Yeah, I've pretty much given up on being "out" in San Francisco. I continue to live two lives, and I've just gotten used to it. It feels normal to me now.

One thing I do differently though, as I have aged, is that I no longer try to hide my bisexuality from women I meet. What this means is that, in my experience, the women are intrigued, then they move on and that is the end of it. We are simply friends going forward, and no sexual relationship develops. I don't go out of my way to be repulsive or shocking about it, I'm very matter-of-fact, but it does not seem to matter. I meet reasonably attractive, single women all the time and they express interest until they find out I'm bisexual, then they vanish.

I've given up trying to figure it out and I suppose it's very possible that my days as a truly "practicing" bisexual are over. Just wondering of other older bisexual guys have had the same experience..? I still think of myself as physically attractive, charming, and interesting, but women seem to feel differently - AFTER they find out I'm bi. Does not seem to have anything to do with my age (46), as I once suspected when someone told me "San Francisco is a city for young sinlges with money".

I feel like a leper sometimes. I suppose the situation might be different if I had a million tattoos, liked to beat people with leather whips, or had a three-pound steel ring hanging out of my nose, but I'm just not into that stuff, having tried it when I was younger and no longer finding it interesting.

I love sexy women, handsome rugged men, intelligent conversation, sensuality, openness, and sex. Apparently that's out of fashion in San Francisco? Not sure, but that's how it feels more and more.

Friends have advised me to begin meeting women from outside the U.S, which is starting later this year when I travel overseas, so we'll see.

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