I want to know what it feels like for you to be pegged. My husband doesn't do a very good job of explaining it to me. I enjoy doing it but I want to understand what it feels like. So, how does it feel?
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Mon, April 7, 2008 - 11:29 AMI understand why your husband has trouble describing it. I absolutely love the feeling. It feels like there is something as sensitive as the head of my cock just inside and on the front wall of my anus. When the dildo attached to my wife goes in and out of me, it rubs along that spot and oh my God is it good!
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Mon, April 7, 2008 - 1:32 PMMacy,
To put it bluntly, do you enjoy it when your husband fucks you? Think of those sensations. Think of how it feels to have him inside you. Think of how the motion and the fullness and the stimulation feels.
Done right, it can feel exactly the same way for a guy getting fucked or getting pegged. That's why gay men enjoy it so much. Getting done with a dildo doesn't hold a candle to an actual cock. But, it can still do wonders.
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Mon, April 7, 2008 - 7:04 PMThanks John and Madoc. I will keep that in mind. I just want to make the experience even better for my husband and I am tyring
to learn all I can.
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Mon, April 7, 2008 - 10:59 PMMacy,
Lube, massage to open things up, and also the "right" dildo is what makes the difference. Bigger is not always better - but nor is smaller always safer. There's the question of what fits him and what fits you. Find the right strap-on harness also makes a big difference. It's gotta be comfortable for you, fit the dildo securely and also do all that while keeping the thing at the right angle.
This is where I've found a somewhat flexible dildo is better than the rigid type. The flexible ones can bend a bit to follow your man's insides. The rigid ones don't and, generally speaking, that can make them very uncomfortable. Plus, from what I've seen, a lot of women tend to place the dildo to high up in their crotch and thus don't get the right angle for them or for their man. It's a tough call and takes some practice!
When you really get it right though, you'll both know it. The first time my girlfriend did and she watched my eyes roll up back into my head she damn near came just from that. The rush of being able to do that for your partner was that intense.
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 3:56 AMAn interesting question! I have wondered if it is in any way similar to the sensation women experience during sex but my wife isn't very good in describing that to me. I'm no artistic word-smith but I'll try to describe what it's like.
The penetration, when you get the relaxation right is delightful – it feels like its going in a really long way – far further than it possibly can be. Initially you are very aware of the local sensations – the tension in the anus especially. In the early days this used to be dominant for quite a while but now I am more experienced it rapidly becomes much more of a whole body experience. Conventional sex for a man is dominated by the sensation at the head of the penis until you approach orgasm when the tension and spasms start around the prostate. Being pegged has a sensation more like being on the plateau of a held-off orgasm pretty much from the start, with the sensations coming from the prostate area constantly. I think that is why its so great – you are getting a sensation very like the best part of conventional sex but going on for so much longer and without having to concentrate hard on not going over the edge.
The whole body aspect is interesting. Sometimes this can be just a sort of tingling of the skin. Sometimes I find I feel incredibly hot even though the room is cool and I'm doing almost no work :-) When we first started pegging this could be so intense we had to stop till I cooled down.
The orgasm is really intense and very drawn out. I find my whole body going rigid and my legs shaking and I'm grabbing deep breaths and then holding them – I'm being way noisier than I ever am with conventional sex (it's given me an insight why girls can be so noisy!). Once the spasms of the orgasm start you can't stop your body gripping the dildo tighter and making the pressure on the prostate irresistible.
As for the dildo, I like a soft but large girth dildo. We use one of the old soft regular feeldoes with an extension sleeve that is very soft but increases the girth to be bigger than the newer feeldoe stout we have (that is made out of a really hard grade of silicone). I find the feeling of fullness is good with both but the hard stout is not so comfortable and it takes me longer to get past the local sensation stage to the whole body stage. Hard can also be painful during the orgasm while big and soft is fantastic!
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 10:40 AMColin,
Thank you so much for that response. That is exactly what I was looking for. I can feel him tightening when I am fingering him and
he has had to stop because he thought he was going to urinate. I have read about this and realize that the feeling is normal but he
can't get passed that he might actually do it and be embarrassed. We are both still so new to all of this but his ass his a huge turn on for
me. I can't explain why. I really appreciate how open and honest your answer was to my question. It helps to know so I can be better at pleasuring him.
Thanks,
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 11:04 AMI used to get the feeling that I was about to urinate but after I became more experienced it stopped happening. And just as women enjoy going back for seconds, being pegged again after a short break can kick the experience up to a whole other level. Macy, I love that you are turned on playing with your husband’s ass. You seem to appreciate openness (both literally and figuratively), vulnerability, trust and expression. Your desire for those qualities led you to ask your question here. Most women would say that they want that from their man but not many are willing to step into a harness to get it. Maybe you could do us guys a favor and spread the word :=) -
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 11:16 AMThank you Jack. I used to be a prude and unhappily married. We are like to
different people and so happy now.
Macy
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Urge to urinate...
Wed, April 9, 2008 - 9:55 AM(a) that means you're doing it right! Let him take a little break to pee, and then go back to it. It means he's getting close to coming. Speaking of which, if he can't quite get over the top while you're fucking him, using a vibrator on his dick can do the trick.
(b) Get incontinence pads from the drugstore. They come in all sizes, get big ones to put on the bed. Let him experiment with one in the tub so he can see just how much they will soak up... it's pretty impressive. Also, they're a great way to deal with any shit that may happen.
I saw somewhere that you guys do have it get messy on occasion. That suggests to me that he needs to clean out a bit more thoroughly. No, I'm not totally squicked by a little shit, either, but how it works for me when I'm getting anal is that if there's any substantial amount it gets in the way of smooth fucking which is how I like it.
