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myself i feel that when you truely love the man your with then its time to put the condoms away, when a guy im in love with shoots his load i want to hold it inside of me as long as i can , letting it absorb ito my system and become part of me.
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Sun, August 23, 2009 - 7:08 PMI really like the IDEA of cutting loose inside a man's ass and having him carry a bit of me with him. My health and the health of others is my concern. I am HIV- and would like to stay that way, but I am also educated enough to be poz friendly.
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Mon, August 24, 2009 - 7:36 AMmyself it means that you care enough to carry him with him wereever you go and hold his sperm inside and make it a part of your being. It is also a whole big trust issue if you beleive him enough to beleive what he tells you then there is the reward a big ole ass full of his baby making sperm inside of you a special gift from the man you love
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Mon, August 24, 2009 - 10:19 AMNot to be a prude, but unless you are both negative and KNOW it for a fact, or are in a committed, long-term relationship wherein you don't fuck anyone else, then you should be careful. Just because HIV is not a death sentence, necessarily, doesn't mean we should just do what we want. Do I sound like a nun? Sorry if I do. I am a perverted fuck who wants to stay alive for more! -
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Mon, August 24, 2009 - 10:13 PMI feel very much the same way you do. When I find "Mr. Right", he will get the priveldge of carrying around my seed. Until then, it is VERY sexy to think about, but the reality calls for much more caution.
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Tue, November 3, 2009 - 1:23 AMBarebacking is the WHOLE pleasure of MM sex. I, 4 one, will not suck a condom. I will let sumone use a condom in my manhole (I prefer being fucked), but, it is a trust issue barebacking.
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Tue, November 3, 2009 - 2:03 AMfor me its an expression of pure no holds barred passion, no restrictions ,no reservations. Aside from a soulful connection it is about as deep inside someone a man can get. Its the act of leaving a piece of ones self behind and The shared culmination of physical contact. I love that warm feeling inside me, feeling the cock spasm,the head expand ever so slightly,the smell and the taste of cum,sweat, ass and balls. Its a lasting sticky reminder of a great night. It means riding home in wet underwear or having it drying on my face like its a badge proclaiming that I know how to please a man and I'm ready to do it over and over. I will never forget coming home one night an standing in my bathroom after a 20 min drive, removing a plug and watching(and feeling) 5 loads of cum squirt out onto the floor. I guess sometimes to me it means being used and made to feel dirty, like a piece of meat left lying on the floor cum running out of me,sore nipples and hand prints on my ass. Then again sometimes its an expression of how much I like a guy and how far I will let him go. Either way its always means the start of a fun night!!!! -
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Tue, November 3, 2009 - 3:41 AMOkay, now I'm all hard and dripping.
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 2:01 PMI agree, it's about passion and being a real pig.
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Sat, November 7, 2009 - 11:32 AMWould love to, however only after extensive mutual testing (HIV, hep) -
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Mon, November 9, 2009 - 7:22 AMThe answer the original question, "what barbacking means 2 you". There are several things is means to me:
1. The simple joy of uncomplicated sex... sensitive skin touching sensitive skin.
2. Not stopping to worry about unwrapping, slipping on and all that.
3. For me, bareabacking means no friction burns on my hole because of water-based lubes not working well enough.
4. It means I can use my favorite food-grade lubes (e.g. coconut or olive oil) and from oral to anal.
5. Also it means I feel I know and trust the guy to be truthful about his HIV status (I must have good intuition -- I'm still negative at 57 years.)
As much as I enjoy and relish the sensation of a guy shooting a load in my ass (if he stops slamming so I can feel it) I do NOT get the same emotional feeling other have expressed about the carrying his seed or absorbing his essence. I will clean out my ass as soon as practical. -
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 7:11 AMI agree with the friction burns issue. I wish I could say that I have always been careful to establish a partners health status before I let him fuck me, but I can't. I guess I have just been lucky as negative here also. I love the feel of a guys cum seeping out of my hole and sliding down my leg as I walk to the bathroom to clean myself up after a hot session. So I guess this makes me a Cum Slut too!! LOL -
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Sun, November 22, 2009 - 8:48 AMCum Sluts are my favorite!
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Sun, November 22, 2009 - 4:16 PMit means I LOVE HIM, no other concerns enter into the equation.
