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Hi All,
I'm our new moderator and to get things moving a bit and see who's active on the tribe, let's do a new round of introductions.
>>>> Who are you?
>>>> Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl or Both?
>>>> Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
>>>> Partnered? Poly?
>>>> Various words that might describe you:
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Who are you?
I'm Rig Daddy, a pansexual bio-male and silver leather daddy. I'm into gay/bi male energy, gender queer energy, sacred sex, radical sex, spirit, and community. Though I spend much of my play time in all male/ftm space, there is still plenty of female/mtf/androg sex/SM play in my life too.
Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl or Both?
All the above but at this point my dance card is quite full, LOL, but ... (Did I say I was a flirt?)
Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
SF, SFbay. I travel to Phoenix a bunch since that's where my gf is.
Partnered? Poly?
I'm part of a leather family including my gender fluid wife of 37 years, a hot goddess female and her a gender queer male/mtf husband and a my gay bf. We're all poly. My wife has a bf, my bf has a bf, the goddess in our family has a bf, the ftm is looking for a bf and I have a gf. If you include my lovers lover's lovers, you need a damn wall to try to map it out. Very much a slut, the biggest problem is lack of time for all my partners and playmates and still find time for anonymous sex and new partners.
Other "words":
twisted/kink/poly
radical faerie
leather fearie
geek
alpha-male
versa-top
hippie
aggressive
outgoing
burner
I'm not gay but my boyfriend is.
Hugs,
Rig Daddy
I'm our new moderator and to get things moving a bit and see who's active on the tribe, let's do a new round of introductions.
>>>> Who are you?
>>>> Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl or Both?
>>>> Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
>>>> Partnered? Poly?
>>>> Various words that might describe you:
>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>> MINE <<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<<
Who are you?
I'm Rig Daddy, a pansexual bio-male and silver leather daddy. I'm into gay/bi male energy, gender queer energy, sacred sex, radical sex, spirit, and community. Though I spend much of my play time in all male/ftm space, there is still plenty of female/mtf/androg sex/SM play in my life too.
Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl or Both?
All the above but at this point my dance card is quite full, LOL, but ... (Did I say I was a flirt?)
Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
SF, SFbay. I travel to Phoenix a bunch since that's where my gf is.
Partnered? Poly?
I'm part of a leather family including my gender fluid wife of 37 years, a hot goddess female and her a gender queer male/mtf husband and a my gay bf. We're all poly. My wife has a bf, my bf has a bf, the goddess in our family has a bf, the ftm is looking for a bf and I have a gf. If you include my lovers lover's lovers, you need a damn wall to try to map it out. Very much a slut, the biggest problem is lack of time for all my partners and playmates and still find time for anonymous sex and new partners.
Other "words":
twisted/kink/poly
radical faerie
leather fearie
geek
alpha-male
versa-top
hippie
aggressive
outgoing
burner
I'm not gay but my boyfriend is.
Hugs,
Rig Daddy
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 8:01 AMholy kamoly rig-daddy !!! thats quite the intro...
uh - at the risk of sounding fairly pedestrian...
im harold.
im a kinsey-3 or 4 male (i think - i always get the numbers screwed up... why do i even bother with them then? idk lol). basically - ive been hetero, gone bi, trying mostly-gay atm, but still flirt with women (and men) at bars - depending... lol.
im in la/socal/usa. i get up to the bay-area in fits-and-spurts, but dont have any trips planned in the near future. other 'travels' in the usa (and abroad) are rare-enough that it isnt worth really mentioning - except for the fact that i LOVE to travel... the farther/stranger/more-interesting the better... been to weddings in india, germany, and houston in the memorable-past... (yes, they were all hetero weddings - so what?)
im currently minorly-partnered with a guy. totally open relationship - dont live together, just kinda dating/slutting-around. yes, id consider myself poly - but have never used the 'label' or done the poly (amorous/sexual/...) scenes...
words - hmmmm...
long-hair, hippie, bearded, geek - visually, i make a good 'jesus-lookalike'.
smallish-cocked, skinnyish, greying (ie i can/do a scrip for viagra and am not afraid to use it if i feel the need/desire to), slow-to-arouse but infinitely-patient sexually-open dude.
totally tolerant of whatever exists on the sexual/gender landscape - but honestly prefer fairly traditional (albeit open sexually) folks for romps (ie - brad pitt and jennifer aniston for blondes and ashton kutcher and demi moore for brunettes, since we are fantasizing...).
willing to try anything once, twice if im not sure, and repeat-till-exhausted if we enjoy it...
oh yeah - ive never really liked pain - but a _little_ painful-titillation, particularly stretching/massage/gymnastic/yoga-type moves, can be great...
