and all fathers to be.