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Sat, November 28, 2009 - 10:38 AMSorry I hate to burst your bubble but what will it take for people to finally GET IT!!! there is NO ONE who can say they are HIV negitive unless they have had 0, none, nada, null sex that was anything but the most safe NO chance of infectioin from anyoine else for atleast 6 months prior to their last test that showed them to not have anti-bodies to the HIV virus.in ALL other instances/ circumstances the most anyone can say with any chance of accuracy/ truthfullness is "I do not know my status" one can always be certain they are telling the truth if they say I am HIV possitive once that occures as it never again has any chance of changing.. otherwise it should always be unknowen period exclmation point. You may get by without paying ther pipper for some time but eventually if you keep dancing your goinbg to have to pay STOP fooling yourself. Take responcibility for your own health and saftey. No one should missconstrue this little tiriade I am NOT in the least bit against barebacking for myself it is the ONLY acceptable option I got myself infected on purpose. It was my decission and for me it was the right decission mater of fact likely the best dession I have ever made in my life. I also give EVERONE the right to make such decissions for themselves and once they know my status if they say they want to play bare I assume they are capeable of making their own mind up and it is NONE of my damn business so I take therm at their word and do what comes natural. It is my experiance that when it is not a suprrise or a situation where the individual whishes they had been more carefull they are genuinely happy. But no one should let themselves fall into hiv infection it MUST be a conscious concidered decission made with deliberation.
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Sun, November 22, 2009 - 4:47 PMMy last comment was perhaps to simple. What does barebacking mean to me?
It means I LOVE him. It means there is no one else. It means that I LOVE HIM, even if he might be caring an STD.
I trust we all know that Aids is not the only STD out there that can be spread through sex.
I agree with everything all of you have said here. So many good points. Wish I could remember what it was like to get fucked, have a man leave his seed in me or feel it drip out of my hole. Wish I could just remember what it was like to be held in his arms.
I think when you meet the right guy, you don't always want to ruin it by asking if he's got aids or herpes or if he's got proof that he's healthy.
It really should be the most important question you ask each other but its not always the first subject we approach.
What do you do when you find a guy you really like, you get to know each other and you get emotionally involved before you ask these questions? What happens when you meet and the answers you didn't want to hear are spoken?
What do you do when you know you LOVE this guy with every fiber of your being and he has aids or herpes? Do you make love without protection, do make love with protection, do you humor him and play along until you find another guy thats interested in you or do you just walk away with or without expliantions?
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 5:50 PM''
What do you do when you know you LOVE this guy with every fiber of your being and he has aids or herpes? Do you make love without protection, do make love with protection, do you humor him and play along until you find another guy thats interested in you or do you just walk away with or without expliantions? ''
Or, alternatively, you learn much more about the disease and your options. AND, its good to do that now, before you meet a guy, so those issues have been went over in your mind beforehand. It really makes for a better human being if you can treat that particular situation with grace and responsibility and caring. Just my 2 cents. Come over to this other tribe i mod, and pick thru old pages, perhaps there is something helpful for you in them.
pozguys.tribe.net/ -
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 5:52 PMas to the subject-- wow, wish i could do that. Alas, i cannot. -
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 5:52 PMbut i do love to read of the fun and loving adventures of others. :)
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 8:02 PMNothing against the love idea, as I'm in love with a great guy & we bareback. But no one's mentioned the poz only scenarios, which is what my guy and I are all about. As two poz guys, we're comfortable with each other and all that we do together. This includes communication. So if one of us hooks up with someone else, it's another poz guy. If it's groups we're participating in, they're all poz guys also. We are open and communicative with one another so there are no unnecessary worries.
We have NO interest at all in sexual interactions with neg guys. We simply do not have sex with them.So this barebacking issue is not as limiting or scary for us as for some people. Of course there are other things, like syph and hep to worry about. So we connect and get to know any potential new partners and minimize risks. We also get tested regularly, just to be sure - which is part of our reg blood-work screen anyway.