Check out my favorite book, "The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Men" by Bill Brent. It gives a whole lot of great information -- and isn't just for men by any means.
FInally, in response to your question, does he fuck your ass? I mean, that's the place to start to gain more understanding of how it feels for him. You know, *he* can wear the harness, too. So if his dick is too big for your backdoor, he can do you with the toy you use on him. -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 1:12 PMKim & all,
Yeah, cleaning out down there can be muchly appreciated by both parties! One thing to bear in mind though is that the process of cleaning out i.e. douching - your anal tract also cleans out its natural lubricant. The process can also agitate the tissues down there if not done gently enough.
Thus it's a good idea to use but warm water - not hot - and just let the water do the cleansing with no need for soaps or anything else. Your objective is not to sterilize your lower intestine, as that'd be bad for your health, but rather just eliminate the potential for a smelly mess during your anal play. Warm water will do the trick.
I'd also recommend putting a condom on the dildo. If you can stretch the thing safely over the entire length of it such that it goes past where you hitch up to your harness then that's better. Makes cleaning your toys much easier. I'd still wash them even after covering them.
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 4:36 PMThanks everyone for your answers. This has been great information.
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 10:46 AMMadoc,
We would like to get a Feeldoe and I tried to use a new dildo we have that has a lot of veining on it and it hurt him. So that was out of the question. There are so many products out there and it's hard to know what will work and won't. Thanks so much for your help and I am so grateful that there are tribes like this where we can ask for advice and get help.
Thanks,
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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 11:11 AMThis has been a great post. The responses have been very helpful, for I too have had some of the same questions. My experience has been limited but I enjoyed it very much and find it a huge turn on. It takes a lot of experimenting to find the right device, so hearing from others about what works and doesn't work for them is fantastic. Thanks to all. -
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 12:48 AMHi Macy
The feeling that he wants to urinate is quite normal when you are not used to being pegged. I found that using a butt plug helped me get used to the sensations. I found that, for the plug to stay in it can't be too small - the tantus Ryder plug I found was just right - big enough to put a little pressure on the prostate and to stay put while walking around. Initially I would find a half hour with the plug was all I could take but gradually this increased and now I could go all day with it in place if I wanted to. With this kind of training and regular pegging (say once a week if you can fit it in with your other sex) the strange and slightly uncomfortable feelings associated with anal sex gradually fade and the pleasure gets better.
I think too many people try it once or twice and, because they don't get wonderful results straight away they give up. A big mistake in my view.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 3:00 AM100% truth. The only thing I could add is about your joy and pleasure. What turns woman on while she's fucked in most cases is not only the physical stimulation but also consciousness how great pleasure it is for him to fuck her. Exactly the same way boys want to feel when get pegged. I assume you enjoy pegging your husband but for him it will multiply his pleasure if you have orgasm while pegging. Sometimes it's easier when woman use harness designed specially to stimulate her.
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Wed, April 9, 2008 - 1:24 AMAlmost an instant arousal. It's definitely hitting my G-spot. Sometimes my girl wants me to masturbate while she's doing me and the orgasms are at their most intense.
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 7:50 AMMary,
I honestly love getting pegged. It is a hard feeling to described. The intesity of being pushed into the combination of the toy in my ass and my s/o's thighs against my ass cheeks make me almost cum. It is great to hear you so interested in why he enjoys it. This means to alot of us, you are really truely in love with him and desire him to be happy. My experience with anal sex has been more than just being pegged and I have always found a woman's touch to be a bit more about me then about the action. Granted sometimes I love a nice cock in my ass but a good toy with a loving touch feels just as good. Yes a enima is a good thing to have gently with warm water only one pass will free up any major debry without losing what little natural lube the anus has.
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Fri, April 18, 2008 - 3:34 PMFor me...it's a mix of things not just one particular aspect.
Yes the penetration stimulates the prostrait and the when ejaculation takes place the entire contents get unloaded....more cum the longer the orgasm. But theres the other part ...she really likes to do it. And she really gets into it....that's the biggest part for me. We have big mirrors in the bedroom. We change the light bulb to a red one. I can look all around and see her doing me from different angles...I can see her pumping away with her hair in her face..I can see her tattoos. She makes me arch my back as far as I can and just pumps away loving every second of it. I love the surrender...she loves the power.
She's the one who brings it up all the time " Baby can I F*&^% you in your sweet a$$ "
And then she grabs me from behind mimmicing the movements and I get all charged up.
So for me it's all of these things together....that what I like.
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Sun, April 20, 2008 - 8:18 AMwell, it may seem obvious but its both a psychological and physical turn on. Being vulnerable and being taken is an incredible turn on for a guy into this...as far as the physical, the prostate is another erongenous zone..so think about how it feels when you neck, nipples or clit are licked..all varying sensations but all pleasurable..i feel anything from a tingling to an intense jolt of pleasure depending on how agressive my partner is...the resulting orgasm orgasm is intense and volumous...
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Tue, May 6, 2008 - 6:48 PMat the beginnin i like feelin my sfincter loose, then the penetration of sthin in my tight ass feels so good that i wanna go deeper n deeper till i find the prostate.then , i know i reached the max lenght, so i only can change the width...i try 2 push wider objects in my ass...coconuts r great
i can cumonly by watchin my open asshole in the mirror after imdone with thefuckin part
i hope i gave u an idea
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Urge to Urinate
Thu, May 8, 2008 - 5:24 AMThe urge to urinate is not really an urge to urinate, it's an urge to have a prostate fluid orgasm. You should encourage him to go ahead and let go as it's unlike any orgasm he's ever had or will have and he will love it. But be forewarned that once it starts he won't be able to stop it and your matress should be protected accordingly. Don't be surprised if at least a full cup or more gets expelled.
xx BiteMeSquared
