For me it started with my husband wanted to have anal sex with me. I was curious about his ass for a long time but never said a thing. When I brought it up he said no. So I started looking it up online and found a website where people post kind of like this one. There were people talking about pegging and then I found this site. After reading and reading I talked to him and said it's not a gay thing and he was still pretty reluctant. But he let me play with his ass and he was pleasantly surprised. I love to watch his face and the way his body moves when I am fingering him. I like using my finger because I can feel what I am touching. I use gloves and lots of lube. It's not a power trip for me and he's not about being dominated. We consider it another part of making love. I do occasionally give him a slap on the ass just for fun.