you bring up a HUGE point, which is so slippery IRL, and which my brain can never get hold of in any meaningful way: just how much of what we experience are we "calling in" through our own mind set?

it's a scary thought....too much responsibility, "blaming the victim", etc - as if we're savvy enough to actually create our own realities!

it's one of those perspectives with a haunting kind of quality precisely because it's hurtful and offending and throws are usual perspective into chaos. i suppose it's valuable on that score alone!

still, i tend to think "reality" is collaborative on such a huge scale we can never "nail it down". unless - radical notion again - we get so outside ourselves (or inside!) that love becomes the predominant motivating force of all our actions. there are those who believe this is the natural state. i stand at the edg of it, wondering why it seems such an imperfect fit.