About the first question, I think it might be a fear of change. Because if you achieve your dream, your life has to change and then what? And if everything you wanted is realized and it turns out not to be what you want, then what? So I think fear is part of it. I also think some people won't let themselves be happy. Maybe somewhere inside they don't think they deserve it. Maybe they're afraid to be happy because then you have everything to lose. (There's that Fear again. Sneaky bastard.)

ok well first are you happy now in general with this transition in your life... answer that then if you r so satisifide with whats going on then ya you might afraid of change... lets us see...hmm well then there is the grass is allways greaner... so well is the qustion how to keep on till you get what you want or knowing what you truely want. lets see. there is no such thing as achieving a dream... you set a goal and you make it to that step.... a dream continues to grow even if you arnt awair of it... yes a dream as hope or desire not what you do when you sleep... or is it..... human beings are as all animals never saticefied the are endlees in the unapiesable appitite for this concept of contentment... hello everybodys herd the saying... it is the journey not the destination. you dont go to a party to do something other than contribute and be a part of the party. you go for that experiance but you make the experiance.. like sex how fun or how well do you think it would serve any spiecies if it was just touch and go... do you think that life would exist if we procreated like that... come on all woman should know that. it takes effeort to reap the bennifits of of effort. or lets go another way.. hungry why wait eat a candy bar... fast simple easy obtainable. now eat that everyday plain as is for eternity... well do you think you might try to taste more than what you have... the forbiden fruit perhaps.... that is destony to never fully achieve what youmost desire the hunger nead or want drives us we are all r that fiend... adickted to getting more out of lif.e that is a reson why humanity exists as we do...cause we strive to live more..... so what is it that you are asking this isnt the right q for u... lite as it maybe topical lets say well just throw this on it and ask your self why is this the qustion i asked. u r pondering about it yourself what is driveing this desire for this explanation... what light will i find in an answer... nothing exept a new qustion.. if you want it you just nead to do it... consiquences are reactions to actions they happen weather you do or not, so try not to fret about doing it the act you seek .... worry more on regreting not doing what u are a being here to exist... so live and act... questioning all the way...
best ive found yet is deffinatly why.. as i answer each time i find nore a reson to believe and to be....
----------just poundering thnx for the question-----------

Reaching a goal in life usually was an enjoyable experience. Once the goal was achieved I needed other goals. It’s natural that the mind is afraid. It is natural that there is struggle along the way. I have been afraid giving public speeches, giving a toast, having a public art exhibition. I have been afraid of death and of all kinds of things. Every time I overcame my fears I felt relieved.

Yet, I have to move forward. I always think is the worst what can happen. Maybe the worst wheat can happen is that I am unloved and disapproved. Anyway, at the end what matters is that I am there for me and I am never abandoning myself. Even if I would reach a long cherished goal but as a result the World would turn against me (given my motivations are noble), I still would never give up on me. It is up to us to protect that frightened inner child within us. Self-sabotage out of fear is a definite choice however. I would not want do be lady Di, for example. She did not have any freedom to move around undetected. What a hell in my eyes?

Self-sabotage can be constructive. If you become a beauty queen but as a result become sick and anorexic – nobody sees you as you but just your glamorous outer shell, one has to rethink if one really wants to achieve a superficial goal, while deep inside one remains lonely and even unloved. It all depends of what the goal is and if we can handle to reach the goal. Maybe some goals are not worthwhile to achieve anyway. We need to figure out what really matters to us in life.

I like spiritual goals the best. They give room for expansion and are less threatening and far more nurturing than let’s say “materialistic goals.”

Brilliant subject matter. No matter what it is, even a molecule can get competitive or in the way of a dream. Next time I get to success and things are smiling at me I'll remember not to frown back. I want to re-charge and let future successes seep into my soul.

While my progress to success has still been measured in baby steps, many friends and colleages that surround me have gone from baby steps to leaps and bounds. While I have been happy for then I have seen other people they know treat them differently seemingly for no reason. Suddenly they get snubbed and they are not sure what brought it on. My friend Richard is experiencing that right now and it baffles me but I wonder if it is a matter of insecurity that causes this.

That possibility scares me if I was to leap up the ladder suddenly myself. I dont want the friendships I have to change just because of successes. I just want to be the same humble hippie-esque artist I have always been.

I think perhaps it happens when someone has been so invested in what they seek to attain that they don't know who they'd be without the seeking (this is only one way it might happen, but I'm nearly late for class so it's all I've got right now).

Justin

Be patience is what comes to my mind.....
Also learn more about yourself ......make a list write down
what you expect of yourself......
Don't say to yourself that you can't do something work .....
work towards it.....its not just a Dream / wish but a happening....

Love yourself.