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 9:02 AMWell, I'll re-introduce myself just for fun. I read a lot, don't post much;-)
Bi-married man with hetero wife in Humboldt County. Always on the lookout for a good bi guy to enjoy--either by myself or with the wife, depending on how she feels about it. More interested in ongoing relationships than in one night stands.
We don't travel nearly as much as we'd like. Often when we travel it's for my work. I work nights every weekend and can only take so many nights off to go somewhere. We make an annual pilgrimage to Folsom Fringe, Earthdance, and I attend music conferences in Los Angeles a couple times a year. If we have another chance to get away in the winter we like tropical destinations such as Desire Cancun. -
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 9:33 AMeureka !!! heehee... i had to type humboldt county, ca into google - and that was the closest city... yallre way-the-heck up north... i have a cousin in ashland,or that i visit on occasion, but i always fly into medford - and there doesnt seem to be an obvious-turnoff from the 5 over to the 101 up there...
once upon a time - i (and a friend) did a motorcycle-ride where we went up-the-101 and back-down the 5 - but i dont remember exactly where we cut across... i think we stopped at some sulfurous hot springs up there tho - cannot remember the name - it was decades ago... urp - im gettin old... lol.
if yallre (or you-solo, i guess) are down in hell-a and interested in hanging-out - id be game sometime... cannot hurt (well, i guess it could - a little, heehee)...
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Sat, February 14, 2009 - 8:21 AMWe are way the hell off the beaten path up here behind the Redwood Curtain! The turnoffs from I-5 are in San Francisco (and then drive 5 hours north), Highway 20 (4 hours from I-5 to here), Highway 299 at Redding (3 1/2 hours) and Highway 199 (Eureka to Ashland 4 hours). Of course as a tradeoff we have trees instead of strip malls;-)
<<< i had to type humboldt county, ca into google - and that was the closest city... yallre way-the-heck up north... i have a cousin in ashland,or that i visit on occasion, but i always fly into medford - and there doesnt seem to be an obvious-turnoff from the 5 over to the 101 up there...>>>
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 1:23 PMHi. I'm John. But, if you are on Fetlife, I'm Sqeezee08 (that's right, no "u" there). If you are there, feel free to do a friend request and refer to this thread. I'm hetflex, bi, pan, tri or whatever label seems right for the moment. Currently unpartnered and residing in the vanilla reaches of the East Bay. In bdsm, I identify as masochist/bottom/sub (not slave). In m/m or m/m/f sex, I'm decidedly bottom (oh, yes). My enthusiasm for sex with men tends to be at its height when female energy is also present, especially in a bdsm situation. I've tried all male bdsm events, but they don't push my buttons as much. Maybe that's because the one time I tried it, my mission was to be the top. I think it would be different if I were playing out my natural bottom self instead. My interest in men is more on a sexual and bdsm level, rather than on a romantic level. I do desire male playmates who take control, in a combination sexual and bdsm sense. A m/f couple or family would be awesome. Or a female (straight/bi/gay) friend who does not necessarily want to be part of my kinky sexual life but who is nonetheless interested in it, wants to discuss it and encourages it. Sounds strange, but I had exactly that kind of a relationship with a woman in my former home in Colorado. She was bright, mostly straight, definitely not kinky but insatiably curious. We had sex (with each other) only a couple of times. Okay, let's cut to the chase. I secretly desire to have Rig Daddy paddle my ass beet red and then fuck my brains out at a Citadel open play night after letting every man, woman and trans in the house know ahead of time that he's going to do it. Gangbang, anyone? Just kidding. Or am I? John -
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 3:45 PMOh John,
LOL!
"I secretly desire to have Rig Daddy paddle my ass beet red and then fuck my brains out at a Citadel open play night"
UMM, TASTY! Can do but we'll have to make it Queer Playground night :) since I RARELY get there on an open play night. (I've been to 1 open play night in 5 years but I host Queer Playground 4 or 5 times a years.)
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Fri, February 13, 2009 - 4:16 PMHi Rig Daddy,
Glad you enjoyed my comments.
You know, I was just thinking about the venue for such a thing a little while ago when I was looking ahead on the Janus community calendar and saw your next event. I went to QP a couple of times when it was under the "previous management" but haven't been there since you took it over. We haven't met, but I obviously know about you. Saw you on a panel at the Center for S & C a while back.
