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I was wondering recently, do some people have sex to feel secure? I know women (and men) can get some power from being 'sexy'. Is there a relationship between sex and security?
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Sun, July 19, 2009 - 3:57 AMOH I'm sure there are and if they do, then to them, there's a link
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Sun, July 19, 2009 - 11:44 PM
I can only speak with absolute certainty about myself. I generally feel secure about myself and, while the opinions of others can be important, I don't need those opinions to feel secure. I have sex to make myself and/or the person/people I'm with feel good, not for security or power.
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Mon, July 20, 2009 - 12:26 AMComing from my perspective of having no sex and no partner, I can definitely say that this would correspond with my constant feeling of insecurity. What made you postulate this theorum? -
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Tue, July 21, 2009 - 11:11 AMummm lets see.. i was thinking from a low perspective like girls know guys want sex and if they give them sex, they will take care of them. this is very primitive. i think in some cases this must happen. especially to people who have really low self esteem/ self awareness.
but we must realize the security within ourselves ultimately. nothing outside us is going to give us real security. Our own intuition is the deepest security we have. there may appear at times different links and explanations for our feelings and attitudes, but we must get to the root of the cause.. and this alliaviates everything. -
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Tue, July 21, 2009 - 7:54 PMThere are definitely people like that out there. I had a girlfriend for two years, supposedly a very spiritual woman. When I decided I had had enough of the relationship, it was embarrassing to see the lengths she would go to in trying to keep the relationship alive. Until she found someone else to lean on, then she went for revenge against me. She is still such an insecure person that she won't leave the guy she's with even though he is very abusive. I feel sad for her, but there's nothing I can do to help her.
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Re: Sex and seucrity
Thu, August 13, 2009 - 7:09 PMgeez just realized my post probably was to archaic and short to make sense
I'm sure there are both men and women who need sex (emphasize need) to feel secure. Part of that no doubt stems from the thought that when someone has sex with you, you're being desired. (unfortunately it could just be someone that just wants to be laid and has nothing to do with desire)
And some people equate sex in the relationship with security of the relationship - wrong there too .
