It's really simple, often times we don't know what we want until the Universe offers us what we don't want. Have you ever said to yourself "oh god not this again"! That's feeling is a perfect example of knowing what you DON'T WANT. If you have repeat patterns going on in your life of things you don't want, then at least you know where your focus has been and as soon as you can say to yourself "aha, I don't want this pattern to repeat ever again" then you have taken the first step towards refocusing onto the things you DO Want. So now your ready fro step two, figuring out exactly what you DO want. Look for the step two thread.