Thanks for hosting this Tribe group.
UMM, TASTY! Can do but we'll have to make it Queer Playground night
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Sat, February 14, 2009 - 1:43 PMThanks for taking over Daddy!
I am Jason, a married bisexual father of a beautiful two year old daughter. I have a wonderfully supportive wife that is sometimes confused about how to deal with my sexuality. We are trying to figure out if polyamorism - polyfuckery actually - would fit in our relationship. We were swingers before but left the lifestyle for a million reasons.
I am in the City on weekends and in San Diego during the week for work. Love the idea of an active community that I haven't seen before. Look forward to hearing from you all.
Would love to hear from bi men and bi women in relationships with straight partners and how they work through/with the duality of attraction and the insecurities it causes. Don't worry that your are giving unsolicited advice - I am officialyy soliciting it here!! -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 11:13 AMHi Jason,
Glad you intro'ed.
>>>Would love to hear from bi men and bi women in relationships with straight partners and how they work through/with the duality of attraction and the insecurities it causes. Don't worry that your are giving unsolicited advice - I am officially soliciting it here!!<<<
Yup, that would be me. My GF is straight and monogamous. I'm neither. It's complicated. VERY complicated. Honesty. Honesty and lots of open communication. The real key is both of us being very clear in ourselves what we want and need and then being willing to communicate those needs.
Poly. Have you read "The Ethical Slut" with you wife? Polyfuckery? Be aware the you can't necessarily limit a relationship to fucking. Love can pop in unexpectedly!
>>>Active Community<<< Hon' you have NO idea how active some parts of the community are! Hang around and you'll get sucked in. (Uumm, sucked in? Did I say that?)
Hugs
Rig Daddy
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Sat, February 14, 2009 - 6:20 PM>>>Who are you?
I'm El Guajiro, also a pansexual bio-male.
>>>Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl, or Both?
All of the above and more. Specially attracted to promiscuous, androgynous, young, thin, hairless, BiGuys, and to FtM and anyone with a very slutty attitude. I like people that like sex with lots of people.
>>>Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
Davis/Sacramento. I often travel to San Francisco, and the East Bay. Also yearly to Burning Man.
>>>Partnered? Poly?
I have been married 39 years to a very hot bi-friendly bio-female, that attracts a lot of male attention. We are in an open relation that is manifested mostly at parties that we attend and with friends-with-benefits that we have.
>>>Various words that might described you:
Sexual
Intense
burner
geek
hot blooded Latin
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 2:11 PMHi E,
We've met a couple of times at the first two Primals. And, having met your lovely wife, "B," as well, I am truly amazed that you have been married 39 years. Neither of you looks anywhere near old enough to have been hitched that long. We haven't quite played together, but we've maneuvered in the same space, so that I can attest that you make one hot couple, both individually and together with others. I'll bet in grade school, you both got the "plays well with others" comments from the teachers.
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 6:47 PMHey everyone,
More estrogen here. I'm that het wife MasterM spoke of. I'm here to support my sexy husband's desire/attraction/lust for the male body. We try to consider ourselves poly but to me that seems to fit more along the lines of having a secondary partner in addition to a primary or with any luck having a triad relationship. We haven't had great luck finding that guy we can both fall in love with but we don't give up. Our eyes and hearts are always open.
While we are a ways from I5 as mentioned before, we also have a lot to make our area worth the extra time of travel. We live right on the coast where we have some gorgeous oceanscapes. There are rivers and more rivers in our County. We have gorgeous little sleepy towns nearby, a huge art and music community along with one of the most amazing sex positive communities/tribes that you will ever encounter. -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 6:52 PMroad trip !!! ;-)
hugs, h.
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 8:39 PMWe live right on the coast where we have some gorgeous oceanscapes. There are rivers and more rivers in our County. We have gorgeous little sleepy towns nearby, a huge art and music community
Sounds like a great area. I haven't lived in the CA and the Bay Area very long and have yet to explore the northern areas of the state. My in-state travel has been all to the South. Guess I'll have to hit the road this spring & summer.
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 10:32 PMJohn:
Thank you for the very nice comments. Queen B and I met and married while in college. She has always been very friendly and accepting of all people, although the kind of "playing" we do now started much much later. If you make it to the next Primal come on over and introduce yourself. May we can change that "haven't quite played together."
