oh, that's a good question, thank you... but the answer is pretty much - sexual atraction.. :o)))

i seem to be attracting easily the best in men character wise, even the character of my ex-husband has "changed" since i have learned a thing or two aobut attracting what i want... and letting go of what i don't... and seeing people as a reflecition of me... ;o)

i have now a 'thing' that i can't seem to be attracted strongly enough to someone sexually... or not long enough...
and i want to be attracted to someone in that way for a long time... not into casual things.. nor breaking hearts... (advice needed!!)

btw, please look up the song (this live version from jools, holand - slower and better than on the recording from the album, easily found on youtube) - it's really one of the most sensual songs i've ever heard... don't know your taste in music but this one seems to tresspass the tastes' boundaries... :o)

so, josh homme is aobut
-someone i could be chemically be attracted for a long time... tall, great movements, lips, hands, wicked smile and a voice i could bathe in...
-about someone who follows his dreams passionately, someone with a vision... and the vision is interesting to me...
-someone who cares aobut his family and close circle of friends, loyal and present - even when he's not there in person... trustworthy...
-someone with the strong roots yet strongly uprooted
-someone believing in his processes
-someone who is comfortable to be silent with
-someone i could talk with all the time about particulars when i'm creating a piece
-someone who i'd be interested in listening to when he's into his own processes
-someone who smudges the boundaries between play and work deliberately
-someone who'd knock on my door on midnight to bring me a rose or to show me what he's just written, done, came up with...
-someone who is active and goes wild places with me
-someone who'd have similar spiritual insights but they'd be articulated in totally different way so that we might disagree endlessly about them and gain deeper perspective... that is - someone spiritually illiterate... but living in the now every minute of his day...
-someone wh's hug would just feel right and bring a sense of relief even if it's just for a moment...

thank you for this question, dear aschleigh...

please comment on it if you want to...

love
kaalii

ps. if i may - i find that you would love to find someone deeply caring for you and interested in you very much... focused a lot on your internal life in a positive and supportive way...

i just have a question considering that we are on LOA tribe: asking for someone to be in tune with your feelings (your EGS, emotional guidance system) - what does it mean to you?
in abraham-hicks wording it would be like you two are driving separate cars (your bodies), each with its own tank of fuel (energy)... and he would have to look into your fuel status (your feelings) and tell you when to fill it up, or fill it up for you...?
or is it more like you'd tell him when you need to pull over to take some more gas and he'd agree to pull over with you while you fill up and you go on together... and you'd do the same for him... ? not to f*** off when you need to pull over and then you have to catch up with him...
i sense it's the latter but i'd love to hear how you work it because i understand you are a psychologist...