There is no such things as "safe" sex. There is "safer" and this is our version of responsible, adult safety. Barebacking is, for us and all our fuck-buds, a cum-slut sort of thing, and also a way of not letting a sero-status keep us from doing what we find a more enjoyable expression of sexuality. -
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Sun, November 22, 2009 - 10:22 PMHooking up with another poz guy is not nessisarily safe. The strain of hiv from 20 years ago, for example, is much more treatable with todays medications, than say, the strains from the last few years, which can be very virulent. One can get another, newer, version of the virus that can update to your expectations. Just my two cents, its your business what you do in private.
As for negative guys.. well, i have had the pleasure of dating and having relationships with very intelligent younger men. Whom are informed, and whom i protect. We have both fun, and safety, and when they leave me, they leave clean. And, i make sure to know that, i have a plethora of ways to make sure someone is tested regularly. The reason i say all this - is because i found the sequestered, 'stay with our own kind' type of attitude in regards to my HIV, to be extremely damaging to ones psyche and way of relating to the rest of the healthy world, and of men. HIV is a lifelong manageable illness for a large part, and it should be integrated into daily life activities, the same you would a partner that had cancer or hepatitis, or other more serious health condition. But again, this is just my perspective and take, not meant to be imposed on others. On the other hand, i have found the company of many of my fellow - status - brothers - to be too insular and negative with interaction with society and the world. But that is just my experience. Not the whole bowl of soup.
its good to have the discussion tho, thank you. :)
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 12:47 PMWith all due respect to James, my apologies for having my response to his question turn into a forum on STD's, hopefully good info for all
Many thanks to both Flint and Raven. Your opinions are so greatly appreciated and I agree with you both. You've both made excellent points. All partners need to be completely informed of any potential health risks and both partners must agree on the boundaries of their relationship, making sure they are never crossed so all partners are protected. I understand both sides of the poz / neg question and I have kept away from having sex with men because I refuse to take a chance on infecting anyone. Haven't searched for men within the STD community. We all must live with our choices and I think thats important to remember. All partners must be allowed a choose their path as well as their partner and should do so with respect for the other by being up front and honest in all aspects of their lives.
Again my thanks to you both for the great input, but my point was simply what do you when you love him? Love doesn't care about poz / neg. It doesn't understand disease, lack of intimacy or sexual contact. I know that for me loving him means protecting him from the me. Guess whats so hard is wondering if deep down inside he's really afraid of me, afraid I might infect him no matter what precautions we were to take.
Guys, I'm sorry, I'm just whining over something that is not going to happen. I know we'll never be together, no matter how much I love
him, no matter how much I want him . . .
Thank you for caring enough to comment about an old fools loveless life . . . your partners are very lucky men and you can tell them I said so -
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 12:52 PMYou are welcome, and i, for one, am very pleased that we had this discussion. Thank you for taking the time to really think and get what each of us are talking about. May all our journeys be as smooth as possible, with a love thrown in where it can fit.
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 4:06 PMI feel that loving is being respectful of another's life choices, including being responsible for oneself. Love can never exist without truth. When two love each other and decide to have bareback or safe sex whether they are neg/neg/; neg/poz, poz/poz; female/female or male/male are their mutual informed choices and should be respected. Life as a human being is never a long-term commitment. So I figure for one, or two; all of us should strive to be happy, at peace, and live a meaninful life: GO FOR IT! >>>IT IS ALL ABOUT LOVE!<<< -
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 5:44 PMExactly, well said, Eaglepath. fancy a serious discussion in a sex tribe, lol. :)
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Tue, November 24, 2009 - 2:20 PMVery well put Eaglepath, couldn't have said it better myself.
There can be no LOVE without TRUTH and in that state of being IT IS ALL ABOUT LOVE!
There is no greater feeling the soul can experience short of meeting his/her creator.
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Re: what barbacking means 2 you ?
Mon, November 23, 2009 - 8:29 PMA "barback" is someone who works in a bar and is responsible for making sure there's ice and that the coolers are stocked with beer. "BAREBACK" is when you fuck without condoms. I love you, James! -
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Mon, November 23, 2009 - 9:01 PMi had to delete my last post becouse of spelling errors LOL.
you know just for that i should be barebacked by the barback...
thanks Tom
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Sat, December 12, 2009 - 9:26 AM> A "barback" is someone who works in a bar and is responsible for making sure there's ice
> and that the coolers are stocked with beer. "BAREBACK" is when you fuck without condoms
Unless of course you are talking about barebacking the barback
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