Everyone has an emotional center line. When events are going as usual, we maintain this emotional centerline. When things go really well we normally express happiness! When things go badly, we express sadness and frustration.
What would you say is your dominant emotion lately? Do you ever try to change your emotions? If so, what is your method(s)?
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Baba Mike
What would you say is your dominant emotion lately? Do you ever try to change your emotions? If so, what is your method(s)?
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Baba Mike
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Tue, February 5, 2008 - 1:48 PMLately, It's hard to say. But at the moment, I'm happy. I do try to change my emotions but sometimes it's not appropriate. For instance, if I'm pissed off or angry, I can make it worse by trying to change it, especially if it won't. I've learned to take in that emotion (mostly fear or anxiety) and look at it. I ask it questions like, "why do I feel so anxious" or "why did that person say that", etc.
It's a challenging thing. I wonder if people who try to change them quickly just fake it? Then that's not really being true.
Interesting question and a great way to reflect on yourself!
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Tue, February 5, 2008 - 6:20 PMwell for me, i'm one moody person..i can switch from one feeling to the next...
if i'm mad at one person i won't necessarily let it affect my relations with others..
if it's a major feeling of sadness, then i would become more introverted and quiet (which is not like me)
i can say that i can deal with my feelings pretty well..i believe in feeling and expressing....if i'm really angry or pissed off or deeply hurt, i drive in my car on the parkway, blast music and scream at the top of my lungs..then i confront the person taht upset me...it's easier that way...
nontheless, i think i carry a lot of uneasiness around with me, i don't know why..
i'm happy at the moment...
but i'm very transparrent.. one can easily see on my face and in my eyes that something is wrong...
sometimes(i'm being honest here) i want to smoke a cig and have a drink when i'm stressed from work etc...if i've had a long and tedious day, i don't want to talk at that moment necessarily...i may talk about the next day when i'm not so exausted from it...
anyway, i feel like i'm writing a book so i'll stop now..
thanks for reading..
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Wed, February 6, 2008 - 8:56 AMSounds like me in many ways..... -
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Thu, February 7, 2008 - 8:34 PMIm generally even -tempered, happy and optimistic.....
When Im in my foul moods or feel depression coming on ...and its an ugly feeling for me....
I normally try to identify the cause, analyze it and then yes ...gear towards subtle attempts to restore my balance .
lately Ive been sad but its not acting as a handicap ..it used to in my 20's .....
Im still trying to pinpoint the why at this time... sometimes I have to dig deep
because what is on the surface and is obvious
is usually not the real issue for me only an extension of it,
usually because Ive ignored the early signs and have let it bulid up a bit.
with love and compassion ; )
jess
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Fri, March 14, 2008 - 7:41 AMNamaste...
Hey there B.M. you Holy Shit...and to All members here...recently joined this tribe to show support for exceptional value flowing from Baba and his brilliant efforts on tribe.net.
What is your emotional bandwidth?
I attempt to tread the middle path which is a tricky wicket to get through.. For out going transmitted signals, remaining centered and emitting short wave signals to others is my course. Grounding and repeated connection to All, One and No-thing, helps me focus on my core values and responses to incoming stimuli. I like to dance all along the spectrum of experiences with others but I bring it back to center for grounding within my sense of my best self.
But my receiver, is set to integrate, allow, accept and encourage the wider spectrum of behaviors and stimuli as produced by the infinite variety of beings who fill the spectrum. This enables me to witness more unique behavior without making personal or placing judgment or blame before processing opinion with internally centered discernment. So I do rate the incoming, but in a slower thoughtful process not impulsive or bigoted reaction.
Hope that made some sense. The conundrum of Taoism - the one philosophy/religion that wishes not to be spoken only experienced in being.
Thank you for your time spent here.........May serious and silly blissings and blessings be sprinkled upon us all.............e -
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Re: What is your emotional bandwidth?
Sat, March 15, 2008 - 6:12 AM> What would you say is your dominant emotion lately?
Lately, I've been very even-keeled. The things that still trigger me don't have the effect they used to. They're not as intense, and I find myself moving through them more quickly, coming back to my center.
> Do you ever try to change your emotions? If so, what is your method(s)?
Yes, I do try to change my emotions, and I'm at a point where they've become fun to play with, even when I'm feeling a bit sour. I use a couple different methods. The first is a specific thought, that has sort of become my main mantra. I've been practicing it for over a year as a basic, consistent practice...and it's become a belief that is now embedded in my core. It states:
"Where your attention goes energy flows."
To me, this doesn't mean being in denial about any of my issues. What it does mean is paying more attention to WHAT I think, because from those thoughts my emotions are formed. Another way of saying this is:
"Where you place your attention energy will follow."
A recent adjunct to this is a great book I bought just a couple weeks ago, titled "Thoughts & Feelings." It's a workbook of Cognitive Behavior Techniques for tracking and attuning to one's "automatic" thoughts, so that one can get a foothold and learn how emotions really are created by what we think.
The basic premise is a flow that goes like this:
Event ---> Thought ---> Emotion
Events in themselves have no emotional content. But immediately after an event occurs we will have a THOUGHT about the event, and a nano-second later we experience an emotion.
Many times our thoughts are automatic and subconscious, perhaps going back to childhood. Sometimes they can be valid, but at other times they are PATTERNS of LIMITED ways of thinking. So....if you change your thoughts, your emotions will change too, because every emotion we experience is appropriate to the thought that immediately proceeded it.
There are specific sequences to follow for a variety of moods and charged feelings, including managing anger, healing ones past, coping with panic, ending depression, worry control, getting mobilized, stopping unwanted thoughts, changing your habits, overcoming phobias, problem solving, changing limited thinking, testing core beliefs, and stress innoculation.
Thoughts & Feelings is a great read, but it's an even better workbook. I hope it doesn't sound like I'm preaching here, but I can't recommend it highly enough for anybody wanting to add some new skills to their toolkit. Nobody ever teaches us how to THINK correctly, and this is by far the best self-help book I've read in ages. I got a new copy for about 30% below retail via half.com. Here's a link for anybody who might be interested...
tinyurl.com/33yo35
Warmest regards,
Darth
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