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Mon, February 16, 2009 - 12:06 AMnext Primal come on over and introduce yourself
Will do. Pretty sure you'll recognize me -- bald middle-age guy with silky black shorts with red hearts. Got to play a little with one of the women in your group -- "L" -- who shared my enjoyment of mutual nipple play. I rested next to you in the open area when "L" skillfully used a certain item from her toybag for your receptive pleasure! I'll have to send her an e-mail to see if she is planning to attend this time.
John
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 9:11 AMJust for the record, I hate, hate, hate, hate, HATE posting introductions. But since Harold so eloquently pointed out the absence of bio estrogen in this thread, I thought I'd stick my antisocial ass and head in for a moment.
I'm Sunshine. I'm poly, lightly bi, and in a primary relationship with a bi-guy. We're mainly looking for guys, unless some hot bi-girl happens to fall in love with us and want to bear our children, in which case I'll be breathing free to get off the hook for that one. On the flip side, I'm way more interested in trying strap-on play with girls than guys, which I've been thinking about a lot lately, so I suppose we're open to all comers. It's also mainly me looking, since I seem to have the primary sex drive in this relationship.
I'm paranoid about strangers and shy about sex so even though I kind of want to hook up and hit the polyfuckery scene, I'm afraid it's not really in me - unless I have a few drinks or other substances already in me, and those days are pretty much long past, with the notable exception of consistent amounts of medicinal cannabis.
I'm still having issues getting past my desire to genuinely respect and like my potential fuck partners and I've come to suspect that I'm way too picky. Brains are my biggest fetish, and I tend to have the best luck meeting people through friends or random playa moments.
I'm also kinky, but I'm still not sure to what degree, or in what role, or how important that really is in my additional relationships.
I'm also gonna steal part of Rig Daddy's list now since so many of them fit so nicely:
alpha-bitch
adoring bottom
hot-wife
sensation slut
forceful writer
shy in person
oversexed
exhibitionist
autistic
burner
hippie
geek
rebel
iconoclast
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 10:45 AMHi Sunshine,
Thanks for adding the Goddess side and please the Goddess, let's hope more will follow your lead.
>>> unless some hot bi-girl happens to fall in love with us and want to bear our children, in which case I'll be breathing free to get off the hook for that one. <<<
You had me rolling on the floor with that one! (Though I really shouldn't because lots of folk actually take that less traveled road! )
>>> desire to genuinely respect and like my potential fuck partners <<<
Nothing wrong with needing a connection to sex partners! (unless you're into anonymous sex ---uummm, now who do I know that likes anonymous sex???-- ME! )
Seriously, for loads of folk the brain needs to be fully engaged to get sex on.
>>> playa moments. <<< AAAhhh, uumm, . Yes I know those moments! (Did I say something about anonymous sex?)
>>>and last but not least, my favorite: I'm not gay but my boyfriend is. <<<
That phase has a long history. I first saw it on a T-shirt worn by a very hot bottom. Her TOP was a gay man. They didn't do "sex" in that he never "inserted" but she certainly had lots of orgasms. A few years later, I screwed up the names "Julia Roberts and Julie Andrews" and dear gay friend turned and said "You may play with gay men but you are not gay". My GF liked hearing that since she has weird history of someone (her husband at the time) she thought was straight actually being gay. Then a year and a half ago I fell in love with a gay man who is now my bf/lover/partner/shaman/witch. I'm not gay, I'm bi and have been as long as I've been sexual, but yes. I have a boyfriend and yes, he is gay.
The same bottom that first wore the T-shirt has another saying that I have adopted.
I'm a slut, but I'm an ethical one. I only play with people who say "yes"
WOW, a WHOLE lot said in that little phrase.
Hugs,
Rig Daddy
PS, Sunshine, you and I have either met, played in the same space or been to other poly/sm places at the same time. I recognize you from somewhere. -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 1:22 PMIt's likely we've crossed paths at the Citadel or something. I can often be spotted near the ceiling, which is where I'm usually hanging out in ropes when I'm not standing by the snack table looking awkward and feeding my face.
Come on up and introduce yourself next time you see me (and the next time, and maybe even the time after that!) I'm literally face-blind, so it tends to take a little bit longer for me to figure out who folks are. I do better with really tall people, and folks with a lot of piercings, tattoos, and/or distinctive hairstyle - which goes a long way towards explaining my attraction to bright flashy people in general.
