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I hate small talk, it seems such a shallow and longtrack for getting to know someone....I'd much rather go for the meat. It's more informitive. but i'm expected to banter some kinda other crap around (i can be very nice really) just more personal then expected. It is percieved as innaproprieate by aquaintances...and aquaintances they always stay...unless they see past it, or enjoy it.mostly they prefer the conduct code I abhor....nope!...next!
Also I look fine, i can walk miles, i can dance frequently, bike well....but using my arms...NO. they move gracefully but aren't good for much but decoration. most tasks are dond by hand...not foot....people think it's lazy, or it comes up in ways that make it appear so. I want to participate in all kindsa wonderful art and play but say no thanks. words i immagine in my mind; lazy, uncreative, unhelpful, useless...i think sometimes people really do think it...i try not to think it myself.
I hate small talk, it seems such a shallow and longtrack for getting to know someone....I'd much rather go for the meat. It's more informitive. but i'm expected to banter some kinda other crap around (i can be very nice really) just more personal then expected. It is percieved as innaproprieate by aquaintances...and aquaintances they always stay...unless they see past it, or enjoy it.mostly they prefer the conduct code I abhor....nope!...next!
Also I look fine, i can walk miles, i can dance frequently, bike well....but using my arms...NO. they move gracefully but aren't good for much but decoration. most tasks are dond by hand...not foot....people think it's lazy, or it comes up in ways that make it appear so. I want to participate in all kindsa wonderful art and play but say no thanks. words i immagine in my mind; lazy, uncreative, unhelpful, useless...i think sometimes people really do think it...i try not to think it myself.
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Re: How do other peoples biocentrcities, upset you?
Sun, December 31, 2006 - 2:24 PMSmall talk bugs me too. I just can't seem to get the hang of it. More, if I try to have "real" conversations and everyone in a particular venue fends off interesting questions, then I feel like I'm being cut out, or excluded from the social group, and exclusion is a pretty big button of mine. I can't see small talk as interesting in and of itself. It's not a means of getting to know anyone, since everyone doing it is simply manufacturing some plastic personna in order to participate. If I can't see a reason for it, ie, somewhere or something that I'm trying to develop, then the whole thing just seems pointless, depressing, and no-win to me.
I also have huge buttons around gender issues, gender stereotyping, (and secondarily orientation issues), etc. I don't fit and I resent people who think that I "should" for some reason.
I'm occasionally infuriated by people pushing minority politics who think that I, by virtue of being an educated caucasion male, am necessarily part of the oppressing and/or priviledged class and therefor incapable of understanding disaffection.
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Re: How do other peoples biocentrcities, upset you?
Mon, January 1, 2007 - 8:22 PMI was upset yesterday by a group of perfect strangers feeling free to comment on my small stature, implying that I am somehow unhealthy, damaged, unworthy, inferior. I asked them if they wanted to see my x-rays which were in the car and described my radical back surgery and they shut up. This is why I generally stay home and keep to myself. People are so unbelieveably stupid and exclusive and thoughtless.
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Re: How do other peoples biocentrcities, upset you?
Tue, January 2, 2007 - 4:16 AMLazy, incompetent... those things I feel all the time. It's my legs that don't work, but I still look fine. To boot, I'm only 26 and am often thought to be a bit younger. I've seriously gotten the reaction: "But, you're too young to be hurt like this." Stupid people.
I HATE having to explain myself and my disability in order to get any kind of respect and fairness, but also HATE being respected and treated fairly only because of my disability.
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Re: How do other peoples biocentrcities, upset you?
Fri, January 5, 2007 - 12:23 PMYes...
"But, you're too young to be hurt like this."
That seems so dismissive, as if you don't have permision to be compramised before you look injurred, or elderly...or prefferably both, to fit the steriotype
Mostly I don't explain, because it sounds like an excuse.
I come from a no bull, roll up sleeves and get busy background
So it even sounds lame to me when I need to explain...again
I am trying to address that
acceptance
I was on my way to being an acrobat, dancer and artist...and it just went "poof", not cuz of any 'shoulda, woulda, coulda' pop psyche failure...things really do go terribly wrong...denial doesn't change that.
So, I'm trying to learn as the saying goes from my obsticle...'it didn't kill me' so I'm lookin' for that proverbial streangth I'm s'posed to get, like the prize in the crackerjax box....only I just got a cheapo sticker that says 'having fun, wish you were here'
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Re: How do other peoples biocentrcities, upset you?
Fri, January 5, 2007 - 7:11 PMIt is perhaps a sad fact of life that disabilities, serious illnesses, death occur at any and every stage of life, from in the womb and barely out through all of childhood, early adulthood, and so on. Any who don't acknowledge this are in a severe state of denial which does not instill confidence in their abilities of discernment.
It is a further perhaps sad fact of life that most people have to deal with some kind of hardship/disability/tragedy/severe misfortune at some time in their life. Better than going for disdain, denial, or demanding respect or proof of deserving of respect is that universal response to the pain of ourselves and our fellows: compassion.
In the immortal words of The Beatles:
"I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together."
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I've seriously gotten the reaction: "But, you're too young to be hurt like this." Stupid people.
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