Sometimes it's the holding on that drives people away. Do some magick that your intention is to keep the relationship, then back away and let the universe do the rest. Sometimes you have to step back and they will come towards you.

Communication. Explore the concept of "no going back" in the framework of the love and "perfect package" idea and get to the bottom of it. You need information and you are getting mixed signals. Honesty and love deserve communication. Ya gotta go talk to the brother and see what is "really" up. Be willing to work with him and the situation if it is meritorious. But, you also need to know if you are wasting time trying to salvage something that is not salvageable. Openness and honesty is the only way here, it seems. Both with each other and with yourselves. Good luck and Bright Blessings from the Smoky Mountains where the Goddess smiles.

Let's step out of the realm of magic and into the realm of medicine for a moment. I have 2 very dear friends who both have MS...one has to give himself a shot once a week to keep the symptoms under control and the other is currently part of a medical study at University of Virginia for a new pill-form drug, and her symptoms have gotten much more controlled by this medicine. Both are living comfortable lives via these meds and very rarely have flair-ups. I don't know if your doctor has suggested these treatments...but they ARE out there and available. The study pill has already been through 3 series of testing, and actually approved by the FDA, but the hospital conducting this study has chosen to complete one more series of testing before releasing it to the general market. However, they are willing to accept applications from MS sufferers that qualify for the treatment...something worth checking into that will make life for your husband much more comfortable.

;) The next time he says "no going back" You could say "DAMN STRAIGHT - it is time to move forward not apart"

Go to war! Envoke Morrigan to help you at war. Just choose carefully what you are at war with exactly, be precise! (You know IE be at war with miscommunication, the MS)

Men like mystery, so don't be too open, schedule time for yourself by yourself and let him wonder what for. Just have him babysit. Schedule time away from home, take a class, have some coffee, library, anything.

It will be good for you!

Perhaps a small separation would help, often it does, a weekend out with the guys or his parents. Ultimately you are both free, and the choice has to be renewed in freedom.

Ask him for a period of counseling and mediation for a year or two before divorce. Just to help what ever the future holds happen in a more peaceful way for your boy if not yourselves.

A good few people thought I was out of my mind when I wanted a divorce, because I never complained about what I was suffering before that. Perhaps he has sharing to do, perhaps he doesn't want to burden you , who knows.

The good few people all understand now though, through my experience or their own with him. It was the best thing for me, though his family was heartbroken, they are such awesome people!! I miss them the most.

Best Wishes to you Dear,