Scorpitarius! How very fitting! If I were slightly more condensed into the two, I'd become Taurpio, perhaps, but I'm a little too spread out for that, I think...

I would definitely second that nicely phrased bit of yours about using the language of physical touch vs. "sweet words hearty promises." It always feels more genuine and comfortable for me to communicate that way, though I'd like to work on making myself articulate my affection for others in a way that feels genuine, as well, as I know some people just need that verbal confirmation. But physical presence feels very important with that ol' earthy Mars. I'd imagine your 2nd House would emphasize that even more (as would my Taurus Venus, come to think of it).

I was thinking about control and sex some more, reading your last post (particularly when you mentioned being both scared and excited by the idea of losing control), and finally made the connection (dur!) that I actually am very interested in the idea of giving up a large degree of control/being controlled by others, sexually, even while I'm very much about controlling myself and situations I'm in, otherwise. This must be a big Mars thing for me. I am really into bossy women and I'm definitely into submitting, masochism, being restrained (TMI, yet??)... I'm into the authority figure fetish, those older than me, and all that. I'm not sure how into all this I'd be if power inequality were much of a part of a relationship dynamic outside of sex, though, because I don't want to feel entirely vulnerable and want overall equality in any sort of relationship (be it sexual, platonic, whatever). But as a sort of play-form of temporarily giving up some control, it seems totally useful. I wonder how much a Cap Mars is oriented towards controlling the self vs. controlling others, or controlling the situation vs. being controlled by it. There must be some sort of balance in there, but control seems to be a big issue, whichever way that works... And is some of my 8th House/Pluto-y stuff wandering in here? I can't even tell.

Another thing, stepping away from control a little bit, is that I totally get off (in all areas of life... not just sex, now, but certainly not excluding that either - ha!) on achievement and success, particularly in areas in which I've worked hard. Which could be why, even with being into giving up control/submitting, at times, I am still inclined to be a top. Cap Mars, again, eh?