Superficially obsessive perhaps more than overtaken (unless the synastry is right)

(Moon square Pluto in Gemini)

Jolie, I think I know how you feel; I have been there many times. All my life I have been overly dependent on the men I loved. They were by far the most important thing in my life. I spent my days waiting for calls, letters, anything that would show a man was interested in me. My hapiness was totally dependent upon that call or letter. When he called I was over the moon. When I got no call all day or even all week or month or year, I was severely depressed and unable to do anything. I hated myself for this. I knew I was wasting precious time. But it was stronger than me. Until I read a book that said I should develop an interesting life for myself. That was a turning point.

As soon as I got there - interesting life, not much room for a partner .... every guy wanted me. They wanted to have a relationship with me. They called me, courted me, hunted me - until I ended up next to the phone, waiting all day for a call or a letter, and all in vain.

It looks like some sort of a curse. If you really, truly are no longer interested in them, they all want you badly. They'll do anything to get you, have you. And as soon as they feel they "have" you, they no longer want you. Isn't that cruel?

But there's something else behind it, or at least that's what I believe. I feel pluto is teaching you a lesson. I feel pluto wants you to transform your needs and attitudes. Right now, your attitude is passive. Pluto wants you to love yourself more than you love this man. Pluto wants you to grab a hold on yourself (yes, I know that is by far the hardest part) and get yourself a life - like you did so far this year.
It is not easy Jolie. It takes years of two steps forward and one step back. That one step back of course are the times when you fall in love and loose yourself again. As soon as you loose yourself, you will immediately notice the man will loose interest. Because pluto does not want you to merge. He does not support smothering relationships. I feel pluto wants us to be able to love without totally loosing ourselves. Which is not the same as being indifferent. On the contrary. I feel he wants you to be able to love fully and deeply, and yet not loose yourself. That is very hard, so you will stumble and fall, get up, try again, and stumble and fall. But eventually you will get somewhere, over the years.

Right now of course it feels like hell. All you can do is focus on whatever it is YOU like. It's like trying to overcome an addiction. The first steps are by far the hardest. Get yourself a life that is really worth living, and forget about men. Create a base that feels good, where you can always fall back upon whenever a man is dumping you. That is my advice. Plus some love and hugs all the way from europe to mexico.

Take care Jolie!

Obsessive? Not so much on my end. I kind of hold back and it takes me a long time to ever get to a "love" feeling. Even then I'm very independent and like as not to forget anniversaries, etc. I'm not very sentimental at all. I've never been the type to wonder where they are or what they are doing. I'll like them when they are there and forget them when they aren't. I know. Very un-Plutonian. Where I am Plutonic is that once I do feel love it is very, very deep and can demolish me if it's gone. I've only done that once and it's definitely the best of times and worst of times things. It's a case of I once had everything and then I had everything taken away. VERY Pluto.

On the other hand, the men I attract are completely obsessive to the point where everyone around me notices it. They show up all the time and basically follow me around. They hover. They fall over themselves to do things for me. I stay very cool to them because I am so detached, but it doesn't matter they go on like this for years until something physically separates us. I think it's a cosmic fascination of some sort and not particularly personal. They all seem to be in one week of February so it's very specific to our charts apparently. I've dated some and been extremely close to four (two of which I'd say were soul mates because we have such deep karmic connections), those were very intense relationships that would probably scare most people but I like my relationships Plutonic. For me this has always just been a fact of my life. If other people didn't comment on it so much I'd probably think it was normal.

And all of these guys have had Pluto Moon and Pluto Moon synastry with me. They have also had Pluto conj my Venus or Venus conj my Pluto which creates its own fascination and obsession. Add in Neptune connections and its no wonder we have relationships like this. In the book, The Secret Language of Relationships it says our combination (Libra/Scorpio and Aquarius III) is "Fantasy Needs." It says we can get addicted to each other. Very true.

And Jolie, I think this guy is just as fascinated with you but the intense feelings you arouse in him probably scare the crap out of him. He shows up when he can't stand it any longer then runs the other way in fear.

Wherever Pluto touches, it adds a degree of obsession. With the Moon it is partially emotional obsession, but really its a kind of 'neediness' obsession. Pluto moon types, particularly the hard aspects, need emotional security, need to have their needs met and are somehow obsessed by this or have a certain compulsion with regards this and can kind of hold on to it so tightly that they don't realise they've crushed it, and even more so if the Fixed Signs are involved.