I've had a little fluid come out a few times, it's squirted a few inches. I have been pushing with orgasms to help the fluid come out and I find it helps my orgasms too. For me, it seems to be during times of intense sex and emotional connection with my partner.

As for the BDSM and Tantra, I find that they are both dealing with the same energy. I did a lot of tantra work earlier this year and it opened up my chakras and got the kundalini energy flowing in a slow safe way. I have a lot of kudalini energy waves or kriyas which I turn into orgasms.

Flogging opens up the chakras and gets the energy flowing, I have wonderful, long, intense g-spot orgasms after floggings. I can get to the energy quicker with bdsm than with tantra but I could not do it if it were not for all the tantric and energy work I did earlier this year.


I never thought I would like bdsm because of being in pain so I never looked into it. I have liked being spanked as part of foreplay for 25 years. Then I had 3 lovers in a row who were into bdsm and they were all great lovers, no bdsm involved. So, that got me interested. I started going to some classes for newbies. BDSM deals with the same energy as Tantra. For me, it is easier to access.

I am not into heavy pain, I cannot take it, my pain threshold is very low. But if you start slow and build up, endorphins kick in and it feels good and it seems to be good for me. I am a lightweight.

I did read about a man dealing with severe pain who purposely got into bdsm to change his relationship to pain. He found it very beneficial.

I feel like all the orgasms that I am having, all the energy coursing through my body is healing me. This last year I have been much more sexual and I have been doing much more than the past few years. I am now using sex magick and visualizing myself healthy, painfree, no meds, no tens unit, walking by the bay, in the springtime and feeling great.

I am able to access that energy so well now that I am cuming just from a touch, a kiss, a look with one lover. It's been am amazing year.

I have found the bdsm community to be wonderful, welcoming, friendly and accepting. I feel like I have found a community and friends and two wonderful lovers. I am now fluid bonded with one of them.