One of these days I need to make a shirt that says "I'm really not rude, I just don't recognize you". My partner is the same way. It makes socializing interesting, to say the least. Just last night I was talking to someone I thought I'd met before but then she gave me a different name than either of two I knew her by so now I have no idea who she was or if she's on my tribe friends list or not, but I'm thinking not. -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 6:40 PM"... i just dont recognize you..." rofl !!!
yup - i am _completely_ that way... i was having lunch with two of my BESTest friends just yesterday (on vday) at a table-of-four. ie there was only ONE other person there - the restaurant (it was noon) was basically empty - and i could not, for the life of me, remember the name of the 'new dude' that i was sitting next to !!!
we introed once... i stumbled and asked his name a second time... (then 15 mins later - i asked a THIRD time) i thought i had it set... we left the restaurant and hugged gbye - and i said 'cya xxxx' . when i got to the car, we were chatting about stuff and i was like 'who are you talking about?' i had imprinted the wrong name on the dude. thankfully - he had been gracious and just nodded-in-acceptance of my flubs. otoh, i kinda WISH that he had just set-me-straight.... lol
while it is indeed embarrassing, i dont think ive ever realistically projected 'being rude' as one of my forgetful traits. however, online - i seem to project something completely different - sunshine knows - from another tribe weve met in... lol.
also - thanx SO much for adding a bit of estrogen to the party... ;-)
atm - i think _I_ would be the guy, standing NEXT to the person, wearing the 'i am not gay, but my boyfriend is' tshirt. lol. -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 7:05 PMI'm kind of bad with names, too - although I do great with screen names, to the point where it's damn near impossible for me to call someone I've met online by their legal name once I've come to think of them by their handle.
I wasn't referring to forgetting names, though - my issue is that I can't process or remember human FACES, including my own and those of my parents. I wouldn't be able to pick my own family members out of a lineup without contextual clues and my boyfriend once walked right by me several times at a party without recognizing me (and he doesn't drink). It's called prosopagnosia and is actually a very poorly understood neurological condition that many people don't even realize they have. I just thought my brain was broken or that I was nuts, until I met my partner and he told me there was a word for it. -
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 7:56 PMfascinating... ive learned something new-for-me, but old-in-general, today... thanx ! wellp, i guess its a good thing my name really is harold then... heehee. :-)
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Sun, February 15, 2009 - 8:35 PMI can't process or remember human FACES
That's interesting. I think I have a bit of that too. Very good memory. Can remember details from the distant past. Don't have to write "to do" lists. But I've had some awkward moments with the face thing -- maybe not as severe as what you describe, but mildly annoying.
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Mon, February 23, 2009 - 12:59 PMHey there,
I'm Paul. I live in LA but travel often to Del Mar, which is just north of San Diego. I'm 49, in a sexless-marriage (long story), and drafting the blueprints for the next chapter of my life as soon as my son turns 18. Going to the burn is my yearly pilgrimage home.
I'm straight but feverishly bi-curious (oral). Feverishly. I love to give long fullbody massages. That is my favorite thing to do. I'm a software developer who lives in my head all day so giving a massage is an analog treat.
So yeah, i'm looking for a m/f couple to befriend. From their perspective - this is my fantasy, of course - they get to have this easy-going and tender guy drop in from time-to-time for long, loving massages. I like to work slow, trance-like, with chilly atmosopheric music and candles. full body, so as not to give out-of-proportion time to the sex joints. (I just made up that term "sex joints". kinda like it even though it's anatomically challenged).
When I'm at the Burn I give alot of massages. 2 years ago i hung out at Hedonic Sensual Massages and gave about 20 massages. That was a blast. Didn't make it to the burn last year.
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Mon, February 23, 2009 - 2:00 PMWelcome Paul, I missed the Burn last year too.
Hugs,
RD
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Sat, July 11, 2009 - 9:50 AM
Who are you?
Steve, bisexual male with especially attentive interest to mtf individuals. I love women of all types, but enjoy the mix of other males or mtfs in the room with us. BDSM intersts, but not in a 24/7 sense. I consider myself versatile, with a strong submissive side.
Are you looking for BiGuy, BiGirl or Both?
I'd love to find both; if a paired couple even better. One can never have too many friends of a platonic or non-platonic variety.
Where are you? Any other places you travel too?
Los Angeles/Santa Barbara (Principle), Central CA, San Francisco, Hawaii, Asia
Partnered? Poly?
Total slut, but one who plays safe; amicably divorced from a woman I still consider a dear friend and lover (yes its a bit complicated, but it was hell while we were married). Poly with several gfs (Japan, China, and Canada). I've spent the last few years overseas but now find myself back home. Now looking actively for a bf and gf.
The "words" that best describe me:
SLUT
Submissive
leather worshipper
techno
versatile - bottom
independent
outgoing
kinky
friend
